jrac
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So... I need advice ladies!
Back story: I did IVF for my little girl. I have no troubles conceiving, but, my husband has problems and only 1% shot we can ever do it on our own. But, thankfully our 1 and only egg took, and we only needed 1 round!! YaY!
The meds made me a bit sick, I had lots of morning sickness, and I just couldn't see affording two in diapers and daycare, so for a while we decided she was going to be it. But... Now shes almost 5. Shes potty trained, we have bought a house, shes going to be done daycare soon and into free public school... And so now we are going to be doing IVF again and giving her a sibling. Its low-cost for us because MA insurance covers IVF. We spent about $700 total last time, including all the meds and DR Visits.... I can put that on my FSA.
Well.. Here is the other part of the problem: I know I only want 1 more. We had no frozen embryos last time, so we need to do a whole new round. If we get extra embryos this time, I would likely donate them.
My sister (2 years older) lives in Florida, which does not offer coverage for IVF. Although her eggs are fine, her uterus does not work right - she cant carry. IVF is expensive for her, and likely wouldn't even work... just cost her tens of thousands for nothing... I offered to surrogate, but that's pricey too because it wouldn't go to my insurance in MA, but hers in Florida... So, at this point she has resigned to adoption...
The Question: If I am donating my eggs anyhow, she wants to adopt, and I was already willing to be a surrogate... After I have my 2nd, could I go back in and have any potential frozen embryos implanted and then do a kinship adoption to my sister? That way it still shares some DNA, and hopefully looks a bit like her (my sister and I are often mistaken for twins, and my first daughter looks JUST like me)… and maybe it would cost less and be less time consuming and potentially painful for my sister?
Back story: I did IVF for my little girl. I have no troubles conceiving, but, my husband has problems and only 1% shot we can ever do it on our own. But, thankfully our 1 and only egg took, and we only needed 1 round!! YaY!
The meds made me a bit sick, I had lots of morning sickness, and I just couldn't see affording two in diapers and daycare, so for a while we decided she was going to be it. But... Now shes almost 5. Shes potty trained, we have bought a house, shes going to be done daycare soon and into free public school... And so now we are going to be doing IVF again and giving her a sibling. Its low-cost for us because MA insurance covers IVF. We spent about $700 total last time, including all the meds and DR Visits.... I can put that on my FSA.
Well.. Here is the other part of the problem: I know I only want 1 more. We had no frozen embryos last time, so we need to do a whole new round. If we get extra embryos this time, I would likely donate them.
My sister (2 years older) lives in Florida, which does not offer coverage for IVF. Although her eggs are fine, her uterus does not work right - she cant carry. IVF is expensive for her, and likely wouldn't even work... just cost her tens of thousands for nothing... I offered to surrogate, but that's pricey too because it wouldn't go to my insurance in MA, but hers in Florida... So, at this point she has resigned to adoption...
The Question: If I am donating my eggs anyhow, she wants to adopt, and I was already willing to be a surrogate... After I have my 2nd, could I go back in and have any potential frozen embryos implanted and then do a kinship adoption to my sister? That way it still shares some DNA, and hopefully looks a bit like her (my sister and I are often mistaken for twins, and my first daughter looks JUST like me)… and maybe it would cost less and be less time consuming and potentially painful for my sister?