LD relationships/FOB too far away.

[Laniinthesky]

When me and FOB started our relationship, i knew it was going to long distance for a while, but i never thought id be pregnant so soon.

Weve been arguing loads because after i got back from my last trip to canada his parents forbid all contact because they found out my age. I got pregnant on that trip. Theyve taken his laptop and other forms of contact so now i just get a 10 min phone call a week. Barely enough time to talk about everything.

Its really depressing me. I just want him to be experiancing everything with me and everytime something new happens i just feel like shit cause hes not here, and i sure it will be so much worse when LO is here. i already feel guilty that he misses stuff to do with LO

I keep telling him to tell his parents and he says that it will make everything worse and he wont even have his phone to talk to me if it happens.

Did anyone else tell FOBs parents themselves???

And how do you guys in longdistance relationships deal with it???


much love girls(sprry for long post)

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[Mb2012]

I kinda get where your at, my OH doesn't live that far but far enough that I rarely get to see him. It definitely makes me sad that he doesn't get to to experience all the things with pregnancy, given I still lived in his city when I was in the first tri so he got to experience morning sickness but that's it.

My parents are pretty against him and me so it's hard to see each other/keep in touch but we try to stay in contact as often as possible even if it's just a 15 minute call here and there. It definitely puts a strain on our relationship but idk I just know he makes me happy, I make him happy and eventually if everything goes our way we will be together.

I can't really offer any advice on telling his parents, my OH did that himself before I even told my parents. As far as dealing with the relationship I just kinda think that things have to get better, that eventually they will and this is just a right now thing that it'll eventually pass.

It really sucks being away from one of the most important people you want to be around during pregnancy, you guys can get through it though. Try to think positive and I know it's hard to think this way but try not to stress yourself even though I'm sure if you feel the way I do half the time your probably ready to pull your hair out and scream at the top of your lungs.

 

[RaRa392]

i just recently had to move states away from boyfriend as i had no where to live there. i talk to him everyday but i wish i was with him. i want him to experience the pregnancy too. hes already missing the gender ultrasound. i won't get to see him until he finds an apartment and who knows how long that will be. Its stressful at times and this definately is the time i need him the most. me and my boyfriend aren't telling his mom. she is physco and i don't want her in my kids life. so i can't really help with that.

 

[Leopard]

I used to be in a long distance (not pregnant mind!), it was very difficult.

As for telling FOB parents, he did. It didn't go well to start with but MIL got over it and now is good.

Didnt want to read and run. hope things work out.

 

[Ashleii15]

I don't think it's right of his parents to do that. They need to think of the LO, not what they want, or even what they think is right.. Because obviously it isn't.
He is going to be having a baby, and they take all contact away from you two.. I find that.. wow, I don't even know.. So stupid.
My boyfriend (FOB) told his mom, but hasn't told his dad yet. But the reason is becuase everyone is scared of his reaction, because I don't want him to get kicked out ): Like, it won't help the situation at all!! And that's something he needs to understand, but his dad doesn't like me -.- And I have done nothing (before) to upset him or anything in anyway.
His mom was alright.
But I am 32+3 weeks, and his dad is going to find out soon or later, lol. I was just at his house 2 days ago and I was surprised nothing was said or asked about my tummy, lol.
Well, I guess shit happens.. But I hope it get better :/ You need to talk to your boyfriend and set things straight. Tell him he has a LO on the way and he has to start sticking up for it, and you.. He has a family now and needs to talk to his parents so they realize that as well..
You two are going to be grown up now.. You guys don't need them to just make things harder on you.

 

[Laniinthesky]

I do keep trying to tell him he needs to start thinking about his own family, and our LO but it doesnt seem to register with him. im going crazy

 

[MaybeP]

Will you be 18 once the baby is born? You do have to realise that it is illegal for you two to be together in Canada, he could actually get in a lot of trouble because that is considered statutory rape here, whether it was consenting or not. Maybe his parents will be more for the relationship once it becomes a legal one

 

[trinaestella]

My OH wanted me to tell his parents with him, but eventually he told them himself, I had a long distance relationship before and most times they don't actually work out sorry to be so blunt but it's true.

 

[Shaunagh]

My OH lives a good 150 miles away. (I think - i never remember if its 100/150) Anyyyyyway, things havent been too bad between us since the pregnancy, sorry But there's only 3 years between us, and i am 18.

Can i just ask, how the bloody hell did you afford to just take 'trips' to Canada? ;o

 

[we can't wait]

Are you still trying to be with FOB? After reading your more recent posts I'd thought that you were separated?

 

[Laniinthesky]

Yeah this is old.
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