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Hi everyone,
I am new here. I've never posted in a forum like this- I feel very alone right now, but I have been comforted by reading other posts.
I was about to turn 10 weeks pregnant and I started spotting brown the day of my wedding reception (27/10). I tried to enjoy the night and kept reading online that brown is not a bad thing.
The spotting continued the next day, it wasn't a lot but I was worried, I knew that miscarriage is common and I had been pretty nervous about it the whole pregnancy. On the Monday I was booked in for a scan by the EPU. I had to wait for my scan with loads of happily pregnant ladies rubbing their lovely bumps, I still had hope. I went in and had a trainee sonogropher. She was lovely but her colleague who was training her was pretty meh. Didn't say hello to me or anything. She couldn't really find anything when she scanned my belly, but it was hard to tell if she was struggling to use the machine. She asked her colleague to help her who just said 'it's pretty clear, it's just too small, I need to do an internal scan" she said this to her colleague, not me.
She put the probe in me and said it's measuring at 5mm and that's too small for us to measure the heartbeat so I have to have another scan in a week.
Then they did the whole "are you sure about your dates blah blah blah"
They didn't even tell me the baby was gone, because that's 'not their protocol'. I was sent home and told to come back in a week.
I started bleeding more that night and I think everything is passing naturally now. I'm still bleeding and cramping, I just hope this is over by the time I have the next scan. I'm really upset that they couldn't be straight forward with me, it seems really harsh. I asked them if the baby was dead and they wouldn't tell me because it was my first scan. If we had more support from our doctors at the beginning and they confirmed everything instead of relying on us to do home tests then they would have solid evidence of dates and things, but they resort to saying we might be wrong about our dates.
My husband is being very nice and my family, but they keep saying at least I know I can get pregnant and that it was for the best and all these things, but I just want to be allowed to be upset. I thought I was having a baby, I was going to have my 12 week scan really soon, I had all the pregnancy symptoms but now it's gone. Not sure how I feel about trying again now. It's all very traumatic.
Did anyone here lose their first baby and then go on to have a rainbow baby?
Sorry for the long rambly post, I'm probably in the angry stage of mourning or something. Plus I'm still in pain
I am new here. I've never posted in a forum like this- I feel very alone right now, but I have been comforted by reading other posts.
I was about to turn 10 weeks pregnant and I started spotting brown the day of my wedding reception (27/10). I tried to enjoy the night and kept reading online that brown is not a bad thing.
The spotting continued the next day, it wasn't a lot but I was worried, I knew that miscarriage is common and I had been pretty nervous about it the whole pregnancy. On the Monday I was booked in for a scan by the EPU. I had to wait for my scan with loads of happily pregnant ladies rubbing their lovely bumps, I still had hope. I went in and had a trainee sonogropher. She was lovely but her colleague who was training her was pretty meh. Didn't say hello to me or anything. She couldn't really find anything when she scanned my belly, but it was hard to tell if she was struggling to use the machine. She asked her colleague to help her who just said 'it's pretty clear, it's just too small, I need to do an internal scan" she said this to her colleague, not me.
She put the probe in me and said it's measuring at 5mm and that's too small for us to measure the heartbeat so I have to have another scan in a week.
Then they did the whole "are you sure about your dates blah blah blah"
They didn't even tell me the baby was gone, because that's 'not their protocol'. I was sent home and told to come back in a week.
I started bleeding more that night and I think everything is passing naturally now. I'm still bleeding and cramping, I just hope this is over by the time I have the next scan. I'm really upset that they couldn't be straight forward with me, it seems really harsh. I asked them if the baby was dead and they wouldn't tell me because it was my first scan. If we had more support from our doctors at the beginning and they confirmed everything instead of relying on us to do home tests then they would have solid evidence of dates and things, but they resort to saying we might be wrong about our dates.
My husband is being very nice and my family, but they keep saying at least I know I can get pregnant and that it was for the best and all these things, but I just want to be allowed to be upset. I thought I was having a baby, I was going to have my 12 week scan really soon, I had all the pregnancy symptoms but now it's gone. Not sure how I feel about trying again now. It's all very traumatic.
Did anyone here lose their first baby and then go on to have a rainbow baby?
Sorry for the long rambly post, I'm probably in the angry stage of mourning or something. Plus I'm still in pain
. I am feeling less pain now and starting to feel better in myself. I think we will try again in the new year.
