Lack of intimacy & dtd

[Juniperjules]

Good stuff, nobump.

How's everybody doing today? Jax and Juniper...haven't heard from you in a while. Hope all is well.

Hey Zeri!! (((Hugs))) to you for remembering me & asking if all is ok ; ) hi to everyone else as well.. I'm trying to catch up on the past few weeks but hope ur all doing ok??

OH & myself have had a very crazy few weeks & ive been very distracted, so really haven't been in a fit state of mind to be reading or posting until yesterday. I think we're back on track now amazingly.. So here I am!

Am on cd3 & going off today to have day 3 bloods taken. Then next week am having an internal ultrasound to check follicles (NOT honestly looking forward that!!!) & next FS appt is the day after to review all the results I guess... And hopefully talk about what we can do next. I'm ready for anything they suggest at this point!

 

[Briss]

My Dh was away this weekend and returned last night, it was really unexpected but apparently he missed me and we made love twice!! I think something positive is happening to our relationship because it's just so extraordinary. although I did get back to earth this morning – had a major argument with hubby over holidays… some things just do not change

 

[nobump]

Good to hear you are getting some action Briss.

We attempted this lunch time, but some 'thing' was not playing ball! Grrr.... the fact upstairs started houvering kinda killed the moment as well. Don't know anyone who houvers as much! Will have to see if hubby has any energy when he gets in form work, but we have a heat wave here so not holding out much hope , looks like we BD 2 days prior so hopefully have some luck with that...

 

[Zeri]

Is today your O day, nobump? Hope you get another BD in. That's irritiating about the upstairs hoover monster, lol.

Nice to hear from you, Juniper. Glad to hear you and OH are back on track. Hope you get good results on your bloodwork too. The internal ultrasound is kind of weird but not really uncomfortable or painful.

Briss - BD twice! Wow! He's on a roll! That's wonderful. Sorry to hear about the argument - I guess everything won't magically improve overnight, but it's good that something positive is happening in the closeness/intimacy department still. Hopefully that's a good foundation to build on.

AFM - had cramps yesterday and having more cramps and internal spotting today (13 dpo). UGH!! I tink the witch will be here by tomorrow.

 

[nobump]

Think I O'd yesterday, so maybe still in with a chance if we get lucky tonight... no chance tomorrow... need to head into the office then at mine. Viewers from Sunday want a second look so fingers crossed they will make an offer.

Zeri - you not out yet.

 

[Briss]

nobump, good luck with getting some more BD. I find that heat makes me horny but it works the other way around for hubby. anyway, getting at least 1 BD 2- days before O still gives you a chance. Good luck with a viewers!

Zeri, I hope AF stays away, cramping can be a good sign too, fingers crossed.

juniper, it's great that you are progressing with the tests/scans etc. hopefully, you will get good results. keep us posted.

afm, our relationship with hubby are getting better but the beer problem is still there, he had some again last night. he is due to repeat his SA in July and it will be interesting to see if his numbers get worse (and by how much) since he started drinking again. the Chinese doc also said alcohol is the major factor because it generates "excess heat" that is affecting sperm quality/quantity

 

[Zeri]

Stupid AF is here... with cramps. Ugh!! Tired of this. Sooooo ready to be pregnant already!!! Think I'm going to try the Clomid this month and talk to DH about doing more BD. I'll be 37 this month (which was my personal deadline to get pg again)...feel like we really have to be more active about this. REally didn't want to do the Clomid again (I've had so many already) but at the same time it seems to be the only way I get pg - not sure why.

Anyway, just wanted to vent. Hope everyone is having a better day.

