Lack of intimacy & dtd

[Briss]

Viccat, thanks. I am seeing my GP later this week cos I want to get more info on the whole thing and also ask for the test.

 

[viccat]

HSG test later this morning ........ I'm feeling a bit nervous ...

On the plus side though, we finally exchanged contracts to buy a house, and get the keys next week. Perhaps it will be a good omen and my head will let my body start nesting?

 

[nobump]

Going for a pelvic x-ray this afternoon, quite scared, been googling that and blood in urine, really shouldn't, gives you worst case, hopefully they won't see anything to worry about, but be good to get an answer.

Fertilty Friend also hasn't pick up ovluation this month, so no idea where I am other than C18, temps all over the place but not been sleeping right so temps at wrong times. Atleast I won't have to worry about the x-ray and baby, as chances are so slim...

Viccat - congrats on exchanging! happy nesting!

Briss - hope you get the info you need.

 

[Juniperjules]

HSG test later this morning ........ I'm feeling a bit nervous ...

On the plus side though, we finally exchanged contracts to buy a house, and get the keys next week. Perhaps it will be a good omen and my head will let my body start nesting?

Good luck hon! Hope the HSG goes well for you! And congrats on the new place! : )

 

[Juniperjules]

Going for a pelvic x-ray this afternoon, quite scared, been googling that and blood in urine, really shouldn't, gives you worst case, hopefully they won't see anything to worry about, but be good to get an answer.

Fertilty Friend also hasn't pick up ovluation this month, so no idea where I am other than C18, temps all over the place but not been sleeping right so temps at wrong times. Atleast I won't have to worry about the x-ray and baby, as chances are so slim...

Viccat - congrats on exchanging! happy nesting!

Briss - hope you get the info you need.

Nobump, good luck with the X-ray- fingers crossed for u that all goes well. Let us know how u go.

 

[Juniperjules]

So have had a really revolting couple if days with OH's mother. completely insane & driving me to the brink also. i hate the woman. she lulls me into a false sense of security and calmness, then she takes some crazy pills & turns on me. am feeling very very despondent. dealing with her while ttc.... i may as well put my head in the oven now... I was lying in bed last nite thinking about how easy it could be to walk away. From everything. But then I'd be punishing OH for the sins of his nutter mum. I just had to keep reminding myself to keep my eye on the ball... To imagine how absolutely stupendous it will feel if I finally get pregnant & can take a deep breath & not care about anything else. Sorry, am rambling a bit but this woman is insane & has tortured me for years : (

So anyway, am counting down the days to see the FS next Friday. Due to Ov on tues/wed. Due to work schedules etc this weekend, there wont be any action until at least Sunday evening. Would like to have gotten started earlier than Sunday, but we did that last month & the month b4 & it made no difference so wot the heck. If we manage Sunday Monday tues then that'll b ok. In my head its kind of just going thru the motions bcos I can't see it happening easily or 'au natural'- so I'm putting all my hopes into this new FS. I'm hoping she has a magic wand she can wave... I desperately need something to change

 

[Briss]

Nobump, good luck with the X-ray- let us know how it goes.

Viccat, I hope the HSG goes smoothly today, Mine was very quick and easy. keep us posted. Congratulations on finally exchanging contracts to buy a house, great news!

GP referred me for my bloods via the NHS for free (including the cancer test) which is great, I also did my FSH this morning fingers crossed last cycle was just a bad one and I will get normal FSH levels this cycle. I am seeing a doc on Monday who can hopefully refer me to an ovarian cancer specialist with my insurance so smb who understands this stuff could look at my cyst and tell me whether there is any reason to be worried.

 

[Briss]

Juniper, very sorry about your OH's mother, hang in there, do not let her threw you off balance, as you said keep your eye on the ball, so tough when these things happen in addition to our TTC misery. I am so hoping your new FS will do her magic

 

[viccat]

nobump - fingers crossed for your xray, and that they get you sorted out. Google can be evil for stuff like that - turns us into our own worst enemies!

Jules - awwwwwww hun, not the crazy mother-in-law again. I take it there's been no movement on selling and/or moving house?

Briss - good to hear that you are getting at least the blood tests free on the NHS. The NHS takes a lot of stick, but I guess we are pretty lucky it is there. Fingers crossed for the doctors visit on Monda.

AFM - The HSG went okay - not too invasive or painful (although I'd taken a couple of paracetamol before I went!). Left tube working fine, but she couldn't confirm that right tube was okay. Looking at the pictures, I think it is probably blocked, which would be another explanation for no pregnancy - once you add in OH's wonky sperm and our lack of DTD......

 

[Juniperjules]

Briss, thanks for the support. Great news that ur getting ur bloods on the NHS. It's scary & sucks that ur having to jump another hurdle with this cyst- but am sending positive vibes that its totally harmless & u can get it sorted and out of the way. I have boobs full of cysts. The right one is particularly bad. And can become ridiculously painful during PMS. I often wonder wot it will b like if I do get pregnant- double or triple the hormones etc!! Yikes! I take EPO to help with the symptoms but I stopped for a while so lately the cysts are obvious again.

Viccat, YES the witch in law is on her broomstick again. Up until last Friday she had been great. No dramas, very supportive of us ttc, telling me she loves me etc..Then she turned up tuesday nite & I knew by the look in her eyes she was about to flip out. And she did. I'm literally just hanging on to the hope that I (pls god!!!) can get pregnant ASAP with this new FS. It will be the end of her harassing me. And even if she continues I simply won't care anymore.

Am glad ur HSG went smoothly- not like mine! It's my right tube that might not be patent too.. Has the FS suggested a laparoscopy or something?? I have a feeling this new FS of mine is gonna want to do one- it seems to be very common for her.

