LO loves Daddy more?

[Palestrina]

I know my LO loves me but for a while now he seems to prefer Daddy. I stay at home with LO while DH works and then when he comes home I usually go to work part time. So LO spends equal time with the both of us. But when we're both home LO wants to be with Daddy all the time, he showers him with affection and wants him to feed him, give him his milk, change his diaper, all that. He doesn't seem to want me at all and it's starting to get to me. When Daddy comes home he runs over but when I come home he looks up and smiles but doesn't pull himself away from his toys. It's really starting to get me down. I know I shouldn't be questioning our bond but I get a little jealous and I feel awful about that.

 

[lovehearts]

My LO went through a phase like this recently, only the last few weeks has he been wanting me more. We both work and like you explained, when daddy comes in he runs to him shouting 'dadddyyyy' when i come in he smiles and carries on doing whatever. It is horrible but recently i have been his go-to. If he wants anything doing he will come and grab my hand and get me to help rather than daddy. I always joked that he preferred daddy as he did all the fun things where as i do all the feeding, changing bum and nagging but deep down i was upset.

I hope its just a phase for your LO too. xx

 

[hattiehippo]

Tom is like this but in reverse..he always wants me rather than daddy. He has got better since 2 1/2 but for a long time DH couldn't do anything without Tom screaming at him to go away.

I insist that he does spend time with daddy and does some things with him - i either remove myself or tell him i won't be able to play with etc if he doesn't. If he refuses to cuddle daddy then it turns into a family cuddle instead etc.

It is easier now than a year ago and he is starting to want to do 'boy' things with daddy more. DH takes him swimming on his own once a week which has really helped to build a bigger bond too.

 

[seoj]

Awe hun- it's totally natural to feel this way. Honestly, my LO spends much of her time with my MIL- and usually when I come home, she'll run up to me, but then quickly runs off and doesn't want to be distracted- and if I try to pick her up, sometimes she'll run to MIL!!! She'll do the same when I come home and she's been with her Dad for a while- with her, it has a lot to do with who she's spent the day with. Other days, when I have her more, she want me to do things for her etc... but more often than not, if she's been with Dad or MIL most of the day- she kinda snubs me (at first) and takes a bit to warm up and then she's fine with whomever. I used to take it personal- and it started to get to me- but I KNOW the bond we have. I'm her Mom. No one else will ever be her Mom.

I think sometimes kids just go through phases- it's normal, but doesn't mean it doesn't sting a little. I'm sure it's a phase- just try to know it has nothing to do with how he feels about you. Easier said than done- but he loves you, your his Mom.

 

[Moti]

We're going through this right now with our daughter....daddy is her favorite. If it's just her and me, she's fine with me. If we're all together she only wants him. Sometimes I can barely pick her up without her whining and trying to get away.

Cries, whines, follows him if he leaves the room. If I leave, she waves good-bye. Breaks my heart sometimes, but I know it's just a phase...I hope anyway.

 

[Hunbun]

LO is always so excited to see his daddy but couldn't really careless if I was there or not. I always thought it was because I don't work so I am always here and he has just got used me.

If he isn't well though he only wants me, so I get all the snotters and DH gets all the laughs... sounds about right.

 

[Banshee]

Ds1 has been like this almost for as long as I can remember. He's fine when we're together and I get lots of hugs and cuddles but as soon as daddy is on the scene he doesn't want anything to do with me. I used to get really upset about it but now I'm just kinda used to it. I did hope it was just a phase but this 'phase' has been going on for nearly two years now so I'm thinking maybe it isn't... Lol
Hope it gets better for you soon.

 

[kmumtobe]

LO is always so excited to see his daddy but couldn't really careless if I was there or not. I always thought it was because I don't work so I am always here and he has just got used me.

If he isn't well though he only wants me, so I get all the snotters and DH gets all the laughs... sounds about right.

This, exactly!

 

[Palestrina]

It's very tough because it bleeds through the rest of our lives as well. At toddler group the other toddlers interact a lot with their mommies and are always running up to them showing them a toy or something they did. My LO pretty much ignores me the entire time. There is one activity where all the toddlers are on one side of the room and all the parents are on the other side of the room and the teacher tells them to run to mommy! Everyone does except my LO, he runs to the toys. He's like this anywhere we go, he's not a needy child and doesn't ever whine to be picked up and isn't scared of interacting with strangers. I know it's terrible of me but I do wish once in a while he'd want to stay close.

As for the daddy love, I don't ever want it to go away, I just want to be special too.

 

[lovehearts]

You are special hun, Your his mommy and noone can compare to that!

 

[mj2004]

Aww, I know how you feel, my lo is the same way! I'm a sahm so he is with me all day, but when daddy comes home I could disappear and lo could care less! It can be very disheartening I know,but just remember you're his mommy and no one can take your place!