Lack of intimacy & dtd

[Jax41]

Zeri - I'm suspect perhaps the solo action is bc they don't have to make an effort to do the real thing for us

I'm 8dpo

 

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[lexus15]

Are we all dating the same man?!?!? ...

LOL I've been thinking the same thing

If not then they ARE related somehow!!

 

[Zeri]

How's everyone doing?

Sorry about AF, Briss. How're you feeling?

DH and I Bd'ed on CD10 - which was nice after a long stretch (3 1/2 weeks) of nothing. I think my plans of trying to improve the closeness/affection between is working...for the benefit of the relationship on a whole, and also for our sex life. There's another thing I realized that needs to change - I had started sleeping in the separate bedroom a few weeks ago (DH snores a lot) so that I could get some sleep, but I think I'll try to minimize that too, as it adds more to the 'roommate' vibe, which I really don't want right now. I might O this week so I'm going to try to get DH psyched up for another BD soon

 

[Briss]

Thanks Zeri, pretty gutted about AF, pulling all my energy (not much left to be honest) together for the next cycle. Increasing gradually his arginine and maca intake. We have not BD since my last O . Surprisingly he suggested to have sex on Sunday but my AF arrived (obviously!) and sex was the last thing on my mind. Good luck with getting a couple more BD sessions in place before your O!

 

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[Zeri]

Are you going to POAS early, twiggers?

Briss - gathering up strength to face another cycle isn't easy. I find the longer and longer I ttc, the harder 'AF days' become. I think it's especially hard for us on this board because we have to go through sooo much to get some BD in the fertile window - it's so stressful, compared to other women who have willing partners - that to have to think about going through all of it for another month is just exhausting sometimes. I feel for you. Are you going to wait to do the SA in March?

 

[Briss]

My DH is due to repeat his test end of Feb, after that I guess we will know what we should do, if there is no improvement in his sperm count then IVF it is. First few days of the cycle are the hardest but then around O is the most stressful time cos getting our DHs to BD requires a lot of dedication and perseverance. been crying a lot last few days which is normal for me, gradually come to accept and find it in me to be hopeful again

 

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[Jax41]

Zeri, twiggers, Briss I hear you sisters so not looking forward to next cycle for all the reasons you've mentioned and more!x

 

[Zeri]

Hugs Briss - I hear you. Sounds like you have a good plan going forward, though.

Jax - where are you in your cycle?

twiggers - Just checked out your chart. LOOK AT THAT RISE!!! Wow! When are you going to POAS????

 

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[Jax41]

Twiggers well spotted Zeri, missed that

My tickers out sorry I think I'm going to have a longer cycle this time than last by a couple of days so AF will be here tomorrow

 

[Zeri]

Have you tested, Jax?

twiggers - I was looking at your chart again...I notice that you had 3 positive opks after CD12. Are you sure of when you O'd? The other possibility for the increase, besides the obvious...is that you may have O'd later than you thought (like CD16), and that what you're seeing now is an O rise. Anyway, I hope it's not that... If you're sure when you O'd then most likely what you're seeing now is a pregnancy rise!!

 

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[Jax41]

Hi Zeri, nope I've not tested, been there done that got the disappointment! I know this sounds really dull but I don't anymore unless AF is late so if she's not here by the weekend I maybe tempted

 

[Zeri]

Zeri - Well, I had some O pains on CD14 (and we BDed that morning)....so I was hoping that it was either the CD12 or the CD14. I am really hoping it wasn't as late as CD16 because then we missed it I didn't put it on my chart (or maybe it disappeared), but I had a neg OPK on CD16 and so I stopped messing with them.

I think the + on CD10 was likely an attempt. And I'm hoping the 3 days of positive was me catching the rise, peak, and fall.

Given that this is cycle #1, I really have no clue when I Oed. I did notice that I was pretty watery up to about Cd 14/15 and now it's gone pretty sticky and dry.

DH was pretty worn out from the 4 attempts this month.....but next month I am going to try to push him to go one more time. Or we'll try SMEP and I'll really wear him out.

Ah man....I really hope it wasn't CD16 I have no clue about my cycles...but they used to be 28-30 days pre-BCP. So an O on CD16 either means my cycles have gone really long or I have a crap LP.

It's normal for cycles to be a bit 'off' for the first few months after coming up BC, so if you O'd a couple days later than average that would be within the norm for post-BC cycles. I think CD16 is a possibility, especially if you had watery cm up to CD14/15. You would still have a chance, though if you BDed on CD14 - just not as good as if it was the day before O/of O ) It'll be interesting to see what your temps look over the next few days.

 

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[Zeri]

It's possible you O'd late on CD15 then, so you definitely still have a chance!

 

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