little rant - since when did it become ok...?

[grey_pony]

To ask someone how dilated they are? Everyone - relatives, friends, acquaintances, strangers - have asked me this question when they learn how far along I am. I just find it odd. I don't ask people about their private parts!

Plus, it's none of their business. I have refused cervical checks at my last two appointments, and am 40 weeks tomorrow. They told me I don't need an internal exam until 41 weeks. Nobody can believe that I am not curious and have not been checked! I just don't care, since it's not really an indication of when I will go into labor. Next time someone asks me how dilated I am, I am going to say, "Nine! She might fall out any minute."

What strange things to people say or ask you?

 

[FeistyMom]

Another good response is... 'I'm not sure - want to check really quick?'

I guarentee you won't get the question again from that person.

I don't really get a lot of weird questions, but I have a bit of a reputation around my office for coming up with that kind of response

 

[Futuremommy1]

that is a ridiculous question! And people should be put in their place for asking.

I'd think of a just as personal question to respond with something like
"how many times did you orgasm the last time you had sex?"

or something

 

[abbie1992]

i hated it when id be walking down the street or in the supermarket then all of a sudden this random pair of hands would appear on my belly, turn round and see a complete stranger. once after i had my first child i was in asda and a random woman actually came and took him out of my arms and said i love boys to say the least.. i was shocked and snatched him back but it seriously shows some people have no knowlege of what is wrong and right lol

 

[ovetta2001]

I would ask them how big their lady parts are and see how they like it

 

[xBabyGoose]

omg thats so rude!!

Id probably reply with... 'More importantly, how's your vagina doing??'

I cant quite think at the top of my head what people have said to me, i work in Sainsburys so i get alot, but the one that really bugs me is...

'Are you pregnant?'

Idiots. No, ive just eaten too many bloody pies, have you seen the size of me??

 

[sam1984]

wow, the world thinks they own you when you are having a baby.
i have had a few people look at me with a very strange look on there face, nod and say are you?
when i say am i what they ask if i am expecting to which they get a quick 'why would you say that' and walk away.
they dont ask again

 

[Housewife83]

No one has asked me that so far but if they do I think I'll wave my hand in their face and say 'I don't know, I've got stubby fingers'.

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

Oh my god how RUDE! I can't believe some people!

 

[nickyXjayno]

Oh my god how is that acceptable?
If anyone asks me that I'll just say *excuse me?!* in a really horrified way loudly, hopefully embarrass them!

 

[citymouse]

No one has asked me that so far but if they do I think I'll wave my hand in their face and say 'I don't know, I've got stubby fingers'.

 

[gills8752]

thats jsut weird!! i would defo answer with I'm not sure, hows your vagina doing? Especially since it seems to freak people out saying vagina! lol

 

[Amethyste]

Lol, i never thought people would be asking that !!!

 

[mom22boys]

I had several people ask when I was pregnant with my boys! LOL I never thought anything about it really.

I just dont like it when your early in pregnancy and people ask how far along you are and then they remind you that its very early and that things could still happen! It makes me sad!

 

[aley28]

Other inappropriate/annoying questions/comments:
"Are you breastfeeding?"
Um, no, not anymore. My mom weaned me about 22 years ago.

"How far dilated are you?"
Dang it, you know, I forgot to check this morning. Here, hold my purse.

"Are you having twins?"
You do realize you are putting your own safety at risk by asking such a rude question that is clearly meant to be some sort of joke about my size... right? I am not to be held liable if I punch you in the teeth. Consider it an inappropriate response to an inappropriate question!

"Haven't you had that baby yet?"
Yep! I did actually give birth to him a while back, but decided that it was too hard to take care of him, so I put him back, which is why I still look pregnant and am not holding or near a newborn.

"You are going to have your hands full!"
Oh shoot. You mean two kids is more work than just one? Nobody told me that!

"How much weight have you gained?"
How much do YOU weigh? Oh, sorry... I thought it was, "Ask questions that are none of your fucking business" day, too. My bad.