lost the little bean

Discussion in 'Trying To Conceive' started by Shazzy, Oct 7, 2008.

  1. Shazzy

    Shazzy Well-Known Member

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    I found out today that i had lost my little bean. :(
    I guess ill be joining you an ttc again,
    The doctor told me to wait two cycles before ttc ???? is this true???
     
  2. kaygeebee

    kaygeebee Mum & Cautiously Pregnant

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    I'm so sorry hun :hug:
     
  3. maddiwatts19

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    so sorry for your loss hun!!
    :hugs:
    x
     
  4. Chris77

    Chris77 Mommy to PJ and Gavin

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    I'm so sorry for your loss. :hugs:
     
  5. Omi

    Omi A Mummy At Last!

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    My advice would be to ttc when you feel ready physically but more importantly emotionally. Unless you had any special cicumstances that prevent you from ttc ritgh away, id say follow the advice above.

    There are no medical reasons for waiting (unless otherwise stated) and should you conceive again quickly a dating scan will be used anyway, to date the pg, which is why some doctors ask you to wait. However, the main reason given by doctors to wait a while is to give yourself time to grieve.

    Physically, there's nothing to worry about as your body will only get pg again if its ready for it.

    I started ttc right away as i felt it helped me get over the mc but everyone is different and only you know whats right for you...

    Im so sorry for your loss and please be kind to yourself!

    :hug::hug::hug:, Omi xxx
    ps.the advice was given to me at the hospital (i had a d&c as had mmc) by the head midwife so i trust it implicitly.
     
  6. srm0421

    srm0421 Mom & PG

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    I am so sorry for your loss. Most doctors say to wait awhile to let your body's hormones get back to normal. I have also heard that you are more fertile after a MC. I wish you luck on your journey and hope you get your :bfp: soon.
     
  7. mer01

    mer01 Waiting for brain scan

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    Awww hun I'm so sorry for your loss :hugs:

    :hug:

    xxx
     
  8. Farie

    Farie Well-Known Member

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    So sorry :hugs:
     
  9. buffycat

    buffycat mummy to Enid & Anna...

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    hi Shazzy...

    i'm so sorry to hear your sad news....i know that it isn't easy....

    only you will know when you are ready to start again though.....

    lots of :hugs:
     
  10. Snowball

    Snowball Resident badass

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    I'm so sorry hun :hugs: Thinking of you.
     
  11. kittiekat

    kittiekat Well-Known Member

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    I know it doesn't help when we all say how sorry we all are, as it can't physically change anything but please remember you are in all our thoughts.
     
  12. SJK

    SJK Well-Known Member

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    sorry xx
     
  13. aflight84

    aflight84 Mummy to a princess x

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    I'm so sorry hunni, i thnk you'll know when the time is right for you to start ttc again.
     
  14. happy mum

    happy mum Well-Known Member

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    So sorry for your loss. wishing you luck for the futureXX
     
  15. wantababybump

    wantababybump Well-Known Member

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    So sorry for your loss hun. Only you know when you feel ready to ttc again. I decided to start again right away but with the mentality of "If it happens again, it happens again if not I will just keep trying." My doctor advised me to wait at least one cycle to help everything get all cleaned out in there. My body kind of did it on its own and now am on cycle 3 since the m/c. BIG :hug: to you <3
     
  16. Lyrah

    Lyrah Mummy to my beautiful H<3

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    I'm so so sorry for your loss hun :(

    :hugs::hugs:
     
  17. boysmama

    boysmama Mom of 2 CrAzY Boys & TTC

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    I'm really sorry for your loss.

    With each of my m/c's I started TTC within a few months. I never wanted to wait but I thought I better listen to my OB.

    Let yourself heal, you'll know when you're ready. ;o)
     
  18. Kimberly28

    Kimberly28 HappyMum-2boys1girl <3

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    I am so sorry for your loss. I know you've heard that plenty but it doesn't make it any less true! :hugs: I too would listen to your ob/gyn and when the time limit that he/she places is up and you feel like you're ready then start trying again. For now take care of yourself and get plenty of rest. :hugs: Hang in there, you'll get a sticky bean yet!
     
  19. browneyedshorty81

    browneyedshorty81 mom of 1 ♥ TTC

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    so sorry for your loss hun!! good luck next try
     

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