Good morning ladies!
Well, I would never be able to tell any of my friends in real life about this...none of them are pregnant or in my situation so it's awkward.
My husband and I are staying with my family until we settle on a house (which we hopefully get approved for soon!) and even when everyone IS gone, we don't have a real bed right now. We have an air mattress that has a slow leak in it. It sinks every night after blow it up. This is only a temporary situation as my husband now has a good job (but he is commuting over an hour until we get our new place
) and one of our first priorities with his first check is to get a bed.
However, in the meantime...I just have no desire to have sex on an already deflating air mattress when my back hurts from it all the time. I also have no desire to do it when my family can hear me and the positions I USED to be able to do just aren't comfortable anymore....even on the bed, there is so much pressure that I can't go for long periods of time. I get so tired all of the time if I'm lying down...it's so awful. I realize we can do it in places other than the bed but standing against the wall, on the floor, on a chair...all of those choices sound painful to me right now.
We are newlyweds and I know he wants to make love every day and I get so mad at myself for not being able to fulfill that. What is wrong with me?! Why am I not a sex-crazed maniac like other women when pregnant? It makes me feel so awful, guys. It really does. I cried last night because I feel like I'm a failure as a newlywed. We are very affectionate and loving all the time, but this one aspect is lacking right now because of ME 
By the way, I am only 10 weeks pregnant so I'm hoping this changes....we are also in a big transition period...things are "getting there" in terms of our home, insurance, etc but are taking time to be smooth....so I know that's weighing on my mind, too. This also makes me mad at myself....why can't I just be spontaneous and not care?
Any input or support would be greatly appreciated
Well, I would never be able to tell any of my friends in real life about this...none of them are pregnant or in my situation so it's awkward.
My husband and I are staying with my family until we settle on a house (which we hopefully get approved for soon!) and even when everyone IS gone, we don't have a real bed right now. We have an air mattress that has a slow leak in it. It sinks every night after blow it up. This is only a temporary situation as my husband now has a good job (but he is commuting over an hour until we get our new place
) and one of our first priorities with his first check is to get a bed. However, in the meantime...I just have no desire to have sex on an already deflating air mattress when my back hurts from it all the time. I also have no desire to do it when my family can hear me and the positions I USED to be able to do just aren't comfortable anymore....even on the bed, there is so much pressure that I can't go for long periods of time. I get so tired all of the time if I'm lying down...it's so awful. I realize we can do it in places other than the bed but standing against the wall, on the floor, on a chair...all of those choices sound painful to me right now.
We are newlyweds and I know he wants to make love every day and I get so mad at myself for not being able to fulfill that. What is wrong with me?! Why am I not a sex-crazed maniac like other women when pregnant? It makes me feel so awful, guys. It really does. I cried last night because I feel like I'm a failure as a newlywed.
We are very affectionate and loving all the time, but this one aspect is lacking right now because of ME By the way, I am only 10 weeks pregnant so I'm hoping this changes....we are also in a big transition period...things are "getting there" in terms of our home, insurance, etc but are taking time to be smooth....so I know that's weighing on my mind, too. This also makes me mad at myself....why can't I just be spontaneous and not care?
Any input or support would be greatly appreciated
