"It's just your hormones.."

[MommaAlexis]

Ever since I've found out I was pregnant, FOB/OH has been saying this. He freaks out at me, says all this horrible stuff about me, then says I overreacted because I'm hormonal! I'm not even that hormonal! and when I can't tell why I'm even angry I SAY that. I'm getting so fed up with hearing this. How do I get him to see it isn't ME the hormonal one?!

 

[hope79]

Ever since I've found out I was pregnant, FOB/OH has been saying this. He freaks out at me, says all this horrible stuff about me, then says I overreacted because I'm hormonal! I'm not even that hormonal! and when I can't tell why I'm even angry I SAY that. I'm getting so fed up with hearing this. How do I get him to see it isn't ME the hormonal one?!

Well...we ARE horomonal...but not usually to the point where you can say that at every emotion we exude. Pick up a book of what to expect when you're expecting...or pull some information online. Most hurtful things OH's may say are becausr they are seriously misinformed. I don't have that problem with DH, bt this is our 3rd child and def not our 1st rodeo, so not many surprises. GL to you honey, and we're all here for you. Thank goodness for baby and bump when no one else understands!!

 

[MommaAlexis]

I have the book, and this is his third kid. My first. He just says that it "proves he's right. because he's done this more times then me."

 

[hope79]

I have the book, and this is his third kid. My first. He just says that it "proves he's right. because he's done this more times then me."

That's where he's dead wrong. Not every pregnancy is the same, and he really should have some compassion for you. Your body is going through so many changes and the last thing you need is someone "doubting" what you're feeling or going through.

 

[MommaAlexis]

I really don't even know where to start, it's not like I'm taking what he's saying the wrong way, he's being perfectly clear what he means. he called me stupid today, said "Sure sure, you ALWAYS know what's best for EVERYONE!" then tried to say I'm overreacting, I'm so frustrated. All because I wanted to tell my mom before we tell our friends. And it doesn't matter if I tell him what he said word for word, he says "Preggo brain makes you forgetful. you misheard me." I'm basically getting told I'm totally crazy, and other then recording every conversation, I have no proof.

 

[hope79]

I really don't even know where to start, it's not like I'm taking what he's saying the wrong way, he's being perfectly clear what he means. he called me stupid today, said "Sure sure, you ALWAYS know what's best for EVERYONE!" then tried to say I'm overreacting, I'm so frustrated. All because I wanted to tell my mom before we tell our friends. And it doesn't matter if I tell him what he said word for word, he says "Preggo brain makes you forgetful. you misheard me." I'm basically getting told I'm totally crazy, and other then recording every conversation, I have no proof.

I'm so sorry you're going through that hun...nobody wants to be called stupid. You have every right to tell your mom before your friends. (I would tell her whenever you damn well please). Just try not to stress, we all know that's not good. I really hope that your OH comes around and realizes he needs to be on your side, not against you.

 

[SabrinaKat]

hand him some mock divorce papers and tell him that your homones told you to....

best wishes

ps. I just would read out the relevent chapter of what to expect...., whenever I got the hormones comment and say, 'YES, I AM HORMONAL BECAUSE I AM PREGNANT!'

 

[scotmum35]

say to him im hormonal whats your excuse for being a fking asshole.if he has done it 3 times he should know the score and that aggravating the situation isnt going to solve anything.

 

[Elucida]

That sounds like gaslighting to me and I wouldn't put up with it at all. He needs to know his behaviour is unacceptable, hormones or not!

 

[nicola ttc]

Sounds like he's using you 'hormones' as an excuse to be mean to me!! Yes, we're hormonal but we only react to things we usually would - just perhaps in a more extreme way than usual You wouldn't react if what he was saying was right - pregnant or not.
It's completely up to you when you tell your mum - before friends sounds perfectly reasonable and normal to me, seems he's the one overreacting here!
Hope he starts realising you're on the same team!!

 

[babybelle30]

I've banned my OH from saying anything along the lines of 'you're hormonal/moody/grumpy' etc as it drives me craaazy when men say that to women! It's my one pet hate!

Hope things calm down for you, keep your chin up hun xx