Love Breastfeeding But ...

[tikaani]

i miss my social life (night) and get jelouse when OH goes out of a evening to the pub, i know i could express but i sold my pump as i found i wasnt getting much.
I also know i could combine feed but i really dont want to as i love being the only one who can feed LO ... ha very mixed feelings here.
Anyone else get like this?

love to bfeed but then think ff would be give you more freedom but dont want to ff because lobe bfeeding lol xx

 

[patch2006uk]

I knew that having a baby would mean a change in priorities. All BFing means as opposed to FFing is that I don't ever get a night off. Nothing else has really bothered me on the social side, as I wouldn't want to go out and leave LO anyway. There's not long when he needs me and only me. I'll get my freedom back eventually!

Could you go out for lunch with people instead of an evening? Then LO can come too and you don't need to worry. And you'll get your social time

 

[elm]

Does it have to be going to the pub? Could you do different things like going to friends houses in the evening / inviting them round? nct evening meetings & groups welcome mums with babies along so that might be something else you could look in to?

 

[tikaani]

we go to language and play, feeding club, Ty a fi (you and me in Welsh) and buggy fit and meet up with friends regularly. I love spending time with Lo and know its going to go really quick but can't help but get jealous when Oh goes out for evening to pub or friends that ff leave LO with OH and have a evening out.
Tbh im just having a moan lol x

 

[patch2006uk]

You're super busy then it's good-stops you talking to the pot plants!

Could you talk to your OH and ask him to have a night in with you instead of going out? Or ask people to come see you in the evening after LO has gone to bed?

 

[elm]

Have you tried hand expressing? It's supposed to be more effective than using a pump - might be worth a go?

 

[Kiddo]

I know what you mean. I have no inclination to go out clubbing or anything but still feel a bit jealous on the odd occasion that oh goes for a night out. I think it's just that he has the freedom to in out without having to consider things like how much milk is in the freezer or how long if can be out without boobs feeling uncomfortable. Sometimes I'm even jealous of him going to work! Obviously his life has totally changed in the past 2 years as well but at least he has that stability and time out the house with no kids in tow. My life is unrecognisable from before we had kids and although i wouldn't have it any other way, i still miss the freedom a bit. Especially when i have to squeeze in a haircut or something between feeds.

 

[Aphrodite]

DH has been bugging me for ages to go out for a night and while I could feasibly go out now as my boobs dont get engorged we would need a babysitter and I dont know many people that would be prepared to come and spend the night on our sofa while we go out raving! And I would feel too guilty to leave him at my Dad's house and upset his routine and surroundings just to go out and have fun. I do miss it, but not enough to sit and feel like I'm mikssing out. He's only little once, I chose to have him, wanted him so much in fact and thought we might never have him-so not going out for a couple of years is more than worth the sacrifice to me. However, I DO miss it, I wouldn't be human if I didn't!!! I'm even desperate to go to the cinema! We really dont have anyone to look after Jack either so even that is difficult.

 

[Cangaroo]

Isabella comes to the pub quiz with us every week... Since they banned smoking in pubs, I don't see a problem with it! She just sleeps in the sling if she's tired. At this age, I say make the most of still being able to take lo with you.

We went to a wedding last weekend, and I was still dancing at 11pm with Isabella fast asleep in the sling!

 

[Green Lady]

I totally understand what you mean. I love my baby to bits and I'm glad I BF for her sake, but I'd pay good money just to have a few hours to myself each week. I tried expressing and had lots of milk but LO never had an interest in the bottle so I just gave up after awhile. Looking back though I really wish I'd said to hell with it all and got her taking a bottle sooner, rather than worry about nipple confusion or my supply. We don't have anyone around us and it's literally just me and the baby all day. My husband works and he seems to take every chance to bugger off somewhere after work or on the weekends, and I see him about two hours a day. I can't get anything done, shopping or housework. I go to bed by 8:30 every night just to get some sleep. And now I'm really worried because I've been having heart palpitations that they want to investigate. What if I end up in hospital? Who'll feed her then? Breastfeeding just seems like a big trap sometimes. I'm really looking forward to weaning!

 

[summer rain]

Isabella comes to the pub quiz with us every week... Since they banned smiling in pubs, I don't see a problem with it! She just sleeps in the sling if she's tired. At this age, I say make the most of still being able to take lo with you.

We went to a wedding last weekend, and I was still dancing at 11pm with Isabella fast asleep in the sling!

lol, I always knew they didn't like people to show they were enjoying themselves in pubs xx

 

[Cangaroo]

Oops! Silly auto-correct! I meant smoking!

 

[Pessimistic]

Yes I know what you mean, I am really really wanting my hair cut and coloured but no idea how that will happen lol. Would love the odd night off and will do if my son will take a bottle when introduced and if I can pump enough but then you have to worry about engorgement and supply when your out, can't win lol. Bfing my baby is more important though end of the day and a night out with friends is still doable when you've finished bfing.

 

[summer rain]

Oops! Silly auto-correct! I meant smoking!

haha I know it just read so funny xx