LO going to nursery for first time tomorrow :-(

[lianne82]

I'm totally dreading it! She had 3 "settling in" sessions last week, first for an hour and I stayed - she was fine, second for 2 hours and I stayed 15 mins - she was crying when I picked her up, third session 4hours and apparently was screaming when my mum got her!! I feel like I'm totally letting her down, it's the best nursery around and everyone wants to go there but I still feel terrible! She will be there 10 hours twice a week, is this going to change her if she hates it? I'm so scared she will change her lovely personality I could cry!

 

[daisy9]

I'm in the same boat, lo has her settling in session tomorrow and starts in 2 weeks. I keep telling myself the positives. They are professionals, she will enjoy being with other children, they will do interesting activities with her, feed her things I might not think too and hopefully she will be more outgoing and confident for it. I feel for you tho, I cry regularly about it!

 

[jade1991]

I have JUST been through this.

My LO now goes to nursery 2 days a week for 8 hours. She started last monday..

I started the settling in sessions 2 weeks before, and she cried every single time, for the whole time. I felt AWFUL. It didnt matter if I was in the room out the room she screamed so much. She was really distressed, like I'd never seen her cry before. Then after the first week of half hour a day, she started to be fine while I was in the room, but screamed when I left til when I came back. The 7th session I left the room and she only cried for 5 mins, and stayed in for half hour no tears, apart from when I came back haha. The 8th one, no tears at all, I left her there for half hour, only cried when I picked her up. And the 9th and 10th, nothing, no tears at all!
Now she started last monday and she has been BRILLIANT. Everyone in there was shocked as she was SO bad at the start, they thought i'd have to pospone going back and take another 2 week of settling in's because she was so bad but she completely turned around. I think its cuz I stayed in for the first 5 mins of each session and then quickly left. Now I just take her to nursery, hand her over and go. No tears! And when me/OH pick her up she is so excited! Giggling the whole time.

The settling in periods and the first day were absolute hell for me. Infact I posted a post identical to this, I was really stressed out and worried about it and everyone told me it would be fine after she got used to it, but I didnt believe it. And she did! Now I dont dread taking her there. Honestly it WILL get better. Plus she is just starting to go through separation anxiety which is a bad time for them anyway with new faces

Hang in there hun! Does get easier xxxx

 

[MumToEva]

Hey Hun. It's hard to start with, but I really do think now that she has settled, nursery is doing Eva the world of good in terms of being more outgoing, learning to interact with other children, share toys and not expect to be the centre of attention all the time, and to be less clingy toward me. You will feel like the worst mummy in the world for a week or two, but just remember you are doing what is necessary for the sake of your family by going back to work.

 

[mellyboo]

Awe my baby is 4 months and me and oh we're just talking about when she goes it's going to hard on all of us but we will adjust its just getting they the adjusting! Hugs

 

[mellyboo]

Opps getting pass the adjusting ... iPhone argh

 

[lianne82]

Thanks girls! That's made me feel a bit better! I just feel bad as I've been back at work since October last year but my mum had her 3 days a week, but my mum is now saying that's too much in respect of her arthritis and I being exhausting! I just want to make it better for my LO. I dropped her at 7:30am today and she looked all wide eye as if to say "what do you think you're doing!" And they just took her off me and I left, I wanted to cry! I can't stop thinking about her now! I won't get to her until 5:30pm tonight!

 

[jade1991]

Aw hun she will be okay! I still cant stop thinking about millie all day when im in work but it does get easier. Especially when you pick her up and they tell you all the nice things shes done and how well shes been. Honestly she will be fine xx

 

[lianne82]

Thanks hun! I hope so. I can't wait to get her and give her a big cuddle but at the same time I'm dreading it now because I don't want to hear that's she's been upset all day!

 

[MorganEvans]

Let's hope for the best, im sure it will get better

 

[lianne82]

Well...she was fine!! Smiling being held when I got there! Had refused to nap properly, but that's typical Edie, she's been fighting naps with me. Eaten breakfast, a little lunch and some dinner too. I feel so relieved! I also had a little valentines card they'd made with her footprints last Thursday that my mum hasn't picked up! So sweet!