Lack of intimacy & dtd

[Zeri]

Hi girls,
Nice to be able to check in with everyone.

twiggers - I see AF finally arrived. Any clearer idea on when you did O? Hopefully this cycle will be a bit more regular.

Briss - yayyy for your DH giving up beer! I hear beer is especially bad as it leads to an increase in estrogen which is bad for sperm/testosterone in general. So hopefully his numbers will increase once he's off it for a bit. I don't think fasting this week would hurt his sperm much, really.

lexus- hope you get in some BD before O!

Jax - sounds like you have a good plan this cycle. I find that making things relaxing and stress-free does help a lot overall. Hopefully your DH will be able to come home earlier from work too, so that we won't be too tired to BD.

AFM - Unfortunately this cycle is another bust. DH and I had Bd'ed on CD10 but nothing after that, leading up to O. I wasn't sure when I was going to O because I had ordered some opks and they didn't arrive...so I wasn't even sure when to push DH to BD. He was tired on Thurs and Fri night but on Sat morning I caught him masturbating! He didn't get to finish though because DD had waken up and he had to watch her. I tried to get him to BD on Sat afternoon/night but he said he wasn't in the mood then. And I think I O'd that same night because my ewcm was gone by the next morning. I felt really bad about it - I can't afford to missing cycles with no chance at all!

Anyway...I'm on vacation next month so I'm hoping we can BD some more. I'm planning to talk to DH about our lack of BD again because it seems like he's only interested in being on the IPod/computer, TV, or masturbating these days....

 

[twiggers]

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[Briss]

Zeri, thanks! unfortunately it's not just fasting he is practically starving himself (nothing but water for over 2 weeks already), he lost so much weight he looks like a bad case of anorexia, his bones started to show. I am really concerned but just hoping he is going to stop this nonsense soon and as he promised will start eating properly and no beer!

I am sorry you did not manage to get enough BD last cycle, let's hope being on holiday is all it takes for you to get your BFP. so many people are getting pregnant while on holiday or soon after. fingers crossed! it's not bad that he masturbates, during TWW it's even great I think to keep his sperm fresh you only need him for 4-5 days around O really.

 

[lexus15]

Had nookie last night & I only had to ask OH once!..before this the last time we dtd was on 24th Dec

Normally his answer to dtd would be 'tomorrow' but last night he said 'ok if you want'.. Who said romance was dead!

I needed to reconnect with him & put aside ttc & just have sex!!

That said I got a peak on cbfm this morning & I may see if he can be persuaded for more, but I know it won't be tonight as he's out

Hope you all are doing well

 

[Briss]

Had nookie last night & I only had to ask OH once!..before this the last time we dtd was on 24th Dec

Normally his answer to dtd would be 'tomorrow' but last night he said 'ok if you want'.. Who said romance was dead!

I needed to reconnect with him & put aside ttc & just have sex!!

That said I got a peak on cbfm this morning & I may see if he can be persuaded for more, but I know it won't be tonight as he's out

Hope you all are doing well

Lexus, well done and the timing is perfect! if you can get one more BD tomorrow (your ovulation probably) you will have a very good chance this cycle. fingers crossed!

 

[Karenfla36]

can he maybe have low testosterone? my DH did and he never wanted it either, but he knew something was wrong. so he finally went to the doctor. now he has to take Viagra for a bit to get it working again we just started trying 2 weeks ago, so we will see.

but maybe that is his issue?

 

[twiggers]

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[Briss]

I think low sex drive in men kinda implies low testosterone, is it not? I am trying to get my hubby to do the blood test but I expect it to be on the lower side

 

[twiggers]

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[Briss]

does Viagra help with testosterone levels? does anyone know what's it made of?

 

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[Zeri]

Yeah, I think it just helps dilate the blood vessels in the penis, so that more blood can flow to that area - stimulating an erection.

My DH's never been tested, but I suspect he has low T - based on what I saw on the symptoms I read on the Internet. Low sex drive, erectile issues, low energy/falling asleep after dinner etc. I think I read that men with pot bellies also are likely to have low T, because fat means higher estrogen, which drives down T levels. My DH definitely also has a bit of a pot belly going on. He really needs to exercise. He said he would start this week but for the last few hours he's been on the couch with the IPod...

 

[viccat]

Afternoon girls.

Interesting discussion on low testosterone levels. I wonder whether my other half suffers with that, but not many other symptoms match. Well, except he has blood sugar / energy problems - although not diagnosed diabetic, and has no bother getting an erection.

It's totally puzzling

I'm just about writing this month off *sigh* he's got a terrible cold and is off work ill, so my chances of getting him out of his pyjamas are close to zero.

 

[lexus15]

Viagra may help get it up but it damages the sperm, well that's what my FS stated when I asked for it for my OH & his lack of sex drive!

Like a few of the ladies have previously said, it seems that exercise is the key for our men to naturally increase their low T. Mine's a lazy sod & does a little bit of walking & think that constitutes exercise. What about supplements?

As we only dtd once this month (was glad for the sex as opposed to ttc) so writing this month off.

 

[twiggers]

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[Jax41]

Hiya, just jumping in here as I too have been concerned about low T levels with my DH but I'm sure I read somewhere that any kind of treatment is not good when TTCing, but surely that doesn't make sense? Ramp the T up and hopefully get the BD's rolling!

 

[twiggers]

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[lexus15]

Twiggers, where can I look at the studies? I haven't done any research myself & have taken the word of my FS!

Basically as OH & I are more than likely going to have to try IVF our FS was saying that in his experience of IVF he has seen men who've taken Viagra which caused men to have a reduction in numbers with some being damaged.

I'd love my OH to take anything & everything if it'll increase his sex drive but not if it's going to hurt his swimmers!

 

[twiggers]

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[Zeri]

That's interesting. I didn't know that Viagra damaged sperm either. I've read that other testosterone supplements - like Androgel - lead to low sperm counts too, I think. Seems strange. You would think they would have the opposite effect.

I wonder if herbal supplements for testosterone have an effect on sperm counts? I think Maca is supposed to help with sperm. Not sure about the others.. hmmm