 

[Jax41]

girls, I'm back from Barca, had a good time although you were right Briss it could've been warmer. I definitely wasn't one of those typical English 'I'm in Spain so I'm going to let it all hang out' I know you know what I mean

I survived 4 days with DH's grand daughter, she's such a cute little kid though, you can't fail not to want to be involved with her. And I survived the preg talk....I actually like her, she's very chatty and approachable but gave up when she ate and drank crap all the time then moaned about her weight, how good I looked and to cap it all 'after this baby then that's it I'm done'. I just sat there and thought, this isn't your fault but you have absolutely no friggin idea how much I'd give to be in your situation right now DH looked REALLY uncomfortable for me and had a massive guilt trip again. I think I may have finally penetrated his thick skull on how difficult this is for me and how much he needs to stop being a self controlling ass and just give me the best chance he can, he promised me he'll make me a Mum and I've told him I'm going to hold him to it even it if half kills me!!

So even though we had major BDing last cycle AF still rocked up yesterday, FFS just F off and leave me alone for a change!!!

Anyway, I'm going to try and catch up with all your news, hope your DHs haven't been causing you too much stress and anxiety

 

[viccat]

Hey Zeri and Jax - sorry to hear that AF has turned up again. Dang

AFM - Just wondering if OH is going to stick to his promise of taking in SA samples this week. I am doing a very good job of not nagging, but I have just sneaked a quick peak in the cupboard where he stashed the pots. They're still there, so he's got tomorrow and Friday left. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.......

x

 

[smurfy]

Stupid AF is here... with cramps. Ugh!! Tired of this. Sooooo ready to be pregnant already!!! Think I'm going to try the Clomid this month and talk to DH about doing more BD. I'll be 37 this month (which was my personal deadline to get pg again)...feel like we really have to be more active about this. REally didn't want to do the Clomid again (I've had so many already) but at the same time it seems to be the only way I get pg - not sure why.

Anyway, just wanted to vent. Hope everyone is having a better day.

Understand your dilema, I am mid 36 and feeling the pressure, how often do you DTD? i have tried doing more and we are doing well, last 2 cycles every other day for 8 days but as my cycles vary from 32-38 i think we have just finished short of final ovulation.

 

[Briss]

Zeri, sorry about AF if that's any consolation I am also turning 37 this month and I am still TTC our first …

Jax, welcome back! we missed you! this is so sweet that your Dh promised he'll make you a Mum, so great that he is finally on board. very sorry about AF but fingers crossed this is your cycle.

Vicat, maybe you could still politely remind him about SA? men do not really want to do it so somewhat subconsciously they just tend to "forget" about it

 

[viccat]

Hi Briss, yes you may be right. I waiver between showing respect that he will do what he said he will do, and knowing he will likely forget (whether deliberately or subconciously)

Oh, and if it makes either of you feel better, I didn't even start TTC until I got to 37. You've got some extra months on me - I will be 39 in 3 months time, and just really hope to conceive before I reach 40, because (being greedy) I'd like more than one!

 

[nobump]

On mobile so will keep it short

Zeri sorry AF has appeared.

Jax hopefully reality check will have done some good. Don't think men fully get the wanting to be a mum thing.

AFM viewing went well was female of the couple from Sunday and her 2 sisters. Think they liked the flat. They loved the view. Hopefully the make a sensible offer.
Another failed attempt. There are something we can't control. Might try to get hubby to see doc. But think I jinxed things. Told him we were still in with a chance. Seems to work ok other times.
Will be a long tww.

 

[Juniperjules]

Hi girls.. Quick question for those of u that either are or have given ur partners L-Arginine... I'm almost certain there were posts about it a while back. Apparently it can help with male libido???

Can anyone tell me what dose to give? And if you've used it, was it in a powder form or a tablet?? I can only find it in powder at this stage..

I'm hoping to try it out next week around Ov time. I remember someone posting that u can give it to OH maybe 30-60 mins b4 BD for an extra 'boost' of libido shall we say???

Also, I don't know much about it in general, so any info u know about it would be much appreciated!

Hope ur all hanging in there.. Sorry there's no personals, am trying to type this quickly on my iPhone!!