 

[viccat]

Am glad ur HSG went smoothly- not like mine! It's my right tube that might not be patent too.. Has the FS suggested a laparoscopy or something?? I have a feeling this new FS of mine is gonna want to do one- it seems to be very common for her.

Oooo I know, I was rather dreading it after knowing what you went through! I must have got lucky - it was just like a smear test, with a small amount of period-type pain. Mine was done by nurses and a radiologist, rather than an FS. The images are checked by a consultant next week, and then passed to our FS. I think it is going to give our FS firepower to suggest moving straight to IVF.

 

[nobump]

Got results. No kidney stones, but think u might have felt them. Got to go get a camera to investigate. Been a long day, was at a funeral this afternoon. Friend of hubby,s mum. Today is also the aniverdart of his mums passing who sadly passed away 7 years ago today.
How,s everyone doing?
X

 

[Juniperjules]

Hey nobump!!!

Glad to hear no kidney stones.. they are very very painful.. my mum had them.

so im sitting here having a coffee waiting to finally see my new FS!!! Am so nervous!! Here's goes nothing! Well nothing to loose except my money! ; )

Will report back in later...

 

[Juniperjules]

Hi girls, so I saw my new FS today. She was lovely. She basically explained IUI & IVF (which I already new of course), & basically said that at 38 (39 in dec), that I have a 10% chance of pregnancy with IUI & a 35% chance of pregnancy with IVF. I asked her if she felt I should try IUI & she said in her opinion it would be a waste of my money, that were better off putting the money towards IVF. She said at my age the odds for IVF are good, but if I leave it till 40 the success rates drop dramatically.... Still possible, but much better right now.

She is sending me to have chromosomal testing done bcos my mum had probs getting pregnant & had 4 miscarriages b/w me & my sister.. So just incase, she wants to check.

It'll cost a about $5000 out of pocket for the cycle, then about $1300 per transfer after that (hoping & assuming that u end up with embryos u can freeze to use in subsequent cycles). Have to come up with about $10,000 initially but can claim about $4000 back from Medicare. Holy moly... Numbers swirling round in my head...

She gave a very positive response to my AMH, something like 'fantastic!' & said that since my AFC was 8, that she would give me drugs according to the AFC, even though my AMH is really high. She said she's never had a patient end up with OHSS & that she monitors everything & there's very little risk of it happening.

She was very positive but not pushy & I actually feel quite confident to trust her judgement. My OH is gonna have a canary at the cost though!!! I KNOW he's gonna say something like 'bugger that we'll just keep trying!!' But my fear is we keep trying and in another 6 mths still nothing... And I'm closer to 40! AND I think when it's a now a reality he might feel IVF is too major to get into just yet.

Am feeling daunted and excited too... Nervous about OH's reaction... But am fairly confident I can convince him. I've been saying over & over that he just has to go with wot I want to do bcos it's my body that has to go thru it all. I've got most of the money for an initial cycle already.. So fingers crossed he doesn't put the brakes on! I'm not gonna see him till Sunday bcos am staying at my folks place till then, so have told him we'll talk face to face.

Would b lovely to get a bfp this month & not have to think about it all! ; )

 

[Jax41]

Briss, Juniper, viccat. no bump! I'm so sorry girls I've been AWOL, I've been thinking about you heaps and trying desp to catch up but off on hols for a week tomorrow and I need to get packing (hate that bit, esp for this country, who know's what to wear?! )

Take care of you special ladies and speak soon,
Love
Jax
xXx

 

[Briss]

Juniper, it's great that your appointment went well and you feel you can trust your FS, this is so important. are these prices for conventional IVF? Do they include meds?

jax, have a great holiday!

afm, CD10 got my PEAk this morning, DH was not in the mood to BD, fingers crossed we will get there in the evening. although to be honest I do not hold any hope for natural conception. I am just trying to get through my cancer related bloods/MRi etc so I could feel more confident in approaching my (hopefully next) IVF cycle

 

[viccat]

Hi everyone

Juniper - Glad to hear that you've found a FS that you can relate to, it makes this all so much easier! I wish the one we saw had been better - he was a bit rubbish to be honest, and I'm hoping we might get someone else next appointment I am sure OH will be fine about it all. He sounded a reformed man after your recent madness.

Briss - I'm keeping my fingers crossed that you get some BDing!

AFM - It has been a crazy busy week - we got one BD around my peak, and that was it. I didn't feel like much more after the HSG to be fair - i was a bit bloated and tender! So ....... I'm in the TWW now and trying to chill out and relax with a holiday next week. I'm not holding out much hope for natural conception nowadays.

 

[Briss]

we BD last night could not be happier

 

[Juniperjules]

we BD last night could not be happier

Yay!! It really is the simple things in life isn't it! ; )

So have just talked to OH about my appt on Friday. And he is happy to go ahead with IVF. I'm so relieved. He did cringe & pull a face when I said we have to go to an hour counselling session... But I said he just had to sit & nod & it'll be over soon enough. It's just with a nurse.. & I'm a nurse myself.. So I'm sure he'll survive it. He def saw a positive in (hopefully) being able to freeze some embryos & go back later & try for a second child like our best friends have done with their 2 kids. But that's pie in the sky stuff, just one child would be a blessing at this point.

Briss, yes that price does include all the meds, blood tests & ultrasounds during the cycle.

 

[Briss]

Juniper, that's so great that your OH agreed to go along with IVF, makes it so much easier. the prices actually look much better than over here, even natural cycle with reduced use of meds will cost us around £5,000, the conventional IVF will be closer to £10,000!

I am hoping to get to the bottom of this cyst business by the end of next week so we could book IVF for the next cycle.