last name advice

[laylasmommy]

OK so I've decided that by baby is going to be name Layla Isabell...that's set in stone.

Recently the baby daddy left me though. I was all for her having his last name when we were together but I don't want that now, but I don't want to hurt him.(even though he really hurt me lol) I don't even know if the hospital well let me put his last name as hers due to the whole fact that we're not living together.

I'm not sure which of these I should go along with though, I know I want her to have my name though.

Layla Isabell Weaver
or
Layla Isabell Hickerson-Weaver.

 

[RubyRainbows]

Personally, as a "single mom" when i had my son -- i feel the baby should always have mom's last name. I would hate to fill out forms at daycare, the doctor's office, school, etc... & for my little boy to have a different last name than me. If i had been married or engaged & my last name would be changing soon, i would have given my son his fathers last name.... But since i knew that was more than likely NOT going to happen, i chose for my son to have my last name.

I work as a social worker with families, teen moms, young moms, single moms, etc... & they almost always give their baby the daddy's last name... & more often than not they either 1. regret doing that, or 2. daddy is no longer in the picture (AND they regret doing that). I have moms ask me all the time if i know how they can legally change their baby's last name to their own. (which is not an easy process)

Lol.... anyhow... that's just my two cents. I'm sure other women have other opinions....

 

[blahblahblah]

I'm personally not a fan of double-barrelled surnames, so if it was me I'd go for just your surname. If the situation ever changes in the future (such as getting married, to FOB or anyone else), it is a lot easier to change away from your name than to it.

 

[amygwen]

I really agree with TommyMammyPA.

I know plenty of women as well who have given their child the FOB's last name and down the road have regretted it. Realistically if you and your FOB decide eventually down the road to work things out and have a relationship and maybe get married, then giving your child his last name will be so easy. But, changing it from his last name to your last name is really difficult.

I am not married and I don't know if in the future I will marry my FOB but until then my son will have my last name.

 

[Armywife]

Hi there, i agree with all of the above, i have lots of friends who are single mums and each who has given their baby their dads surname regrets it. I would give your surname and as has been said already, if things ever change between you and fob you can make the decision to change then.

If you do decide to go double barrelled though you aere very lucky as those names go together very well, Hickerson-Weaver sounds lovely!

Good luck to you, i hope it all wors out how you want it to xxxxx

 

[Armywife]

Oh and btw, Layla Isabell is such a beautiful name!xxxxx

 

[DottyLottie]

I think if you are not married, baby should take mum's name then everyone can change over at the same time if and when mum and dad get married.

My first two children have their fathers surname, my third child (different father) also has fathers name, so there are 3 diff names in the family and it is SO confusing. I changed them all to OH's name when we got engaged last year.

In hindsight, I think all children should have their mothers name if she is unmarried, it is more than likely you will be the main carer and if your child has a diff nameyou will constantly be called Mrs (her surname), etc, not the end of the world, but easier in the long run just to share the same name.