Lack of intimacy & dtd

[lexus15]

It's bloody hard to mentally work out our own emotions on top of dealing with everything we face with our partners/hubbies. Like some of the others I get especially horny around ov & would dtd the whole night.

Sometimes though I find myself getting irritated by silly little things (he normally would do) that wouldn't annoy me usually. What I don't understand are women's pheromones we're supposed to give off causing my oh to want to jump me, either I dont give off any or my oh cant smell!! (well he does smoke)

 

[Jax41]

You girls all okay? It's quiet on this thread

 

[Zeri]

Hi Jax,
how are you?

I'm still struggling a bit. On the positive side - I think DH is finally getting on board with trying for another baby (officially -we were kind of NTNP before, well he was, I was more ttc) - so I'm hoping we can time BD better going forward. This month I got in one BD the day before O - but I think the sperm was stale as I was being treated for a YI and we had to abstain while I was on the meds. HE took forever to get DH 'up and ready' for that one BD, though ...I had to show him porn and everything. (roll eyes). Anyway, he's promised to start exercising, so hopefully that give him a boost in the libido department.

How's everybody else doing?

 

[Briss]

Hi ladies, not much to report from my side. My DH was off beer for over two months although he did drink about 3 times during this period. We managed to BD around O (with some difficulty) but no sex in TWW

 

[Jax41]

Hi Jax,
how are you?

I'm still struggling a bit. On the positive side - I think DH is finally getting on board with trying for another baby (officially -we were kind of NTNP before, well he was, I was more ttc) - so I'm hoping we can time BD better going forward. This month I got in one BD the day before O - but I think the sperm was stale as I was being treated for a YI and we had to abstain while I was on the meds. HE took forever to get DH 'up and ready' for that one BD, though ...I had to show him porn and everything. (roll eyes). Anyway, he's promised to start exercising, so hopefully that give him a boost in the libido department.

How's everybody else doing?

Zeri, our stories are so similar, DH NTNP, me full on TTC, him now getting it and 'we're trying'. Trying? I've been bloody trying for the last 2 years mate! But at least like you say he's finally getting it with 'we have to do it now' and he's doing it rather than making up excuses.

Don't worry about what you have to do to get him in the mood, we've all done it and if it works then bingo!

Loads of luv and luck honey x

 

[Jax41]

Hi ladies, not much to report from my side. My DH was off beer for over two months although he did drink about 3 times during this period. We managed to BD around O (with some difficulty) but no sex in TWW

Briss I don't get anything in the TWW either unless I initiate it, and that's when I'd think he'd really like to do it, no pressure sex, but nuffink

I don't have much to report really either, seriously crashed and burned last month We had good sex, lots of it, all at the right time and I was convinced this had to be my month, but no AF pitched up bang on Q and it's taken me ages to get over the disappointment....so much so that I feel like I can't be bothered at all this cycle which I know will get me nowhere. Am seriously considering having a break for a month next month. We're going away with the family for a week so I need to work my dates out, not much point stressing if we're supposed to be BDing when we're away.

But in other more postive news, my DH has also kicked the daily lager/wine habit. Not down to TTC I hasten to add, he has terrible skin problems (Psoriasis), not to mention what he was doing to other stuff and I think my constantly bringing it up that 'it's really not doing you any good for now and the future' has finally sunk in. You never know I may get some supplements down him too? Wonders will never cease

Lots of luv xXx

 

[Briss]

Jax, I wont get it even if I initiate it….

I know, AF hits me every time real bad, takes me longer and longer to recover and gather my will to carry on. My Dh says if I am not pregnant by May he goes back to beer because his quality of life and social life suffers

 

[Jax41]

Jax, I wont get it even if I initiate it….

I know, AF hits me every time real bad, takes me longer and longer to recover and gather my will to carry on. My Dh says if I am not pregnant by May he goes back to beer because his quality of life and social life suffers

WHAT?! His quality of life/social life suffers? What about you, you're his wife, the whole thing of being married is to make each other happy, be on each other side, not make selfish remarks like this!! Sometimes I really wonder if they have any idea of what being married is all about, I'm not saying lose your identity but.....!! Have to say though if it's any consolation, this is the typical selfish remark I would get from my DH too I am only thankful that he is seeing a result in his skin and so will keep up the good work. Maybe we can have another meaning for D.H.?

What are you going to do after May? Will you cut him out the loop and go assisted?

