Lack of intimacy & dtd

[viccat]

Hi all - just back from our most recent FS appointment. Luckily we saw someone different this time who was much better at explaining what all the relevant measures told us.

So...... (drum roll) ...... OH's second sperm test came back fine! It just goes to show how variable these things are. He had started taking Wellman vitamins, but only for about a couple of weeks before the latest test

My AMH reading was fine, so it seems the most likely explanation for us not getting pregnant is a) my (possibly) blocked fallopian tube and b) not DTD enough.

So we've decided to give it a few months more trying, and have an appointment booked for January if it still hasn't happened. The FS in the meantime is going to raise my request for mild stimulation IVF at the centre's weekly clinical meeting ad report back to us. I'm not holding out much hope that they will support it on the NHS, but I can only try

 

[Briss]

viccat, great news on your AMH and your hubby's SA! hopefully all it takes is just little more BD.

afm, more waiting, had to re-schedule my MRI for 28 August and my doc appointment on 8 Sep. feels like ages from now. but until I get all clear re cyst I wont feel that confident about proceeding with IVF

 

[viccat]

Hey Briss, thanks for the cheery reply. I will be pestering the heck out of OH for the next few months.

I understand what you mean about getting the all clear. Time does drag waiting for these appointments doesn't it? Only next week for the MRI though......

 

[nobump]

Viccat - That's great news about your results. Good to hear you had an appointment with someone who shows some compasion.

Briss - hopefully time will fly by for you.

AFM - taking a break from temping, we are off on our hols tomorrow, all good timing cd9 just now, hopefully we will get some time together, and being away from stresses of family and work will do us good.

 

[viccat]

Hey nobump - I bet it will do you the power of good. Enjoy your break, and simply spending quality time with your hubby

 

[viccat]

Helllloooooooo :wave: How is everyone doing?

AF arrived as expected, so CD2 for me. However I've got lots to do to organise our new home before moving in, so feeling pretty cheery.

 

[Juniperjules]

Hey Viccat!! Sorry about AF, mine arrived on Tuesday also.. Bummer. You are sounding very cheery which is great! When do u move into ur new place? That'll keep u busy for a while.

I'm just going thru all the little steps required b4 doing IVF now. OH & I went to our counselling session which was mandatory- it was really more an education & fact giving session- & I already knew so much about it that instead of taking an hour we were done in 30 mins. OH as expected looked very uncomfortable & said some stupid comments but thankfully the psychologist had a good sense of humour & thought he was hilarious...which I swear made him worse bcos then he new he had receptive audience!!! Actually it lightened the mood a bit & afterwards I was laughing with him about the whole situation. Really, although mostly painless, it's very strange & unnatural to have to sit with a stranger & discuss ur biology & fertility & whether or not u give permission for each other to use ur embryos if one of u dies!! We've both had our blood tests done, now have to get his SA done again oh joy.. Has to be 'done' at the actual lab this time which is gonna b a bit of a pain in the butt I'm sure. I've told him, but on the day he's NOT gonna b happy about it, which I actually get.. Again bcos its all a bit weird & unnatural. Then we see the FS 3rd sept. I'm now at a stage where I just wanna get this show on the road- if I have too much time to think/ ponder/ worry/ obsess... Well it's never good. I have no doubt now that IVF is the best step to take bcos I've really had enough of waiting to see wot will happen naturally- & OH & I (as u know) have had too much negativity in the last 18mths to want to keep being disappointed by BFNs. I want to b pregnant in the next 6 months & this will increase the possibility of it happening. Even though its a bit scary bcos it feels so 'big', I'm just going to take a leap of faith. I'm nervous of leaving it till I'm even closer to 40 next year. So like u, I'm feeling pretty positive right now.. Bit jittery ill admit, but still positive & hopeful!

 

[viccat]

That actually sounds really positive Jules...... you are definitely moving forward now. What happens at your next meeting on the 3rd?

