Keep hearing awful stories!

[Preggalicious]

Today, ANOTHER person told me about a lady she knows giving birth to a still born at 35 weeks. (Not recently, it's been a couple of years, but still.) This is the 2nd person in a week that has mentioned the horrible things that can happen at the very end of pregnancies, resulting in a stillbirth. As someone who has suffered three miscarriages and justs wants to get through this pregnancy with a healthy baby, it kills me to hear these things - it gives me horrible anxiety. Please tell me this stuff happening at 32 weeks and later is rare?

 

[sunshine20]

I keep getting horror stores from OHs dads girlfriend. They aren't even HER stories but someone who knew someone she knew or she heard about or something

 

[Preggalicious]

That's exactly what these are!! Not people they actually "knew" but people they heard of or acquaintances. :/ I just hate hearing them. I mean, really?! Why would you tell an obviously pregnant woman such terrible outcomes of pregnancy when she is still pregnant herself??

 

[KahluaCupcake]

I hate hearing them too. they can really shake you up.

The other day I bought a few things for Jakey, and the cashier asked me how far I am, etc. Then she felt the need to tell me, "be careful! I bought so many things, then lost my baby at 5 1/2 months."
I sympathized with her, told her I understood and was sorry, etc..but inside I was thinking WHAT THE HECK!!! What an awful thing to tell someone happily buying things for the baby they are carrying: "be careful, don't get attached, he might die!"
Holy cow. I'm aware things can happen. But at this point, they are rare, which is why the stories persist. If they were common or the norm, nobody would talk about them.

 

[sunshine20]

I know right?! it just irks me. And it's all from people who have NEVER been pregnant. All the ones who have kids are just being nasty and condescending about my choices for labor and delivery and things I want/don't want. I can't win. I need to go find a rock & crawl under it until June!!!

 

[kat2504]

Of course these things are rare. Most pregnancies that make it out of the first trimester result in the birth of a healthy baby. The rate of stillbirths in the UK is about 0.3% so although sadly these things do happen every day, the likelihood of them happening to you is very slim. Also a lot of women have an even lower risk than 0.3% if they are under 40, non smokers, not high risk pregnancy, no medical conditions etc.

I really do not understand why as soon as some people see a pregnant woman they decide to scare her silly with horror stories.

 

[Preggalicious]

YOu would think that having had 3 children already that I would be more relaxed, but it's just the opposite, I think. I am more on edge this pregnany than any of them! I think it's because I now know the things that can go wrong. I guess ignorance really IS bliss sometimes. lol!

 

[Bunnylicious]

I'm worried about suddenly my baby dies because the cord has strangled him/her, after reading such incident here a couple of times here recently.

 

[kat2504]

Again, that is a rare event. We all worry about things going wrong, it's perfectly natural. It's part of being a pregnant woman when you worry about the well being of your baby. But for your own sake, try to keep it in perspective.

 

[babymama86]

Im glad im not the only one who freaks out about these things! Its awful to think about and even harder when people tell u horrible stories!

 

[Pinkie88]

I hear the statistics are low for stillbirths and cord related deaths but I feel like I hear about them happening often and it stresses me out too. I hate it!! My heart goes out to all of the women who have been through any of that.