IUI Jan/Feb/March/Apr/May 2012 - Status updates on page one 12 bfp

[Hopeful42nd]

L4hope- I'd definately test in your shoes! After working so hard for a baby you would hate to have drank while pregnant. Otherwise no drinking at all. I think knowing at least then you can be free in one way or the other. Either drown your sorrows in wine or not drink and be ecstatic about it. Just my thoughts, good luck!

Tella- I think the questions you'll get bombarded with will stress you out. Maybe either say 'on a break' or 'another IUI' least till you get the bfp. Then you can fess up to how it was made possible. I agree people are blind to infertility stuff, but it doesn't mean they have a right to all your struggle while it's happening. Good luck with your choice!

 

[wantbabysoon]

Beta just came back negative as suspected so onto IVF it is for us.

Good luck Tella!!

 

[diliapickle]

Tella - sorry about your bfn! Good luck with IVF! FX you see that BFP in may!

 

[wantbabysoon]

Thanks girls, im also very excited about the IVF, i've always had this feeling its gonna take IVF to get my bfp. But now i wonder, some ppl know i did the IUI's but i dont want them to know about the IVF, do you think i must say im doing another IUI or just say im on a Break and when i get a bfp then just keep quite about how. And if someone asks just say it happened? But then i run the risk of hearing "see you should have just relaxed, and it would have happened earlier" speech, and im not good at just listening to it. I find the ignorance some people have when it comes to TTC annoying beyond belief!

I think you can discuss it with people you trust and not everyone. This is a journey where you are bound to be scared, anxious, nervous and you need people around you who are supportive ... I wish you all the luck in the world and fingers crossed for you to hear a BFP in a month's time
When do you start the process?

 

[drsquid]

l4hope- i did that when i was going to napa. tested to be sure i could drink but.. i did have that kinda bummed feeling hanging over me. when i went to belize i decided screw it.. during the tww and for a bit after that baby doesnt share your blood supply so i was gonna go have fun, drink rum punch and come what may. or you could always go somewhere in the middle and just have a sip here and there which is actually considered ok during pregnancy (though ill likely not drink if i finally do get my bfp). ive had a drink or two during this tww because my hopes are realistically rather low despite an enormous number of follicles..

tella- *hugs* im sorry. that was sorta the break point i was at.. ie to i go to ivf, something i never thought id have to do.. but then found out about the crap sperm so.. dont know what my plan is.

afm- day 5 of 8. on hour 40 of 79 (or 82 of 111.5 if you count in last m-w as i had thurs off). ive hit the wall,. forgot to check the menu for the cafeteria at work today.. .again nothign i can eat.. sure the one year i decide to actually care about passover (im not a religious jew, just cultural, im pretty much an atheist (though i consider myself an apathetic, in that i dont bother questioning or denying the existence of a higher being, it just isnt part of my life)). noodle soup, pasta etc. and by dinner the box of matzah i bullied them into finding had disappeared again. i tried to buy some last night but the store was out. just cranky icky yuck today. feeling bloaty again which had pretty much gone away. a bit crampy (though tmi that may be a bowel issue). face is broken out etc. luckily i have the pick of the litter in coworkers this week so that helps but.. just treading water.

 

[hoping23]

Tella... you'll make the decision that's right for you. I only told the people I wanted to know about what we're going through with the infertility and surgeries and IUI, but there's always that one person that you don't want to know that finds out and pries!!!!!

I work with both my parents in an office setting and my mom (God love her) can't keep anything to herself (we thought about not telling her!!!!! but she's my mom)! She told the one person that I don't want in my business... tell this woman is like having it on the local news and she always feels she needs to bring it up even if people are around. It makes me very uncomfortable!

Good luck with your choice! We're all here for you!

 

[Nicker]

Hey everyone!

Tella - I am in shock and I am sad for you. IVF will do the trick!
L4hope - I have to look what day you are on. Do you get a beta? If you are having a beta, I would not drink before ca negative beta. Look at Equal. She had a negative hpt on the day of her positive beta. My personal opinion is that there is no safe limit of alcohol anytime during pregnancy. I know they say that until implantation happens there is no placenta so no blood exchange. I still think alcohol is a chemical and exposure to chemicals causes cell mutations. I would hate for my alcohol consumption to affect to the cell divisions in my blastocyst. I did read one study where they had women poas from cd2. They found higher incidence of chemical pregnancies with alcohol consumption as well as lower pregnancy rates after 6 months for women who consumed alcohol. The same study also found a correlation between male alcohol consumption around conception and issues. I thought that was interesting. I know this study was limited but I firmly believe there is no known safe limit or time to drink in pregnancy. I would rather be safe than take the risk and have a baby that becomes evidence that drinking in the tww can cause harm to a baby. Just my opinion. If anyone wants to slam me for it I don't care. It is an opinion, we are all entitled to one.

AFM I see my re tomorrow at noon.

 

[wantbabysoon]

I agree with Nicker... Prevention is better than cure!

Nicker - good luck for your appointment tomorrow.

 

[Nicker]

L4hope - Saturday is 12dpiui for you. A negative could easily still be a false negative then.

 

[daydream]

Nicker - For the front page, I got my first IC BFP on 10DPIUI, I got my beta yesterday and it was 61. I have another one tomorrow. FX!

I took another IC this morning (I think I'll probably just test out the week) to see the darkening progression. Looks good and is giving me comfort that this is going well

 

[Nicker]

Daydream 10 or 20 miu?

 

[daydream]

Daydream 10 or 20 miu?

I have no clue what these ones are. I don't think they are 10miu though.

