Lack of intimacy & dtd

[battyatty]

on a positive side at least you had 10 BD a week before!! I get half of this in a month if I am lucky

Why oh why Briss can't men make up there bl**dy minds!

And another thing, why does society think its always men gagging for sex and women holding back? Everyone of my female friends are not 'getting enough' I dont even know how I managed to get 3 kids, I was lucky in my last relationship to BD 3 times a year! I thought great when my DF turned up, he was as ready for as much fun as me, but its gone down to 2/3 times a months for the last 3 months!

Im so so so confused, he's still loving and romantic, lots of cuddles and kisses all day, but last 4 nights he has slept in spare room. Telling me he is tired and needs a good nights sleep. I'm hanging in there, home life is really taking off. Engagment and moving country together, but babies and BDing is arghhhhhh!

MEN!!!!!!

 

[Zeri]

Battyatty,I feel your frustration! We'll all had to deal with unwilling OH's too- you've come to the right place! Sounds like your OH is feeling some performance pressure, maybe? Sounds like he wants a baby but just wants it to happen without the pressure. My Dh has been like that too, recently - said he didn't like all the pressure I was putting on him to Bd, and just wants it to happen naturally. Men really don't seem to get it.

Briss, thanks for the encouragement. Guess we'll just have to wait and see what happens. It's wonderful that your cyst resolved itself - awesome! Your Ivf steps sound good. Are you still going to the natural modified Ivf? What is that, really?

Nobump - hope you get some answers soon about moving forward with Ivf...

Viccat- how're you feeling, Chica?

 

[battyatty]

Right well here goes, my last vent, then its off this site for good.
Well things have come to ahead this morning, after he spent yet another night in the spare room, he has come to his decision.
He wants kids, infact he wants 3 kids, but not right now, and not with me! His argument, he doesn't believe we would make good parents together. Due to all the problems we have had in our relationship.
He is adamant he still wants to be in a relationship with me....? But wants kids in the future, he isn't ready to have kids yet, maybe in 5 years. (he will be 45 by then)
So basically he is asking me to move country with him for his job. Thats move my entire home and 3 kids and then wait till he wants kids. By then I will be 52ish! Then what? Be a good girl, sit at home and let him have babies with another woman??? I don't think so...

So girls this is the end of TTC and I cant stay here, as I so wanted to have a baby and now its not going to happen. Thank you and all the other ladies who have been so wonderful, and I wish you all my love and hope you all get your sticky beans, you all deserve them so much! xxxx

 

[Briss]

battyatty, I am so sorry to her that! this is just cruel!! I am happy that at least you already have children so you are not alone

Zeri, modified IVF is like conventional IVf with much less meds, I think i will be taking lower doses of stimulation meds just for a few days before O, trigger and then progesterone. basically we are not aiming to get lots of eggs, just a couple of the best naturally selected ones. success rates are lower but the risks of overstimulation and damage to ovaries is also lower

 

[FifiBarks]

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[Briss]

FifiBarks, congratulation on your BFP, Happy and healthy 9 month! thank you for your story, very interesting!

afm, I started injections yesterday! I cannot believe we are actually going through with IVF…

 

[terripeachy]

Fifi-
That was a crazy story!! I mean, crazy interesting. So, now OH knows what you did, but I'm wondering if he's so excited/happy to DTD because something is wrong with his sperm and he knows it, but doesn't want to share it with you. What do you think about that?

Battatty-I feel for you, babe. I guess the positive side of things is that you won't have to continue fighting for DFs love and affection if he wants to go elsewhere to get it. I would sever ties and stay where you are. He's just putting you off until he's ready, and that is very selfish. He wants you to stay where you are, and he wants to go. Sometimes, you just have to let him go. I'm so sorry for the situation you're in. There is someone out there for you. Go find him! RIGHT NOW! *hugs*

 

[nobump]

Phoned private clinic to see what first steps would be for getting started, how soon can get appointment etc.... Ready to chat to hubby over weekend.
Came home and we have a letter about making a appointment to start NHS cycle.
Spooky. Going to phone on Monday to see when we can get an appointment. Need to make more off an effort to shift a bit of weight. Holiday weight not budged to much nice food.
Nervous.
How things going with everyone one else?

 

[viccat]

afm, I started injections yesterday! I cannot believe we are actually going through with IVF…

I am really pleased for you hon ..... fingers crossed for a successful cycle, and that it isn't too hard!

