KIND OF an embarrassing question.. way TMI (seems to be a pattern with me today)...

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  1. Amsan

    Amsan Well-Known Member

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    So I'm actually REALLY embarrassed to ask this question, but I'm even more embarrassed to ask my OB about it... :blush: Soooo here it goes...


    Is rough sex safe during pregnancy? I'm at 21 weeks... I don't mean like, whips, chains, gags, etc... Just, harder...

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  2. agreeksmom

    agreeksmom preggo

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    its fine but if u start hurting or cramping stop
     
  3. Amsan

    Amsan Well-Known Member

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    Thank you :blush:
     
  4. TMonster

    TMonster Well-Known Member

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    You may also bleed afterwards due to an irritated cervix, so don't totally freak out if you do.
     
  5. Amsan

    Amsan Well-Known Member

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    Thank you... Another sort of embarrassing question. Is doggy style ok since normally it allows them to go deeper?
     
  6. Prinny

    Prinny BABY NO.3 DUE OCT 2019

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    Doggy style is ok..again as long as you don't feel uncomfortable, start cramping or anything like that...I actually used to hate this position pre-pregnancy lol but since being pregnant we've enjoyed it very much lool..x
     
  7. Amsan

    Amsan Well-Known Member

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    Everything else is so uncomfortable! But I was too scared to try this lol
     
  8. adopim

    adopim Tentatively expecting #3

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    The rule of thumb I go by is exactly what PP said, if it starts to hurt then stop. :) some days some positions feel better than others and what is most comfortable seems to change all the time for me! :haha:
     
  9. Jenna1985

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    As long as it doesn't hurt you are okay. :) Take it one step at a time and see how you feel. Don't panic if you start spotting a little bit also, it happens and it's just an irritated cervix :)
     
  10. kimmym

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    Right? I cant handle anything on top of my bump.and i feel to big to be on top now.its like the only thing thats comfortable lately.Neeeeed to find something new.>.<
     
  11. Amsan

    Amsan Well-Known Member

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    Exactly! I felt like I was dying on bottom and squishing him on top. Totally not feeling sexy anymore..
     
  12. BubsMom17

    BubsMom17 Officially Expecting #2!

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    Lol... I have no energy to be on top. I don't think huffing and puffing after 3 minutes is sexy... And yet I feel like I am suffocating on the bottom. Side by side or spooning works, but it goes a little slow... Doggy style is great when I want him to finish up already. ;)

    I spot every time I have sex. Just a little. I think it's just one of those annoyances that can be alarming but I have to assure myself it's just from the boo-tay.
     
  13. Amsan

    Amsan Well-Known Member

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    Thanks ladies! :)
     
  14. snowfia

    snowfia Well-Known Member

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    Last pregnancy OH and I were a bit rougher than normal and I had some bleeding through the night after. Not a lot but enough for me to panic haha. But when I rang up she said it was caused by the sex and not to worry as LO was kicking normally and I had no pain. So don't panic too much if there's a bit of blood after :L
     
  15. craftymama

    craftymama Mama of 3!

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    Like the other ladies said, your body will tell you if it's too much. Doing it doggy style is almost always our go to these days lol. I feel like a cow on top! Another position that you could try is lying on your sides spooning, however when we tried it last I felt like he was jamming it into my stomach and it hurt really bad. I had to make him stop. Other pregnancies we were able to do it this way so I'm not sure what's different. Trial and error :) If it hurts, stop. If not, well...you know ;)
     
  16. Amsan

    Amsan Well-Known Member

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    Thanks! I just get so frustrated because I feel gross, I don't feel sexy, nothing feels good, but it had also been forever and I think my drive has always been higher than his anyway, so being pregnant has made it worse lol
     
  17. AliKitts

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    i find doggy uncomfortable now since being pregnant i actually feel more comfortable on my back with my husband on top. doggy makes my belly hurt :/
     
  18. craftymama

    craftymama Mama of 3!

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    I have always had a high sex drive as well. Though this time around i seem to have lost it a lot.. you have to get creative when you're pregnant is all. I'm grateful that my pregnant belly doesn't seem to deter or bother dh. I have a friend whose dh WON'T have sex with her because he has felt the baby kick, and seen her belly move. He feels like he is poking her in the head. We may be pregnant, but we still have needs!
     
  19. Amsan

    Amsan Well-Known Member

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    Yep. He didn't want to have sex with me because he thought he was going to poke our son!
     
  20. craftymama

    craftymama Mama of 3!

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    I think it is super funny when guys get all worried about that lol. And kinda cute. My friend is working on getting her labor going, she is passed her due date and partially dilated, and I told her to go back to how it started. She said "I tried! He won't do it! And he told me the best he could do is put "it" in a cup for me to do with as I please!" Hahahahaah.... best line ever. What is she going to do? Baste herself?
     

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