pa2k84
Mummy to Lucas Richard
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Husband has been seeing someone for a while, i knew but he kept on denying it. The woman in question was spending time with my chidren (with him), buying them presents etc. although i have never met her.
He finally a couple of weeks ago confessed and basically moved out that night to live with her telling boys the next evening. Boys obviously upset but at the same time ex bigging up how he and C have a nice room for the boys in house and have bought bunk beds for them to stay over which they are excited about.
My issue is my kids thik this other woman is wonderful and keep on telling me how lovely she is and i need to see her and will know how great she is etc. Ex obviously went about things the very wrong way but i am now left feeling very mixed.
I am not upset one bit with him going, we have not really been together for a couple years and i have done eveything on my own including holidays as he was only interested in running (and other women really).
I however don't want my children to go round his new house to this woman, boys getting cross with me as she is wonderful aparently and finding myself telling boys how she is not and she is the reason daddy is not at home which i know is wrong just comes out.
Other thing is my eldest has to go anf talk to someone at school once a week (emotional support thing nit linked to his dad moving out more he has other issues) and the teacher who talks to him has told him that now his daddy has lef he can work on being a better dad which he has told his dad who is now using the same line, again i am finding myself telling my son how that is rubbish and if he really wanted to be a good dad he would have bothered with us when he was at home.
I am at the moment actually feeling quite annoyed at the teacher and want to say something but know will cause issues (teachers daughter is in my youngest class at school and i see her socially and know she is going through a break up herself) but i don't know what to do.
My children are desperate to go round to their dads new place and see his partner again always asking to talk to her on the phone etc. but it makes me feel very uncomfortable.
Sorry for the ramble but i have noone to talk to and feels good to get it all out even though i think i may have made a million typos tying so fast!
He finally a couple of weeks ago confessed and basically moved out that night to live with her telling boys the next evening. Boys obviously upset but at the same time ex bigging up how he and C have a nice room for the boys in house and have bought bunk beds for them to stay over which they are excited about.
My issue is my kids thik this other woman is wonderful and keep on telling me how lovely she is and i need to see her and will know how great she is etc. Ex obviously went about things the very wrong way but i am now left feeling very mixed.
I am not upset one bit with him going, we have not really been together for a couple years and i have done eveything on my own including holidays as he was only interested in running (and other women really).
I however don't want my children to go round his new house to this woman, boys getting cross with me as she is wonderful aparently and finding myself telling boys how she is not and she is the reason daddy is not at home which i know is wrong just comes out.
Other thing is my eldest has to go anf talk to someone at school once a week (emotional support thing nit linked to his dad moving out more he has other issues) and the teacher who talks to him has told him that now his daddy has lef he can work on being a better dad which he has told his dad who is now using the same line, again i am finding myself telling my son how that is rubbish and if he really wanted to be a good dad he would have bothered with us when he was at home.
I am at the moment actually feeling quite annoyed at the teacher and want to say something but know will cause issues (teachers daughter is in my youngest class at school and i see her socially and know she is going through a break up herself) but i don't know what to do.
My children are desperate to go round to their dads new place and see his partner again always asking to talk to her on the phone etc. but it makes me feel very uncomfortable.
Sorry for the ramble but i have noone to talk to and feels good to get it all out even though i think i may have made a million typos tying so fast!