My best friend has a girl, she is a few weeks older than my DS3. I was ok at the time, we talked about if I had a girl they could be besties, then I found out I was having a boy. We joked that one day they would get married. I stood in the girl section buying her pink gifts, dreaming that one day I'd buy them for myself, because even with a 3rd boy on the way I believed it was possible. Next time, it would happen. I wasn't disappointed. It was afterwards, when we were TTC number 4 that I started hoping for a girl. And we'd go shopping together and where we used to just look at boys stuff for me, we were now wandering the girl stuff every time too. Talking about the new things her daughter was doing and interesting in, wanting to have her nails painted and pretty clips in her hair. That was when it became difficult.
I've since had DS4 and experienced gender disappointment for the first time. She is now pregnant with number 2, and she hasn't found out the gender. She is due in June and hoping for a boy.
I have mixed feelings, all of which are selfishly based. I hope she gets a boy, because I love her and want her to be happy. But I also can not deal with all the pink again! Standing buying pink knowing its not for me. At the same time, if she does have a boy, she'll have her perfect pair, she'll have got the gender she wanted, and why should it be her and not me??!! Which is unfair of me.