just some1 to speak to

[Xrachybabex]

well some of you may know the situation with me and fob he's Asian he has not spoken to his family for few month now as they didn't want anything do with me or our son Logan so he bin staying mine . and out off the blue his sister and sister unlaw turn up saying juniors dad wants to talk about things after a year of not wanting to see us and guess what they bring me some Asian clothes to put on to go down see his dad I was like what the fuck:0 his sister was asking me if I will marry him I didn't say anything because I don't not yet anyway I'm only 19 I said no about going down to his dad they have had a year to sort this and because I said no they turned all horrible and made junior go with he came back up a few hours later saying I embarrest him now he saying he's sleeping somewhere else a few week to think now I just can't stop crying don't what do I had to get this out x

 

[Strawberrymum]

Pm me anytime. Asain people are usually a lot more set in their ways. You did nothing wrong. They shouldnt be so set in tradition it just ends up ruining there relationship with there son and grandchild

 

[Cassie_x]

I'm just a PM away hun, it's unfair that he turns up a year after not seeing you & asks for your hand in marriage. That must be very pressurising, hope you're OK x

 

[AirForceWife7]

I'm sorry It's their loss for not wanting anything to do with your son & FOB .. now all of a sudden they do? It's not really fair to your OH & your son that they feel they can come in & out of their lives whenever they please.

 

[Burchy314]

I'm just a PM away hun, it's unfair that he turns up a year after not seeing you & asks for your hand in marriage. That must be very pressurising, hope you're OK x

Her FOB didn't show up it was her FOBs sisters asking her if she would marry their brother and asking her to visit FOBs father who hasnt been in the Childs life. Her FOB has been living with her, but was upset that she refused to meet with FOBs father after a year of him not trying to see LO. Or at least thats what I got from it, correct me if I am wrong.

I am sorry he is upset about it. It must be hard on him, he probably doesnt know how to react like he feels like he has to choose between his parents and you. He was probably really excited that his Dad wanted to talk, but was upset that you wouldn't go with him. Hopefully he realizes your side of the view where you feel upset that it took them a year just to want to be involved. I hope things work out for you

 

[Thaynes]

I'm sorry. I hope everything turns out okay. Pm me if you ever want to talk.

 

[lauram_92]

Hope things work out.

 

[bbyno1]

Im sorry
Are they trying to convert you maybe? Not jumping to conclusions,just i know a lot of Asians who don't mind their sons with a girl if shes converted,but don't like it if they arnt

 

[Rhio92]

 

[jay92]

 

[Xrachybabex]

yeah I think that's what there trying do I don't want convert I'm me and not changing for anyone x

 

[lb]

My family on my dad's side is asian, so I know how it is for a family to take foreverrr to turn around. Asians are very set in their ways, having a baby out of wedlock is dishonorable. It took my dad forever to turn around and support me, and I know he wants me to get married to a respectable man and have a cohesive family. But the one thing he's always told me, no matter how much I disappoint him, I'm always a part of his family and nothing will ever change that. I also dated a Chinese guy a couple years ago, and I remember his family was very gung-ho about us getting married, even after I'd just known him a couple weeks Asians get very excited about that.
Your FOB's dad probably just took forever to be able to come around. I mean, his son will always be his son, and wants you guys to have a "respectable family". To a lot of asians, that means marrying and making a good living. Can I ask what part of Asia they're from?