I think some people need think more before they speak sometimes, just for a second, before they utter whats on their mind. If they looked at fertility and all its issues as a definate medical condition rather than something thats a given like paint WILL dry it might cause people alot less frustration and heartache. If we had a massive brain tumour (god forbid anyone will/does/ever!!!) would they still be saying your trying too hard to get rid of it? Let it be its god's will? When the time is right it will go away?! Im thinking no!!! I like the saying "Walk a mile in someone elses shoes". Although Im not in the same boat as a lot of you lovley ladies, I feel like Im a bit selfish being here already blessed with two, just being greedy going back for a third, I can still empathise with you all and my heart breaks with every bloody bfn I see flashing. You just have to believe the time is right, and it will happen, and God gave you the ability to think and reason so why not use it to your advantage! You need a detailed plan to build a house, I see no difference when it comes to building such an important thing as another human being!