 

[L4hope]

Thanks girls, im also very excited about the IVF, i've always had this feeling its gonna take IVF to get my bfp. But now i wonder, some ppl know i did the IUI's but i dont want them to know about the IVF, do you think i must say im doing another IUI or just say im on a Break and when i get a bfp then just keep quite about how. And if someone asks just say it happened? But then i run the risk of hearing "see you should have just relaxed, and it would have happened earlier" speech, and im not good at just listening to it. I find the ignorance some people have when it comes to TTC annoying beyond belief!

Oh I just hate when people say to relax and not think about it!! You'll figure out what your comfortable with, but I do agree that having a few people for support while you're going through this is important. But at the very least you'll have all of the ladies here routing you on!

 

[L4hope]

L4hope - Saturday is 12dpiui for you. A negative could easily still be a false negative then.

Thanks for all the input. Nicker, I think I'm with you on this one. I hate testing early, for some reason it just seems like more disappointment to see the negative and then still have to wait days for the awful physical reminder of AF. Unless of course it would actually be positive. I guess either way, if I test or not, I'll just play it safe for the weekend and just not drink. Not the worst thing in the world, plus someone will have to keep the group in line!

 

[Tella]

Thanks girls, im also very excited about the IVF, i've always had this feeling its gonna take IVF to get my bfp. But now i wonder, some ppl know i did the IUI's but i dont want them to know about the IVF, do you think i must say im doing another IUI or just say im on a Break and when i get a bfp then just keep quite about how. And if someone asks just say it happened? But then i run the risk of hearing "see you should have just relaxed, and it would have happened earlier" speech, and im not good at just listening to it. I find the ignorance some people have when it comes to TTC annoying beyond belief!

I think you can discuss it with people you trust and not everyone. This is a journey where you are bound to be scared, anxious, nervous and you need people around you who are supportive ... I wish you all the luck in the world and fingers crossed for you to hear a BFP in a month's time
When do you start the process?

That is exactly how it is at the moment, only very close ppl know about it, but my SIL that knows I did iui is who I'm worried about. They having financial trouble and therefor I don't want to rub it in their face that I'm doing it and my in laws is all battling so its hard! I don't want to have bad feelings in a months time when I announce my bfp and I have to lie about how. And its doomed to come out some way or another. Or I should just say we told no one except my mom. This is soo hard already, why should we worry about this.

I'm starting on Monday with my cd3 scan and meds if all is clear!

 

[drsquid]

tella- what you do with your money is your business. and how your get your bfp is only the business of the people you want to know. that would suck if they made you feel guilty about persuing your dream. fingers crossed for you.

 

[Nicker]

Thanks girls, im also very excited about the IVF, i've always had this feeling its gonna take IVF to get my bfp. But now i wonder, some ppl know i did the IUI's but i dont want them to know about the IVF, do you think i must say im doing another IUI or just say im on a Break and when i get a bfp then just keep quite about how. And if someone asks just say it happened? But then i run the risk of hearing "see you should have just relaxed, and it would have happened earlier" speech, and im not good at just listening to it. I find the ignorance some people have when it comes to TTC annoying beyond belief!

I think you can discuss it with people you trust and not everyone. This is a journey where you are bound to be scared, anxious, nervous and you need people around you who are supportive ... I wish you all the luck in the world and fingers crossed for you to hear a BFP in a month's time
When do you start the process?

That is exactly how it is at the moment, only very close ppl know about it, but my SIL that knows I did iui is who I'm worried about. They having financial trouble and therefor I don't want to rub it in their face that I'm doing it and my in laws is all battling so its hard! I don't want to have bad feelings in a months time when I announce my bfp and I have to lie about how. And its doomed to come out some way or another. Or I should just say we told no one except my mom. This is soo hard already, why should we worry about this.

I'm starting on Monday with my cd3 scan and meds if all is clear!

You can't control if your SIL is in financial difficulty. Your mom has offered to help you with IVF and that is fabulous! Don't worry about your SIL and do what is best for you. Your problem is that you are like me and care too much about what others think and feel that we put others before us. Right now Tella, it's all about you. You go girl!!

 

[Tella]

Thanks drsquid and nicker, I always have a battle with deciding to put me first and not everyone else. I'm gonna keep just the people close to me informed and then I will tell who I need to if they ask when I announce my bfp

Plus you ladies are the best support beside DH onviously

 

[wantbabysoon]

Thanks drsquid and nicker, I always have a battle with deciding to put me first and not everyone else. I'm gonna keep just the people close to me informed and then I will tell who I need to if they ask when I announce my bfp

Plus you ladies are the best support beside DH onviously

I am also like you... always trying to please everyone but this moment is about you and something you really really want in life! Don't stress and think about others.... get your IVF done with a relaxed mind and we will all be supporting you

 

[Nicker]

You are an amazing support Tella. You have helped me immensely.

I am looking forward to talking to the doctor tomorrow. I hope he feels like CoQ10 and Dhea may have some benefit or is at least willing to try. I don't know if either one will help but I don't believe they can hurt. I hope he agrees.

I have spent the last couple of days doing some serious number crunching. I will be sitting out one more cycle for sure maybe 2. After that I will do 1 more IUI maybe 2 before putting everything on hold. If I do one or two more or if I wait one or two cycles all depends on what kind of cycles I have. When I was young I was 28 days like clockwork. Before starting with all the meds the trend was 24 or 25 day cycles. With the IUIs my cycles depended on when the IUI was. I always start spotting after 3 missed doses of progesterone with full flow the following day. June 29 is when my last IUI cycle could start. After that I have to wait until November.

I also did some number crunching to see if I could swing an IVF and I just can't. It would take too long to save up enough for both the IVF as well as enough for baby and I to live off of during maternity leave.