 

[viccat]

Viccat- how're you feeling, Chica?

I am okay, thanks. Taking each day one day at a time.

 

[Zeri]

Batty arty- not sure if you're still around, but agree that your OH is ruduculous to expect you to wait around, till he's ready to have kids with someone else!

Fifi - thanks for sharing! Wow!

Briss- wow, you've started! How are you feeling so far?

Viccat- glad you're doing ok.

Nobump - did you get an appointment?

Wow! Everybody's moving ahead, seems like! AFM-13 dpo today and cramping. Got bfns on 9 and 11 dpo... so just waiting things out. :-/

 

[Zeri]

Well Af came. Crushed! More so this time than before. Really thought we had a decent chance this month.

Viccat-can you tell me about Wellmans? how long was your OH taking the well an them and did he take just one tablet per day?

 

[viccat]

Viccat-can you tell me about Wellmans? how long was your OH taking the well an them and did he take just one tablet per day?

Hi Zeri, sorry hear that AF has turned up again

OH was taking the Wellman vits for 6 weeks before second SA test, and about 3 months before conception. He didn't even manage to take the one tablet per day - I reckon he remembered about 2/3 of the time.

Everything I have read suggests that 6 weeks shouldn't be enough time to make a difference to sperm, but at his second SA morphology was 9% (versus 2% originally) and motility of >50% (from original <40%). Count remained unchanged, and was a high 120m at both tests.

So..... I'm not sure whether the Wellman vits had an effect or not. He said he didn't feel any different He didn't do anything else differently between those two SA tests though, and I hadn't thought they could vary that much!

 

[Briss]

Ladies, we have gone ahead with natural/modified IVF, I did very mild stimulation but still only produced one egg but absolutely perfect mature egg. DH did his best to sabotage the process, he produced very poor sperm sample but luckily the embryologist managed to find a cute looking sperm that fertilised my eggie They transfered the embryo today on Day 2 as they think it has better chances to survive in my uterus than in the lab. I am hoping and praying my little embryo will continue growing and implant into my lining. Cant believe I finally have my embryo inside of me I love it so much!

Zeri, I am very sorry about AF. My DH has been on wellman for over a year but I add other supps i do not think just one wellman a day is enough. although as i said before healthy lifestyle and proper diet is the key. My DH's sperm was terrible when he was fasting. also once he resumed drinking his SA is getting worse every week

 

[viccat]

Wow Briss, what fantastic news!!!! Really pleased that they managed to get an embryo. My understanding is that the whole point of natural IVF is to get better quality but fewer eggs, so one perfect eggy is brilliant. It seems great to know how it is going at each step of the process. I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you.

 

[Zeri]

Wow Briss!! Yayyy! I can't believe you're so far along in the process already...I guess I thought you were at the first point of stimulating the eggs. Yayy for a good Eggie and cute sperm! grow Eggie, grow!!! How exciting!!

Viccat (and Briss), thx for the vitamin info. Viccat, it's really amazing that his sperm quality improved so much, especially the morph. Wow! Those little guys are really sensitive. I'm thinking of getting some vitamins for Dh- still looking into it.

 

[nobump]

Briss that is fab news, hope the egg sticks!

Zeri, sorry AF turned up, it's a killer when you think things may be working out in a month

Viccatt, that great OH has see such great results, my OH tried Wellman for a few days, but gave him wind not good... so he gave up..

AFM - Got an appointment with hospital on the 25th October, for half an hour with the doctor, then we will see the nurses, OH will have to give another sample, and they will take bloods from both of us and do all the tests... not sure when IVF will start. We have 2 rounds on the NHS, I am in the process of trying go shift some weight.... BMI is a little high, not over the threshold, but I am overweight so I think losing a bit will help things.

 

[Zeri]

How's it going, Briss?

 

[Briss]

Hi Zeri, not very good to be honest, I've been cramping non stop and it really gets to me, had a bit of spotting and my doc increased my progesterone, keep getting bfns, I am still trying to keep positive and hopeful

 

[Zeri]

Oh dear- I understand the worry! :-/ so you're 8 dpo then? Could the bleeding/spotting be implantation related? It's a bit early for any other type of bleeding, isn't it?
Did the Doc say when you might expect a bfp? 8 dpo still seems pretty early to me. When I was preg both times I implanted on 8 dpo. Thinking good thoughts for you!!!