Hi girls, Hope you have all had a very good xmas! But...................... I have just been talking to my dad on the phone, and my plan was to have the OH and my mum in delivery with me. This is my 2nd child but my OH's 1st. With my daughter the situation was very different,my daughter was not planned, (but so happy it happend could'nt live without her) i split up with my daughters father when i was 6months pregnant with her, and i moved back in with my mum and she helped me with everything and at the birth, it was my mum and my best friend in the delivery room. Now this time, i have been with OH for nearly 3yrs and we are so happy together,this baby was planned,(happened quicker than we thought but great!), and i have always said i wanted OH (obviously) and i want my mum again in delivery. But.... my mum hasnt been the nicest of people over the last year or so, nothing major, just little things that are annoying and she is not my OH's favourite person, Im very close to my dad and his wife and so is my OH, i know he feels more comfortable talking to my dad and wife more than my mum,as i have just been talking to my dad on a general conversation,the subject of birthing parnters came up, so i just said Rob and mum, then my dad said " is she waiting outside delivery but there on stand-by kind of thing?" and oblivious i said "no, iv asked her to come into delivery with us" and dad said "I know a certain soemone who would like it just to be a family affair, first time dad, a special something between you and him" So my mind boggled!!!! Then in a few words (as OH was sat on the other end of the sofa) my dad had basically explained that Rob has been talking to them and he would really like it just to be me and him in delivery, and my mum to be there at the hospital but not in delivery incase back up is needed kind of thing-he needs a break if it's a long time, because he isnt happy with the way my mum has been with us this past year and would like it to be something me an him share but he was scared of saying anything to me incase it upset me. Which i totally understand where my OH is coming from ,totally, but i will admit,im scared! An i do just want my mum there. But i want to make this a special time for us together. So two questions?????? 1. Do i just be a big girl and be brave and just have me and OH? and 2.How do i tell the mother if it is only going to be me and OH???