MARLOW WARD & his long, scarey birth story on 21/08/09 and the aftermath!..and pics!!

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  1. Lisalovesbean

    Lisalovesbean Well-Known Member

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    So I reached 39 weeks and as many of you know by now, I'd been in labour for five days but not actively so....I'd also been pretty poorly in the last weeks with pains, aches, high bp, hyperememis.....I'd also begged a consultant on my team at my check up on the 13/08 to help me bring the birth forward as I was really suffering....and having a seven year old with severe autism and other special needs plus my five year old daughter, I was really feeling the strain....this pleading was to no avail....unfortunately..:growlmad:

    So Thursday night 20/08, I went to Maternity ward for my pre meds injection and was told I was measuring 45 weeks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Had injection and then returned home for my final night as a Mum of Two.....

    On Friday 21/08/09 me and Rob arrived at Maternity, and we were told that we were not not number one on the list for theatre, but number two.....so at 10 am we walked down to theatre and waited in a side room...I was taken through for the spinal, there was a little difficulty with it but after around twenty minutes, we were good to go....Rob was brought in, in his scrubs looking very fetching in purple!!! All started off well and by 10.45 am the first incision was made....after a few minutes I heard the theatre midwife go "Whoa!!"....and then also heard her being told to be quiet by the consultant....turns out the comment was at the sheer size of my bag of waters...apparentely was of a huge scale...

    ...then things got a little bit hairy and all I remember is the theatre filling up with crash team staff and feeling very scared, I could feel pulling right up in my breastbone as they tried to get Marlow out...it seems when they cut me Marlow's hands popped out and the bag of water started to fall out so they removed it, this caused Marlow to turn and sink back inside me right up in my ribcage, hence the amount of staff trying to help get him out. I could feel burning between my breast bone and I was almost lifting off the bed as they tried to get him. At this point Rob was looking horrified and said to me, "Please promise me now, never ever do this again!"....I vowed there and then I wouldn't.....The consultant then told me they would have to do a upside down t-shaped cut to my uterus in order to reach the baby...finally at 11.38am Marlow was delivered and I was in hysterics at this point as I was in pain, worried my baby was not breathing and and in shock.

    After what seemed an eternity Marlow was finally brought to us...and we discovered we had a beautiful boy, who was covered in severe bruising to the arms and legs and finger print marks and a tiny scalpel cut to his upper back due to pulling and forcing trying to get him out.....after my suturing me and baby were moved to Recovery at 12.40pm Rob was sent off to make the phone calls to family and was instructed to meet us on the post -operative ward at 2pm (no partners allowed in recovery)...

    In recovery all was ok.....and baby was being cared for by a midwife also in the room.....at 1.50pm after a cuddle with Marlow I suddenly became extremely hot and clammy and I asked to be wiped down with a cold flannel, mw did this and within seconds I was sweating again....next thing I
    vaguelly remember was mw shouting for a crash team and the room filling up with docs and nurses....I have little recollections of docs talking to me and hearing about blood loss/clots and then the bed being tipped up arse end and being internally scanned...it is all pretty hazy still....then I heard Rob's voice and looked up to see the clock, it was now 4.35pm....

    We moved to another room close to theatre and remained there till 10.40pm, during this time I was visited by several consultants, theatre technicians, mw's and anaethitists all asking how I was now feeling and weirdly getting patted on the hand and even hugged by some...my parents also visited and my Mum was pretty shocked to see me in such a bad condition...I don't they could believe just how bad things nearly became.

    I was moved late that night to the post op ward were I spent the night before being moved to my own room on Saturday....Marlow remained with me but unfortunately under a double photo therapy cot wearing a ultra voilet suit and helmet so I couldn't cuddle him except for about ten minutes during the first 36 hours...this was really hard for me and he was given donor breast milk as I'd lost almost a litre of blood and my body was too weak to feed him at this point. I was visited once again by a flurry of proffessionals to be told be that I was extremely lucky to be alive and that at one point they thought I was going to be a fatality....this has shocked me to the core as what happened I still have no explanation for and I already have two children that know me and love me....and without me the thought scares me to the core...

    Anyway, I am going to a review/re-brief in the next few weeks to see what the cause was, if this is ever found out, that is. All I can say is that I am very happy to be here and that Marlow and me are doing okay. We got home late last night and have been seen by the mw this morning, Marlow has unfortunately lost 12oz, which is 9.3 of his birth weight....10 and he will need to be re-admitted, but I think he is just a bit tired from all drama hence his chilled outness when it comes to feeding (we are combining till my milk comes in), also I taking copious amounts of meds to build me back up again, but on the whole life is very good!