 

[Briss]

Juniper, I had some joy with Arginine, I usually give my DH 1 gr a day and 3 gr around ovulation. sometimes I give him 5-6gr just before (about 45 min – 1h) we BD. I had some luck with it cos once I started giving it to him he was more likely to BD but 1 gr is not enough, only starting from 3 gr I saw some changes. also it depends on the brand, I gave him 2 different brands and with the first one there was no change but the second worked a treat. I give him supps in tablet form. I also got powder but he is refusing to take it. all I can say it's worth giving it a try. I know some mix it with maca. I also give maca to my DH but I did not notice any changes

 

[Juniperjules]

Juniper, I had some joy with Arginine, I usually give my DH 1 gr a day and 3 gr around ovulation. sometimes I give him 5-6gr just before (about 45 min – 1h) we BD. I had some luck with it cos once I started giving it to him he was more likely to BD but 1 gr is not enough, only starting from 3 gr I saw some changes. also it depends on the brand, I gave him 2 different brands and with the first one there was no change but the second worked a treat. I give him supps in tablet form. I also got powder but he is refusing to take it. all I can say it's worth giving it a try. I know some mix it with maca. I also give maca to my DH but I did not notice any changes

Thanks heaps Briss, can u tell me what brand you found worked well? I'm not sure I can get it in tab form here (Aust)... If I have a brand name perhaps I can get it on eBay for next month.... I'll go straight to the 3gm if it worked for your OH.

Thanks for the info! ; )

Oh... & on the age thing... God it's soooo hard not to focus on numbers- I have this mental picture of a door closing in my face next December (2014) when I turn 40!!! I know it's such a negative way to think but it's hard to stop the thoughts. On a positive note, my mums friends daughter is 43 & just had her 2nd child!! She had her first at 41... When I heard about the newest baby I have to admit it made me feel good..

 

[Jax41]

Now listen forget the months, you've all got years on me so I'm expecting great things from ALL of you!

Viccat, really hope DH gets the SA done, keep the faith you never know he may just suprise you

Nobump, you're so right talk about hard work

Briss, big hugs hun, hope you're doing okay

Juniper, good luck with the BDing

AFM, I'm good

Ps. sorry this is so quick, just about to dash out the door to start the weekend!

 

[Briss]

Juniper, I am also so happy when I hear news of over 40 getting pregnant and delivering healthy babies, it's so encouraging, isn't. the Arginine brand I use is "higher nature".

 

[Zeri]

I'm sorry to bring up the age thing........37 isn't really old at all..and I know I'm blessed to have a child already. I guess I just feel disappointed when I look back at my *plans" - which was first to have #2 by 35... then that didn't happen, had the m/c then the new plan was to be pg by the time DD turned 3....that didn't happen and the new plan was to have #2 by the time I turned 37...now that's approaching and no pg yet...it just feels like so much time is passing, I guess. But they're so many women having children at 37 and beyond, that none of us are *old* in the grand scheme of things, really.

Anyway, I'm going to be taking Clomid again from tomorrow. STill have to talk to DH about it though.

nobump - all the best with selling your flat! Hope you get a good offer!

Juniper - I haven't given Dh l'arginine, but it's in the vitamins he takes...but only a small amount. Did you get your bloodwork back?

Jax - Sorry about AF. That's sweet what your DH said, though! Wanting to 'get there' is half the battle, I think - at least he'll be willing to do what it takes so that you can be a mum.

viccat - did OH do the SA?

smurfy - that's an awesome BD schedule! A lot more than me and DH. Most times we only BD 1-2 twice a month...but am trying to up that to at least 1 a week. Seems like a little but it's a challenge for us most times.

Briss - how's your tww going?

 

[nobump]

Got an offer, but 10k under asking price.... and they wanted to move in in 2 weeks! so said no, want more, willing to drop 2k, and they can move in in a month, got to much on to move things sooner.

As for age, I'm 38, hubby turning 49 this year... no kids, been trying for ~5years on an off... seriously for about 2... waiting for IVF...

Not had much luck getting hubby to take things... think he took some macca powder but not sure how much or how often...

Got some coQ10 might start trying that next cycle.