 

[Juniperjules]

Well I guess at the next meeting she'll look at our results at let us know if there are any issues. Last time OH had an SA (last oct) the results were perfect, fingers crossed it still the same this time. She also did chromosome testing on me bcos my mum had trouble getting pregnant initially, & then had 4 m/c between me & my sister. So if all is good I'm hoping maybe sept or oct to start? She apparently likes to put girls on 4mg daily of melatonin for a month b4 doing IVF to improve egg quality, so if she does that I guess it'd be more likely to be October

 

[nobump]

Just checking in, hope everyone is doing good. Enjoying hols. AF due around the flight home, trying not to think about it. Not tracked temps, so no idea if we got round to it at the correct time, around cd20 now so just going to switch off for rest of hols. Was so disappointed last year when she showed. Hoping time away has done us both good.

 

[viccat]

Nobump - that sounds really positive hon. Will keep my fingers crossed

CD10 for me, and OH is going away for a week tomorrow. Last chance tonight for this month!

 

[Zeri]

Hey guys, sorry I haven't checked in in a while- been travelling. Ads due for me this wknd. Hope all is well! Hope to catch up soon.

 

[Briss]

Hi ladies, just wondered how everyone is doing these days.

I am still waiting to see my doc next week to discuss MRI, hopefully he will tell me we can proceed with IVF. Looks like I am ovulating later than usual and my CBFM is not cooperating this cycle, almost missed my LH surge. When it happens it's so hard to plan BD activities. managed to force hubby to BD twice this week but there was no end to his complaining… so tired of this crap.

 

[nobump]

Briss this whole process us so draining. Hope you get the go ahead for IVF.

AFM AF is due, prob tomorrow, hubby has a sore leg that has put dampners on the past 3 weeks, he has been in a lot of pain, hopefully on the mend now. But has been crap timing for our hols. Managed some but not holding out any hope for this month.

 

[Kardashianw]

Oh my I thought I was the only one. My DH is 38 and he has been like this for about 3 years. It drives me nuts. He is diabetic and I know this play a big part on trying to perform. Like your hubby he wants another child I have to stamp my feet to do it and feel so silly begging for it. I just thought it was him oh well my life is going to be so great. The higher sex drive I have the lower his is!!

 

[viccat]

Hello and welcome Kardashianw. We all understand what you mean about feeling silly demanding sex ....... it's not what we expected with the menfolk in our life, was it? This is a good place to let off steam and share your news whether it is good or bad.

AFM - I am in the TWW. Got a couple of BD in 3 days before ovulating (at which point OH had to travel abroad for a week ) so his swimmers had better have their survival rations packed

Oh, and I got a letter back from the FS to confirm that they will not offer natural or minimal stimulation IVF, but they are willing to do short protocol / antagonist. I've been reading a bit around it, and think it may be something we come back to if still no luck by the end of 2013....

 

[Briss]

Viccat I am not surprised they did not offer natural or minimal stimulation IVF, my FS also said they do not offer this at the NHS so unfortunately it's only private. but short protocol seems like a good option. I hope your DH's swimmers are survivors and can last more than 3 days before ovulating. There was this video the sperm race and apparently as soon as sperm riches fallopian tubes they are like in heaven, they have all the nutrients they need to recover their strength and they can live there for quite a while waiting for the egg so fingers crossed

nobump, how is it going? I hope AF stays away.

Kardashianw, welcome!

 

[nobump]

Quick check in, CD30, tested negative, looks like AF will get me just in time for return to work.

Should havs waiter another day before testing, have got cramps comming on.

Sorry for short post but Middlesex of night.

 

[viccat]

Ladies, can I just thank you for giving me two cheery things to read on a dull Monday at work!

There was this video the sperm race and apparently as soon as sperm riches fallopian tubes they are like in heaven, they have all the nutrients they need to recover their strength and they can live there for quite a while waiting for the egg so fingers crossed

I have a great mental image of them camped out, having a party

Sorry for short post but Middlesex of night.

LOL - not sure if you've got sex or the county on your mind

 

[nobump]

Meant to be middle, not sure what happened. Using phone so auto correct does some weird things.

Still no show,but we have travelled a bit this month so might be that. Was going to buy a clear blue test today, but forgot my purse. Knackered will wait n see what tomorrow brings.