SunflowerBub
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Hey KelleyNJen,
Wow, what a good story! I loved that you kicked butt in court and won! Pays to be prepared! I went through court with the ex-husband nearly 5 years ago, and it was horrendous. The judge (a known masogynist tyrant) annhilated me in court and the dvo and child protection order was thrown out and was described as "the mother's supposed allegations against the father" then I had to give up breastfeeding my 6 month old and hand him and the other two over for 50% of the time to a man who had anger issues and then eventually to his girlfriend turn wife, whom I didn't know from a bar of soap. She then went about trying to take over my role, taking my daughter on school camps, foiling her hair at age 7, taking my 1 year old away with her friend to the coast for a few nights, alone. Sorry, I'm venting now. Um, yeah, it's tough. Right now my kids are getting fed up with the arrangement, and never want to leave our house to go there. He is not a bad father, but it's more stressful over there and they feel like they are walking on eggshells a lot, whereas we are more relaxed and fun I think (still with rules, though! haha). The kids are very very excited about a sibling (my daughter REALLY REALLY REALLY wants a sister) but they do express some sadness and perhaps envy that this child will not experience living between two houses, and my daughter who is nearly 12 says that the new baby is very lucky to live here fulltime.
The kids have settled into a routine, but it's getting harder now, the older they get, the more they just want to stay with us. And now there are highschool issues, as my daughter is approaching highschool next year. Her father is anti-private school and my daughter worked so hard to win a full scholarship for all 5 years at highschool (well, the highest they offer which is 50% of the fees) which she sat a big exam, met the principle, worked hard at school, organised a portfolio etc. It's a wonderful achievement and he refuses to allow her to go even though we have offered to pay the balance. I am going to have to organise mediation again, and possibly court. Ah... the joys of shared custody. The next person that says to me, "wow, you are so lucky have so much time to yourself when they are away! How do you fill in the time?!" will get a punch in the face. LOL. I didn't have kids to have them half the time.
Sorry, I'm rambling again. The kids are so excited and we are trying to include them in everything, so they don't feel "separate" from us because of going back and forth between houses. Little things like making sure we only ever have family photos with us ALL in them for example. I would hate for them to think they don't belong here. It breaks my heart that I can't just keep them fulltime with me.
Okay, that wraps it up! On another note, what do you think of my "lines"?
Thank you KelleyNJen, for sharing your story with me, and I hope that we both get our little bfp soon! 
Wow, what a good story! I loved that you kicked butt in court and won! Pays to be prepared! I went through court with the ex-husband nearly 5 years ago, and it was horrendous. The judge (a known masogynist tyrant) annhilated me in court and the dvo and child protection order was thrown out and was described as "the mother's supposed allegations against the father" then I had to give up breastfeeding my 6 month old and hand him and the other two over for 50% of the time to a man who had anger issues and then eventually to his girlfriend turn wife, whom I didn't know from a bar of soap. She then went about trying to take over my role, taking my daughter on school camps, foiling her hair at age 7, taking my 1 year old away with her friend to the coast for a few nights, alone. Sorry, I'm venting now. Um, yeah, it's tough. Right now my kids are getting fed up with the arrangement, and never want to leave our house to go there. He is not a bad father, but it's more stressful over there and they feel like they are walking on eggshells a lot, whereas we are more relaxed and fun I think (still with rules, though! haha). The kids are very very excited about a sibling (my daughter REALLY REALLY REALLY wants a sister) but they do express some sadness and perhaps envy that this child will not experience living between two houses, and my daughter who is nearly 12 says that the new baby is very lucky to live here fulltime.
The kids have settled into a routine, but it's getting harder now, the older they get, the more they just want to stay with us. And now there are highschool issues, as my daughter is approaching highschool next year. Her father is anti-private school and my daughter worked so hard to win a full scholarship for all 5 years at highschool (well, the highest they offer which is 50% of the fees) which she sat a big exam, met the principle, worked hard at school, organised a portfolio etc. It's a wonderful achievement and he refuses to allow her to go even though we have offered to pay the balance. I am going to have to organise mediation again, and possibly court. Ah... the joys of shared custody. The next person that says to me, "wow, you are so lucky have so much time to yourself when they are away! How do you fill in the time?!" will get a punch in the face. LOL. I didn't have kids to have them half the time.
Sorry, I'm rambling again. The kids are so excited and we are trying to include them in everything, so they don't feel "separate" from us because of going back and forth between houses. Little things like making sure we only ever have family photos with us ALL in them for example. I would hate for them to think they don't belong here. It breaks my heart that I can't just keep them fulltime with me.
Okay, that wraps it up! On another note, what do you think of my "lines"?
Thank you KelleyNJen, for sharing your story with me, and I hope that we both get our little bfp soon! 
Trying to stay positive, although I'm feeling very disheartened today since the tests are neg this morning. 
but she is 110% girl. The funniest part was my mom. We had played so many April fools day jokes on her that she did not believe me and actually made the nurse take the diaper off to prove it was a girl! By the way she was due 3/2 but born 4/1
I love it! That is the best story. A month "past due" born on April Fools with the unexpected gender. Amazing. Truth told, I don't blame Grandma for wanting proof under those circumstances. It would have been a super prank. 
fingers crossed!
