First of sorry for boring everyone with this but I really need to rant somewhere.
Why is it everyone expects you to feel great when your pregnant. My OH is driving me crazy with expecting me to do everything because he's just started work. Up until July I was at college 4 days a week and working 25+ hours a week then until early september I was working 35+ hours a week. Decided to quit my job because of the stress and health issues as my partner had just got a good paying job and it was actually cheaper for me to stay at home and take care of my 8yo son than pay for the childcare. (regret it now as it's apprently impossible to get a job when your pregnant) but my partner lost his job after about 2 weeks. During that whole time i worked and he didn't I still done all the housework/cooking/etc while he sat around doing nothing. Now that he's started working again he gets so annoyed if i expect him to do anything. Like last night he wantwed toast and beans when he got in from work, I made him the toast , put the beans in the microwave , after I buttered the toast I told him that his toast was ready , he looked at me and said umm.. I'm kinda missing the beans on it. I told him they were ready in the microwave and he moved from in front of the microwave so I could go get them for him... why can he not just lift them out himself since he was right next to it-__- He also complains all the time about housework like whatever top isn't washed for him , he has like 500 tshirts but he wants the one that is laying crumpled under the bed because he never put it in the washing basket or why didn't I make whatever it was he wanted for dinner that takes about 3 hours of prep and cooking time while i'm busy being sick, feeling horrible and looking after 3 kids. I feel so tired all the time atm and I'm having alot of pain problems , surely it's not asking that much for a little help around the house.
And talking about pain problems I suffer from bad athritis in my small joints , mostly my hands but doc wont give me and my medication for it since I'm pregnant and there is apprently nothing safe. I've been having severe back pains lately (not just the normal pregnancy ache, I get a burning pain between my shoulders that lasts for a few hours at a time , my whole back locks up and I can barely move and in tears from the pain. Spoke to the midwife about it at my 20 week scan and she said "thats strange but I'm not here to deal with it you'll need to speak to a midwife from your team. Phoned my midwife to make an appointment and she said there is no point as it's just normal durning pregnancy and if i felt it was bad enough to see my doctor. Made an appointment with my doctor and got told (without even being examined) "oh it's normal durning pregnancy and you shouldn't take paracetomol anymore cause they have found out last week that it's bad for the baby" I never had this pain in my last pregnancy and i'm fed up with everyone saying things like oh it's just normal, no one else complains about it though.
I babysit my 2yo nephew and my 4yo sister pretty much everyday aswell as my own son and I just dont have the energy for anything and when I do i'm in so much pain I can barely move and I've just about had enough
Why is it everyone expects you to feel great when your pregnant. My OH is driving me crazy with expecting me to do everything because he's just started work. Up until July I was at college 4 days a week and working 25+ hours a week then until early september I was working 35+ hours a week. Decided to quit my job because of the stress and health issues as my partner had just got a good paying job and it was actually cheaper for me to stay at home and take care of my 8yo son than pay for the childcare. (regret it now as it's apprently impossible to get a job when your pregnant) but my partner lost his job after about 2 weeks. During that whole time i worked and he didn't I still done all the housework/cooking/etc while he sat around doing nothing. Now that he's started working again he gets so annoyed if i expect him to do anything. Like last night he wantwed toast and beans when he got in from work, I made him the toast , put the beans in the microwave , after I buttered the toast I told him that his toast was ready , he looked at me and said umm.. I'm kinda missing the beans on it. I told him they were ready in the microwave and he moved from in front of the microwave so I could go get them for him... why can he not just lift them out himself since he was right next to it-__- He also complains all the time about housework like whatever top isn't washed for him , he has like 500 tshirts but he wants the one that is laying crumpled under the bed because he never put it in the washing basket or why didn't I make whatever it was he wanted for dinner that takes about 3 hours of prep and cooking time while i'm busy being sick, feeling horrible and looking after 3 kids. I feel so tired all the time atm and I'm having alot of pain problems , surely it's not asking that much for a little help around the house.
And talking about pain problems I suffer from bad athritis in my small joints , mostly my hands but doc wont give me and my medication for it since I'm pregnant and there is apprently nothing safe. I've been having severe back pains lately (not just the normal pregnancy ache, I get a burning pain between my shoulders that lasts for a few hours at a time , my whole back locks up and I can barely move and in tears from the pain. Spoke to the midwife about it at my 20 week scan and she said "thats strange but I'm not here to deal with it you'll need to speak to a midwife from your team. Phoned my midwife to make an appointment and she said there is no point as it's just normal durning pregnancy and if i felt it was bad enough to see my doctor. Made an appointment with my doctor and got told (without even being examined) "oh it's normal durning pregnancy and you shouldn't take paracetomol anymore cause they have found out last week that it's bad for the baby" I never had this pain in my last pregnancy and i'm fed up with everyone saying things like oh it's just normal, no one else complains about it though.
I babysit my 2yo nephew and my 4yo sister pretty much everyday aswell as my own son and I just dont have the energy for anything and when I do i'm in so much pain I can barely move and I've just about had enough
