LO just gone to the childminder for the first time

[missVN]

And I cried

Thought I felt ok about it but now I'm not so sure, I feel sick

The childminder is lovely, as are the two little boys she looks after and I'm very happy with my decision to have her look after Ryan but now I just want him home. I start back at work in 2 weeks and I was looking forward to it but now I don't want to go Please tell me it gets eaiser

He's only gone for the morning for his settling in session so now I'm going round to my sister-in-laws so I can steal my 5 mth old niece for baby cuddles

 

[TeresaG]

I came back to work 6 weeks ago am doing three days a week. My mother in law is looking after my little girl. The first day I left her I cried all the way to work in the car. I still find it hard to leave her but it is slighly easier. I miss her so much and wish I could stay at home with her.

 

[First-wee-P]

It does get easier!

My little boy is 15 months, are I only started back at work last week (I am very lucky, it's only 3 a'noons a week). The first few days were awful, he cried, I cried, I couldn't even eat I felt so bad. But like you, the childminder is lovely and I am very happy with where he will be when I am not with him. We had to do 3 weeks settling in as he is a bit older than most babies who start. But last week, he didn't cry and I actually enjoyed my time at work, and I never thought that I'd say that!!

Allow yourself to feel how you are feeling. Other people love telling you "he'll be ok", "it'll do you good" so just smile and nod, but it's ok to feel sad about it

 

[vaniilla]

it does get easier lo goes to a childminder 3 days full time, we did a 1 month settling in period and he now loves it there and you know he's getting looked after well, give it time and it won't be so bad

 

[missVN]

Thanks ladies

I picked Ryan up at 1pm and he was fine. Childminder said he had been really good, had been for a sleep (even tho it was only 20 mins) and hadn't been upset. He was just starting to get a bit grizzly when I arrived to collect him and even though he was pleased to see me, he wasn't dying to get out the door so it can't have been that bad!
I do feel relieved but still feeling sick at the thought of having to leave him every day

 

[bellablue]

aww hun that must be tuff hugs hun

 

[lynz98]

I too had to leave my lo at nursery today for two hours and its not nice leaving her but when I went back she was fine. Im going back to work in two weeks too so know what your going through. Its just gone over far too quick!

 

[xxClaire_24xx]

just wait til hes crying cause he doesnt want to go home lol that happened with Mia she wanted to stay and play til the very end when all the other kids went home xx

 

[missVN]

Thanks everyone, I know Ryan will be absolutely fine. He's such a sociable, easy going baby.
I don't know why it's hit me so hard really. I'm completely happy with my choice of childminder and I was really looking forward to getting back to work as I love my job. I wasn't even nervous in the run up to today but once he was gone I just felt horrible

 

[bunnyg82]

Aww it's so hard. I had my son's first settling in session at nursery last weekend and I cried, even though I was staying with him for the hour!! Then we had the second session two days later and I left him for half an hour and cried the whole time in the car outside the nursery!

I have his third tomorrow and have to leave him for 2 hours and the same again on Thursday before starting work a week today and having to leave him at nursery 2 days a week and his Nanny's half a day. I don't want to leave him, but have no choice and am not happy about it! x

 

[hawalkden]

This is from a Nursery Practitioners point of view. I'm currently 28 weeks pregnant and I work in a Private Day Nursery in all the aged ranged rooms and we're always getting new additions who haven't been to a setting and just come straight from home and honestly I bet she loves going to the Childminders.

I believe Childminders are a better setting option for parents due to the extra interaction and outings etc with other Childminders within the area.

I'm sure your LO is covered in paint and food in their fingernails and giving you the grin of happiness when you pick them up and makes you feel even more guilty because you know they've had a great time.

Childminders also have a lot more one-to-one time with the children in their care which means if they are upset etc their career is on hands right away. I'm not saying nurseries or other settings aren't but they have more children within a room etc..

Hope LO has settled and is bringing you lots of arts and crafts home also I bet they are in their last set of spare clothes and the rest is in nappy sacks in their bag due to exploring all the messy things

 

[missVN]

This is from a Nursery Practitioners point of view. I'm currently 28 weeks pregnant and I work in a Private Day Nursery in all the aged ranged rooms and we're always getting new additions who haven't been to a setting and just come straight from home and honestly I bet she loves going to the Childminders.

I believe Childminders are a better setting option for parents due to the extra interaction and outings etc with other Childminders within the area.

I'm sure your LO is covered in paint and food in their fingernails and giving you the grin of happiness when you pick them up and makes you feel even more guilty because you know they've had a great time.

Childminders also have a lot more one-to-one time with the children in their care which means if they are upset etc their career is on hands right away. I'm not saying nurseries or other settings aren't but they have more children within a room etc..

Hope LO has settled and is bringing you lots of arts and crafts home also I bet they are in their last set of spare clothes and the rest is in nappy sacks in their bag due to exploring all the messy things

Thank you

I know lo is going to have a brilliant time, the childminder is lovely and does so much with the kids, far more than I do right now. She also looks after another 2 little boys who are 2 and 2.5yrs and they seem very sweet.

It's funny really, right up until today I was completely happy with the plans, relaxed and looking forward to working again. I didn't expect to feel such an achey, empty hole inside me when he went and it's knocked me off my feet a bit. I'm sure that it will be easier next time. Ryan has been fone, it's not affected him at all so that makes me feel a little better.