Long Term TTC 35+

[lola13]

Any other ladies been at this longer than normally expected? I've now crossed past the 3 year mark of TTC and never a BFP! I started when I was 33 and I'll be 37 this year.

I'm pulling out all the stops now & hoping it will happen soon. DH and I have had all tests & everything is normal - regular cycles, ovulate on my own, 2 open tubes, normal SA.

Dust to all the long-termers!

 

[Kiki09]

Hi, I been at it for just over 2 years, I have pcos, under active thyroid and suffer with aneamia, I have been pregnant 2 but sadly still not a mum..I am on clomid and have just had my dosage increased to 100mg.. keeping everything crossed it happens soon as this is not an easy road and I am 39 soon!! eek!

 

[babyanise]

been at it for 15 months,only been useing pregnacare and pre-seed and opk's this month

 

[lola13]

Hi Kiki & Babyanise - I just realized my signature with current situation isn't showing on this board. I'm on my third round of 100mg clomid this month, and just had my first IUI last Friday. This is my last try on clomid, at least for now.

Anise - have you done any fertility testing?

 

[jonnanne3]

I am 38 and we have been TTC for 39 months after a tubal reversal. I have 3 healthy children with a grandbaby on the way. We have had 4 mc's. We have had all the tests done and all is perfect. It's just my age. I am 38 and my eggs are 38. I am currently taking Femara, but in a month or two if we aren't pregnant, we will start the injectibles.
I am glad this section has started. Good luck girls and I hope our stay here is short. and baby to all of us!

 

[babyanise]

Hi Kiki & Babyanise - I just realized my signature with current situation isn't showing on this board. I'm on my third round of 100mg clomid this month, and just had my first IUI last Friday. This is my last try on clomid, at least for now.

Anise - have you done any fertility testing?

yes,all is gd,its just my age lol 43.

 

[DillyC]

Helllooo

I too have been TTC for nearly 2y, we were referred for Assisted conception in Nov last year and hope to have treatment with ICSI between Sept-Dec this year on the NHS.

Diagnosed with OH low sperm count due to Undecended testicle as a child and L Varicocele, so less than 1mil sperm count....

I'm 36 ....due to be 37 in just over a week...aarrgghh!!!! and OH 33y.

Fingers crossed for us all xxx

 

[mrphyemma]

Hi Ladies,

I'm 37 and have three children aged 15, 12 and 6. Never had any problems conceiving until now. It is 18 months since we started ttc and nothing. My progesterone levels were in the 20's so it is thought I aren't ovulating properly alone. Had an hsg done and it was found that my left fallopian tube is blocked. I'm on my 2nd cycle of clomid and have found out today that I have ovulated, my progesterone level was 69 so I am extremely happy. Even if I don't get a BFP this cycle at least I know the clomid makes me ovulate
Babydust to you all xx

 

[ArticBaby]

everyone

Wow our own forum

Im 39 dh is 41....were ttc our first. My dh is going to see a urologist in august about his low sperm count and why we are not able to concieve.

I have all my tests, came out okay . I do have a small fibriod, but there more worried about my dh and want him to get some tests on him first and go on from there....and we shall see.

 

[nellis10]

Yoohoo!!

I'm 39 DH is 47 and we are trying to conceive #2 for about 3.5 years now. I had 2 pregnancies back to back last year both of which ended in MC.

Still hopeful of another natural pregnancy and birth but we are on the waiting list for IVF hopefully next February.

I'm also using Duofertility as I am gadget mad and if I don't get pregnant in 12 months I get my money bac...so I am hoping for a baby to lose my money!

 

[mogsanddogs]

Know how you ladies feel had first pregnancy at 34 caught first month after comming off pill and had a healthy baby boy ,started trying again 2 years later bot no joy .have been trying for 8 years nothing wrong oly age is against me,had mmc at 9 weeks 3 weeks ago.and at 44 feel that it has got to happen soon ,at least i know it can happen.
the doctor thinks that bieng over weight had hampered my chanches of concieving for all those years and now i have lost over 4 stones my body is working better so i hope it happens again soon and the same for all you girls in the same boat

 

[Omi]

Hi ladies,

great to have our own forum, eh?

Just wanted to comment on a thing in a posting above from Jonnanne.