    I also found out that if I ever get pregnant again....I can only have one more baby, but I won't be...and I should never have been allowed to go past 36 weeks due to my past history!

    Sorry for the longness of this story and the scary bits....but it is what happened and I needed to get it out...here is my beautiful star!

    Marlow at 1 minute...

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    In the photo therapy suit minus the helmet!

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  2. Linzi

    Linzi Prodest mummy ever

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    wow what a story im sorry you had to go through all that

    Your little boy is beautiful though, congrats :) x
     
  3. emmerypemmery

    emmerypemmery Well-Known Member

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    Wow Lisa what a story!!! Marlow is beautiful, very much worth all the effort. I hope you are feeling better soon and wish you and your your family all the best xxxxx
     
  4. msangie11

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    Congratulations on the birth of Marlow he is super cute!!!!

    So sorry to hear the trauma you had to undergo though and I'm so happy and relieved to hear that you are ok.

    It may sound scary but thanks for sharing as it's also important to know that things may not always pan out straightforward. We shouldn't take perfect pregnancies/labours for granted.

    Glad you are all home now. Try and rest as much as possible and get someone to make you some lovely homemade soup to get your energy levels back up.xxxx
     
  5. GersPrincess

    GersPrincess Mummy of 3, soon to be 4!

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    Oh my God Lisa, I cannot believe what you have been through.
    You are one tough cookie, and what a scary experience for you. I am so glad that things have turned out so well and that you still sound so upbeat and positive.

    Congratulations on the birth of Marlow though, I really thought he was going to be a girl, but he has such a beautifully serious little face!! He really is rather scrumptious.

    I hope you both go from strength to strength and recover well and quickly. All our love to you both xxxx
     
  6. bex2602

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    My goodness what a terrible time for you all, i dont quite know what to say! Cannot begin to imagine how scaryit was or is when you think about what you have been through - really pleased to hear your both doing ok though and he is gorgeous!!!! Congratulations!xxx
     
  7. Mommy2Kian

    Mommy2Kian Kaden and Sian :)

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    Omg he is absaloutly gorgeous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! congrats hun xXx:hugs:
     
  8. suzanne108

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    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

    I have to admit I didn't read the story....sorry....not that I don't care, I'm just far far FAR too scared!!! I know you had a trauma though as I had a nosy at the thread which announced you had gone into labour. And I'm really glad that all is well now, I'm sure you will say that it was all worth it.

    I did see the absolutely gorgeously cute pictures though....what a stunner you have there :) I love the picture of his little toes!!!!!!!

    I've seen your postings in 2nd tri (where I belong hehe) and saw the pictures of things you had been buying...he is gonna be one funky little man!

    x x x
     
  9. Scally

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    Congratulations! But sorry to hear u had such an awful time of it. Take care of yourself and rest when u can x
     
  10. firegal

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    OMG, what an ordeal. You have such a gorgeous little man there though - I can't congratulate you enough, and I hope you feel back to full strength in no time!! :hug:
     
  11. CatStorey

    CatStorey Mum to Chloe and Tom :)

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    Wow, what a story. I'm so glad you and Marlow are doing well. He is utterly gorgeous, congrats x x x
     
  12. ChloesMummy

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    What a scary birth! He is absolutely gorgeous x
     
  13. craftymum

    craftymum Mum to Jacob and Jenna

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    congrats hun, he is gorgeous but OMG what a horrible time you had, hope you are both feeling ok now, take it easy and enjoy your gorgeous wee man :hugs:
     
  14. Wombat

    Wombat Married mum of 2:)

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    What a story!! Well done both of you :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:

    He is a little treasure!!!:hugs:
     
  15. 2nd&Last

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    God, what a story! So glad you're both ok xx

    He's gorgeous xx
     
  16. florabean1981

    florabean1981 mum to Harry 06/10/09

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    despite the difficult birth and aftermath- what a seriously gorgeous little boy you have! Completely adorable- makes my heart melt!!!!
     
  17. Proudmom2

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    COngrats!!! I am so sorry that you went thru so much but glad to hear you and baby are ok now :) He is adorable!!!!
     
  18. Cut3ne55

    Cut3ne55 Mummy to Evie

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    aww congrats! hes gorgeous! lovely skin tone hes got too, gonna go brnzed in summer lucky lil man lol x
     
  19. Frankie

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    Hes beautiful x
     
  20. first alien

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    congratulations on your beautiful boy. a very traumatic story and very glad you are here to tell us. xx take care xx
     

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