Big BIG hugs coming your way lovely xXx

 

[Briss]

I am dreading to think what I'm gonna do after May if he decides to return to beer…

 

[smurfy]

I am dreading to think what I'm gonna do after May if he decides to return to beer…

When will he have another SA test? hopefully if he sees improvements he may be more willing. By DH will be having another test in 2 weeks and then again in July. If we have no success then we are going down IVF route, my DH was approx 7m last time round. He has been on vitamin c and vitamin e from the doctor.

Good luck

 

[Briss]

I am seeming our FS on 2 May so hopefully she will refer DH for another SA.

 

[Zeri]

Thx Jax! I 'll be back to write more over the weekend.

Just wanted to pop in and say your chart is looking good, Briss! Isn't today 14 dpo for you? Are you going to test or wait to see if AF shows?

 

[Briss]

Zeri, I think FF got my O date wrong I definitely O later.

 

[alison29]

Briss I am sorry about dh, doesn't he know it takes at least 3 months to clean up? My dh is still at the beer and really only seems to really want it when i have PMS and irritable. May 2 is right around the corner.

Hi Jax and Zeri...The worst disappoint happens for me too when i think everything time out right.

 

[alison29]

Jax does the wine make his psoriasis flare? I just have this patch on my foot and it itches like crazy and is ugly.

 

[Zeri]

Hi ladies, not much to report from my side. My DH was off beer for over two months although he did drink about 3 times during this period. We managed to BD around O (with some difficulty) but no sex in TWW

Briss I don't get anything in the TWW either unless I initiate it, and that's when I'd think he'd really like to do it, no pressure sex, but nuffink

I don't have much to report really either, seriously crashed and burned last month We had good sex, lots of it, all at the right time and I was convinced this had to be my month, but no AF pitched up bang on Q and it's taken me ages to get over the disappointment....so much so that I feel like I can't be bothered at all this cycle which I know will get me nowhere. Am seriously considering having a break for a month next month. We're going away with the family for a week so I need to work my dates out, not much point stressing if we're supposed to be BDing when we're away.

But in other more postive news, my DH has also kicked the daily lager/wine habit. Not down to TTC I hasten to add, he has terrible skin problems (Psoriasis), not to mention what he was doing to other stuff and I think my constantly bringing it up that 'it's really not doing you any good for now and the future' has finally sunk in. You never know I may get some supplements down him too? Wonders will never cease

Lots of luv xXx

Yes, you're right, Jax, our stories do seem similar! I'm sorry AF got you last cycle. It must really hurt when you know you've done all you can to conceive....but still don't. Hopefully your DH kicking the lager/wine habit will help, though? Did he ever have an S/A done?

Question to all ladies on this board - do your OH's fall asleep on the couch every night? DH is on the couch snoring right now...seems like he's been doing that every night (after dinner) for the last week. I read it's a symptom of low testosterone....wonderful. It totally fits with the low sex drive and weak erections and all though. Ugh... I need to get him some vitamins and make him start exercising... Do any of see any signs of low T in your OH's?

 

[Briss]

AF got me yesterday…

Zeri, my DH has low testosterone, I got him on supps i.e. tribulis etc and after a few months we did the blood test and his T levels were on the lower side of normal. He thinks that after building up some muscles he notices changes like he is becoming more hairy – hopefully his T levels are increasing. He does sometimes fall asleep on the sofa while we watch TV (usually when I make him watch something romantic) but I never attributed it to T levels.

 

[Jax41]

Briss, I'm so sorry hun Will your DH do another SA d'you think?

Alison, yes I do think the wine has a serious affect on his skin, he is definitely noticing the difference, hurrah he used do a bottle easily with dinner every eve but he his so concerned about his 'appearance', understandably, that he's def sticking to it - good for the little too!

Zeri, yes mine does it all the time, but then he does work horrid hours on av 12+ a day driving, but I also think that he could have low T Yes he had two SAs last year, one better than the other. My Dr freaked over them but his was very relaxed saying it's not gold medal stuff but it's alright. We've not been asked so far to repeat, but maybe my FS will ask him too?

 

[Briss]

Jax, my DH really wants to repeat his SA cos he is curious whether no beer policy had any effect, I am concerned about his running. it's like he gives up one bad thing only to replace it with another. Running is generally great but he runs for 8-10 hours at a time wearing really tight leggings like pants. he says his bits are hurting if runs in anything else and that these pants are specially designed for men but I am still not convinced.

 

[Jax41]

Is your DH on a road to self distruct? He sounds as if he doesn't like himself very much 8-10 hours running, wow that's like a full day at work!

I'm out this time round, absolutely no bedroom action over the weekend, just knew it would be a naff cycle, I'm so not in the mood! Know what I mean?