its just hit me !

[Stacey_89]

I have not got long left
Im only 21
i have never been brought up around babies
i have probz changed a couple of nappies in my life
i have never made a bottle before.
i have never been able to comfort a baby and stop them crying.

This all of sudden hit me tonight, and it made me wonder.....
Will i be a good mum ? Will i be able to cope and do things correctly.

I will do my best and will do anything for my little girl, i just hope that people dont watch me with her and expect me to be a professional, cuz i wont :[
I know it will take alot of getting used to and im pretty sure i will get into a routine and relax more as the weeks go on.

Anyone else felt like this ? or did any 1st time mums feel like this ?

 

[MissYorkshire]

Hi!
Dont worry, im 23 and I have never changed a single nappy in my life, never fed a baby or anything!!
of course im a little worried about my lack of experience but we all have to start somewhere .
I guess caring for your baby will just come naturaly and you will learn as you go along
dont worry you will be a great mum!! xxx

 

[GossipGirl]

I know, I'm 23 and I've never been around babies either, I've never ever changed a nappy or anything and I was a bit worried a while ago but now I think whatever, and just take things as they come. I've tried to read as much baby books as possible and take everything in but I'm sure parenting is something that's just 'in you' and when the baby comes then you just know what to do. Or I hope so anyway!

 

[Nathyrra]

Just the fact that you're worrying about being a good mom, makes you a good mom by default!

I also get flashes of pure terror when I think about having a little person who relies on me. I don't even think I'll be able to sleep a wink each night through worrying, even when bub's is sound asleep hehe! x

 

[m4nc3r]

Ive never changed a nappy or made a bottle either.
Let alone tried to hold my temper and stay patient with just about anything.
& to top it off, I'm moving away from my own mum hopefully before bubs is born lol (no reason, we just want our own place)

But I'm confident in a way, its a challenge and I know that my will to create a good environment for little one will take me through it.
I'm determined that LO will have a good life, its not going to be a rich life but I plan on giving him atleast what Ive had in life x

 

[Bexivillian]

Im 22 and have never held a new born baby ever, never changed a nappy, never made a bottle.

Its scary isnt it? I get loads of mini freak outs, i was with my best friend when i unpacked the breast pump and ran around the kitchen freaking out when i couldnt figure out how its supposed to work.

Im just hoping when shes born i'll figure it out, I'm sure you'll be a great mum xxxx

 

[isolabella]

I'm 37 and I feel like this too hun, I've looked babysat my nephews but only when they were 3 months old or older. I think I'm just in a panic now because I'm having a section on Friday!

 

[ladykara]

im 32 and this is my second and i worry about all those things still, its natural to worry. My main worry at the moment is will i cope losing my freedom again, my son is 12 so im going back to nappies and no more lie ins, sleepless nights and extra cleaning... but i know its all worth it but i still worry

you will be a great mum because your worrying already.. xx

 

[cotawalls]

Awwww, youll do fine

 

[Femme.fatale.]

I have just turned 22, every once in a while I have a panic attack, and an horrified that I will somehow fail miserably at this mommy thing. I cried to my husband the other day, horrified that we may have made a huge mistake, that I am not ready for this.

He told me the most comforting thing. He told me "babe there is no doubt in my mind you will be the most amazing mom. Just look at how much love and energy you have put into our baby, and she isn't even here yet. You worring like this, that you won't be a good mom, already makes you a good mom. I have all the faith in the world that my baby couldn't have a better mommy. I love you"

Now I don't worry so much. If he is that confident that I will be okay, I believe him!!

 

[Stacey_89]

Thanks everyone :]
I guess when she comes i will just roll into my own routine and then as the weeks go by i will look back and think " what was i worrying over " well i hope lol

Im currently staying at my parents house with OH till our own place is sorted so that helps aswell :] not that i want my mum doing everything for me,just will be nice for that extra support while shes newborn and i get used to things. I guess the real hard work will happen when we have our own place !

 

[Staceiz19]

i was 16 when i had my first baby
i have no brothers or sisters
never been around babies before that or changed nappies
infact kids kinda scared me at that point haha

and at the end of the day it really does all work out.
You just know what to do and nothing else matters to you.

xx

 

[PrayinForBaby]

I'm 23 (24 this tuesday though lol)

And I have a little brother who was born just before I turned 15, so I changed lots of diapers, gave lots of baths, cuddles, everything you can do for a baby.......and it didn't make a freakin difference at all! It's still so new, especially when its your baby and not someone else's! lol It can be very scary, but little by little you get the hang of it. All you can do is your very best!

 

[SilasLove]

I was fairly familarized with babies before having my son. But my OH was not! He had never even changed a diaper before - so our son was his first diaper change. He did great!

Everything was fairly new to him, and some things for me. But just remember you will get plenty of advice/help from the hospital and your family. You learn quickly, and a lot of it comes rather naturally. You will do great as a mommy!

 

[chelle7]

I am a first timer at 37 and feel the same- I just hope we do ok!

 

[jenmc226]

I had my son when i was 20. I'd never even touched a baby or a child under 2. My son was born premature at 34 weeks and was just 4lbs. I was terrified when they asked if I wanted to hold him! I may have even said no thanks, ha. Anyways, they put a pillow in my lap and had me hold him on the pillow. The nurses talked me through my first ever diaper change - it didn't go well. He shot liquid poo out onto his sleeper. So I undressed and dressed him for the first time, too.

I've got a million idiot-mom stories. But my heart was always in the right place and I think I've done a pretty good job. My son is a healthy, well-behaved, polite and kind 4-year old (5 in Nov).

Frankly, if I can do it anyone can do it.

 

[Audball2108]

Don't worry hun, I have those same worries. I'm only 16 and I think I've only changed 4 diapers in my life...it's a learning process, and I bet when we have our babies our motherly instincts will kick in and we'll be Super Mommies!

 

[mrsstreet0417]

I was the same way and as soon as I had her the Mommy thing just kicked in..

 

[debsbaby]

You will do just fine! Some advice I was given when I became a first time mom was to speak up when I needed help and don't feel like I have to do everything myself. I wish I had listened to that better. Ask if you have questions, and learn as you go. If a dog can mother her puppies so well without any instructions, surely us people can do as well!

 

[Eskimobabys]

Me! im 20 and a bit freaked about being a mommie i mean i've handle babies before, changes diapers, made bottles but i've never Breast Feed(obviously since this is my 1st baby) i've never had to deal with a baby 24/7 its the fact that This is gonna be MY baby not my cuzns or friends i cant hand her off when shes cranky im totally responsible for this whole other life i cant keep up with my Socks! how am i gonna keep up with her?! Oh no My poor child will be that random baby in the super market with a missing sock!