Low about postnatal body

[Hales1]

Hi everyone

I'm fairly new here but just feeling bit low thus evening and know they'll be someone here who understands

I feel guilty even saying this as I'm so lucky to be able to have children when others can't and my little boy is perfect

I've lost all my weight and am less than before pregnancy but I hate what I'm left with. I was so naive about my body being so different and some things I never even expected

I have lots of ugly stretchmarks and feel they show I failed to look after myself and just discovered loads of unsightly thread veins (never even knew pregnancy caused them)
It's almost scaring me to think that if I have more children it's only going to get worse even though they are worth it

Sorry for the long rant. Any comments/advice welcome

Hayley

 

[BrookieG]

i utterly detest my body im actually sitting with an application form for How to look good naked! Im fed up of none of my pre=preg jeans fitting yet...fed up dieting and exercising....gonna sue Bio-Oil coz they're lying gits! lol x

Everyone keeps telling me its "normal" but i hate it...ive got an ugly dent in the middle of my tummy coz of loose skin...cant bear my hubby looking at me, have 3 pairs of jeans that fit and thats it...look ridiculous in every pair...

dunno that any of that'll help other than u knowing ur not alone hun xx

 

[GersPrincess]

I can understand how you feel now. After 3 babies, my body hadn't really bothered me, I wasn't happy that it had changed (for the worst!) but I was really proud of it for growing 3 beautiful little people.. right up until yesterday morning. My step-son walked into my bedroom as I was getting changed and said "eeerr you're gross, I'm glad mummy doesnt look like you" - and do you know what? I've felt completely sh*t ever since.

Stretch marks do fade with time, and become barely noticeable. And they arent a result of you failing to look after yourself. there were girls at school with me who had them on their arms and breasts, and we were told it's because the skin had to stretch quickly to deal with fast growth as we hit puberty. I would imagine pregnancy stretch marks are the same thing.

You could try using that bio-oil, is supposed to be good, other than that, I can only offer you a million sympathetic cyber hugs xxx

 

[Lynz16]

I know how you feel, I was completely unprepared for the changes, I used to have a completely flat perfect belly and even using all the oils and stretchmark creams religiously during pregnancy I went 2 weeks overdue and still ended up covered in stretchmarks! and who knew you could get them on your boobs from bfing! lol. I was mortified with them all at the beginning but everytime I get upset about them my hubby always says that they are my 'mummy marks' and that I should be proud of them
I guess it will just take time for us to get used to them but we'll get there in the end

 

[Deli]

I can sympathise with this.

My baby is four weeks old tomorrow and I'm breastfeeding him. When I breastfed my other kids the weight fell off me but not this one. I'm starving all the time so am eating more than when I was pregnant and have only lost one stone since he was born!!

I have one pair of wide fit jeans that I bought after he was born and I live in them. They're hideous

To make matters worse my 12 year old daughter asked me why my stomach wasn't flat yet .........

 

[azzii]

Same here sweetheart. Before i got pregnant, my body was great ( well up to my standards) I had a flat stomach and i was very toned. But i was prepared for how my body would change after having my LO. I used creams regiously throughout pregnancy but they didnt help. (DAMMIT) Now im left with stretch marks & loose skin on my tummy . I hate it.

 

[Tudor Rose]

your not alone im only 8 lbs away from my pre pregnancy weight but the saggy skin on my tum gets me down and makes me feel fatter than i actually am as it hangs over my jeans.

 

[beanzean]

I have no right to feel upset about my body....but I do!!!

I know I'm very lucky to have a stunning, perfect little girl and to get away without a single stretchmark but even though I was a size 12 pre-pregnancy after gaining almost 3 stone in 5 yrs since getting married I still had a rock hard, flat abdomen and belly. However after a traumatic C Section (I'm sure they used a knife and fork to cut me open) followed by it getting infected and 4 courses of anti-biotics as it kept splitting open...6 weeks later I'm left with quite an overhang over my scar... and this!!!!

https://i260.photobucket.com/albums/ii16/mistresshgt/009-18.jpg

 

[JosieM]

I wasn't prepared either for how long it would take my body to recover, nearly 7 weeks on my stomach is so flabby and covered in red stretchmarks, still in maternity jeans but they fall down, with normal jeans I can't do the button up. Just hope it gets better with time, I'm so used to being able to eat whatever the hell I like. My friend had her baby at the same time and is completely back to normal. Exercise wise I don't have time except for a fast 2/3 mile walk most days, weather permitting. Don't get me wrong though it was all completely worth it to have my beautiful son and I guess it just goes with the territory.

 

[bump_wanted]

stretch marks are the work of an evil force and i bet hes a man

do you know what annoys me how come celebs NEVER have them even the ones who get massive during pregnancy

and why does no one tell you that you body doesnt go back to normal?? i mean seriously my boobs arent supposed to sit on my big fat belly but they do!!

urgh i hate my body xx

 

[azzii]

The celebs can pay to get them removed. Ha, i would if i had the money.

 

[opticalillus5]

I can sympathise with this.

My baby is four weeks old tomorrow and I'm breastfeeding him. When I breastfed my other kids the weight fell off me but not this one. I'm starving all the time so am eating more than when I was pregnant and have only lost one stone since he was born!!

I have one pair of wide fit jeans that I bought after he was born and I live in them. They're hideous

To make matters worse my 12 year old daughter asked me why my stomach wasn't flat yet .........

My Brother-in-law (who is 25 - the same age as me) asked me the other day when my belly will go down. What made it worse was the fact that i'd just spent AGES doing my hair and make-up to try and make myself feel a little better about my appearance, and I thought (for the first time in quite a while) that I didn't look too bad (albeit fat).

I can soooo relate to this thread

 

[nada87]

i got horrible strech marks the 1st time around not just on my belly but on my legs too. the last two pgs they reinflated (if that makes sense) but by two weeks postpaurtum they are back to the slivery color they were before getting pg. the nasty belly though-- that i can live without. i hate it. and my almost 4 yr old dd keeps telling me i'm fat and my belly is to big.

 

[lauralora]

i think i was very naive about things, i was convinced i wouldnt get stretch marks but i was so SO wrong, got them all over my belly, got them on my hips, tops of legs. im almost back to my pre pregnancy weight and thats helped me accept the stretch marks coz i can look good with my clothes ON, but undressed i have become so insecure, im scared i look unattractive to my boyfriend and i get worried he will find someone else. my boobs have dropped so much and when i sit down i get a huge pouch type thing even though im not even fat, i dont understand why my belly id doing that, grrr x