Yes, your eggs are 39 years old (hey, mine are 40!! ) but if you take a different view of it it can make a world of difference. I read this from a female fertility specialist who said that although your eggs are as old as your age, do not forget they were made in the womb, thus were brand new and not really 39 years old. In comparison with men who really have sperm as old as they are seeing as they produce new sperm every 3 months.

The issue of declining fertility is mostly due to declining egg reserves so it takes an older woman longer to conceive. It also does not make you mc more (i was assured of this at the fertility clinic). if you take into comparison that a healthy, young couple take on average 12 months to conceive, taking longer than that shouldn't freak anyone out (hear that, mum? ) It does of course though not make it easier... yep, i know....

I guess i just want to inject some positivity into this discourse cause i feel we get enough of this depressing crap on telly, papers and the internet.

Among my friends and acquaintances all had children 35 and past. Statistics from nearly all western countries confirm that more children are born to women over 35 and 40 than ever before, so surely those stats speak for themselves.

I would also like to add that the epidemic of infertility, and yes i believe it is an epidemic and not like so often depicted; an army of sharp suited business women who suddenly decide its time to reproduce when its too late, is also due to the world we live in. Pollution, invasive birth control and lack of studies into the reasons people really have a hard time to conceive should also should be cited as reasons.

I don't want to come across all ranting and raving but i do get fed up by it sometimes. Fact is, there are sooo many reasons we now know could throw a spanner in the works - not just age. Enough said, lol!

Anywhoo..im overjoyed about our new forum and i'd like to say GOOD LUCK to us all!!



Omi xxx

 

[mogsanddogs]

brilliant reply omi!!,i know how you feel ,as soon as i discovered i was pregnant i just felt so negative all the time as everywhere you look there is so much bad press for us older girls and i think that just made me feel doomed from the start,need lots of posative vibes

I will be prgnant before im 45!!!!

 

[Sparky67]

Can I join?

Me and the OH both have easily conceived children from previous relationships and when we got married 7 years ago thought things would happen more or less straight away again... How wrong were we.

We had tests a few years back and I was told I was hostile to him, although having read a bit more on it now, I wonder whether that was all. We were told although it could happen it was very unlikely.

Anbyway, we tried for a year or two, but then life sort of took over and we more NTNP, and eventually just came to terms with the fact it wasn't to be. I never wanted to get obsessive about things, and we weren't eligible for IVF on the NHS.

In February of this year, totally out of the blue, we got a BFP but sadly had a MMC at 9 weeks.

Now we know it could happen, we are actively trying again. So far I have started charting, drinking grapefruit juice, have the cough medicine ready for the next cycle and have a brand spanking new Clearblue Fertility Monitor ready and waiting! We just don't have 7 years for it to happen again (I am 43 next month and the other half is 44).

And just a point on the weight issue - for 5 of the 7 years we were trying I was a size 12. Having had a stressful couple of years I have put on a considerable amount of weight, and it is only now when I am the heaviest and unfittest I have been in the last 7 years that I got the BFP.

My chart this month is all looking a bit odd (its the first one, so nothing to compare it to) although it could be the hangover from the MC as this is my first "proper" cycle since.

Good luck to us all!!

 

[gkluvslpm]

We have been trying for about 4 years now, I had my only child at 36 and am trying for another

 

[lola13]

Anyone getting close to the end of this cycle? Wondering who will be the first BFP of the thread!

I have about 10 more days, but generally feeling good about this cycle.

 

[susan88]

It just shows how determined you are to get pregnant. Wishing you pregnancy success. Try to stay positive and don't lose hope. Soon will be your day.

 

[Sparky67]

Anyone getting close to the end of this cycle? Wondering who will be the first BFP of the thread!

I have about 10 more days, but generally feeling good about this cycle.

AF is due any day, and I'm on my 15th day of high temps post OV, but I'm not feeling any symptoms and have gone up a pound or so in the last couple of days which often means I am due on. After 7 years of nothing, to fall in the first month of trying after the MC would just be too good to be true.

 

[mrphyemma]

Good Luck Sparky!! I am 11dpo and due AF on Sunday. BFN's so far on ic hpt but hopefully just too early.

 

[lola13]

Sparky & Emma - Here's to the two of you being our first success stories Keep us posted.