Maternity ballroom gown?

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  1. Darlin65

    Darlin65 Married with a Munchkin

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    I have a friend who is getting married next month and her wedding is beyond fancy. I need a ballroom style evening gown. She is taking it a step further than the regular black tie. I have looked everywhere online I can think of and can't find anything formal enough :( I was going to wear a long black dress and dress it up with accessories but she wants the dress to be fancier than that. I'm also afraid of looking like I am in a cheap prom dress because I don't want to break the bank. I just found out about it over the weekend and the wedding is Nov 2nd! :dohh: I will be 14wks pg and idk how big my belly will be by then since this is #2 for us. I'm already like a sz 14 minus my bump.

    I've checked like every rental place I could find online and they are either too expensive or don't have anything nice enough :nope: I don't mind spending $100-$150 but for that price it needs to be to buy not rent. I already have nice jewelry and shoes I can mix and match with. The dress is my real problem.
     
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    HBGirl Well-Known Member

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    TBH she can't dictate what you will wear. As long as you have made an effort it should be enough for her.
     
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    redlemonade Well-Known Member

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    This. I can't stand brides who dictate like this. It's very shallow. If it were me, I'd tell her where to stick it and I wouldn't go, though I'm sure that's not helpful to you ;)

    Rather than go to unnecessary expense, can you raid the wardrobe of a similar sized friend for something that might work?
     
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    Darlin65 Married with a Munchkin

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    I am not that person. It is HER wedding. SHE is paying for it. I am a GUEST and she was kind enough to want me there on her big day. I support her all the way, she is a good friend. I'm not going to get mad at her because her and her friends and family have money that we don't.

    I can't ask anybody else. They're all like sz 2's :dohh: Thought of that already. If only. That would make finding something on the clearance rack or 2nd hand so much easier :haha:
     
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    You won't be that big at 14 weeks. Get something cut in a empire line and you should be ok.
     
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    Grecian style dress?
     
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    Wannabe Mommy Pregnant FTM

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  8. Darlin65

    Darlin65 Married with a Munchkin

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    Thanks! But unfortunately they aren't formal enough. I don't know how to describe it maybe a little more "glamorous"? Idk. I think I am just going to have to go search the stores. I actually had searched all those sites :haha:
     
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  9. redlemonade

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    Fair enough. I hope I didn't offend. I get grouchy at the cost of attending weddings personally, it's a bug bear of mine when there's added expense to the day, I just find it unnecessary ;)

    Anyway, I hope you find something nice, the other ladies had some good suggestions. I think you can make an outfit perfect with accessories sometimes!
     
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    Darlin65 Married with a Munchkin

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    You didn't offend me. I've just worked in the wedding business and I don't think people realize yes, you have to pay for whatever you are wearing but that bride has shelled out a lot more than you probably realize. The way I do it if I have to dress up extra or buy a special outfit I just don't buy them as nice of a gift. Not to mention she is probably already getting a lot of crap from others who would speak their minds than just think it. I say do your best and if it bothers you that bad or is just impossible to meet their requirements respectfully decline. I am not bothered by her requests I just don't know how I am going to make it happen on such short notice :haha:
     
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  11. Wannabe Mommy

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    Challenging!

    https://m.trendytummymaternity.com/....html?sortOrder=1&sort=uc_finalprice&pageNo=3

    https://www.myamaternity.com/category_46/Formal-Maternity-Dresses.htm

    https://www.1st-dress.com/Maternity-Prom-Dresses_v150/sort_p2/

    https://www.tjformal.com/sub.php?sS...+-+$2000&CatId=59905&sType=sStyle&Page=Search

    https://www.babiesnbellies.com/catalog.htm?category=11&page=all
     
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    Darlin65 Married with a Munchkin

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    There were a few I liked but unfortunately the ones that would work were out of my price range :dohh:
     
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  13. redlemonade

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    You're right. I wouldn't actually give the bride crap for her choices (I would just politely decline if I couldn't afford to go) but I think couples getting married should be cognisant of the cost to their guests. In Ireland there is a terrible trend of having weddings overseas so anybody wanting to go needs to shell out for flights, hotels, gifts and clothes. Most guests can make a holiday out of it but of course their one and only annual holiday is, therefore, dictated by the couple getting married. I think that's why I get so grouchy on the topic lol! When I got married we made things as easy and cheap as possible for people. I didn't care if people turned up naked, as long as they turned up.

    Different strokes for different folks ;)

    I don't know how to help with your dilemma otherwise - do you have an idea what other guests might be wearing? I'm finding it hard to picture what 'beyond formal' is.
     
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    Darlin65 Married with a Munchkin

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    It is very hard! I'm not sure. I've asked someone else who will be going what she is wearing. Waiting to hear back. I'll show you what I had in mind but was told it wasn't fancy enough. This wasn't "the" dress because it cost too much but was the style I wanted. All she said was "more ballroom". :dohh:

    https://www.cache.com/items/cache/images/xlarge/U8010B22005210_44.jpg

    https://www.cache.com/items/cache/images/xlarge/U8010B22005210_44_back.jpg
     
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    Darlin65 Married with a Munchkin

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  17. Wannabe Mommy

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    That is a lovely dress!!!!

    You might be better going with a non-maternity dress something with a high waist line and a chiffon skirt so there is plenty of glowing draping fabric to go over your bump.

    https://www.promgirl.com/shop/finde...er_by=low_to_high/rowstart=1/page=1/rowmax=32
     
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    Darlin65 Married with a Munchkin

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    redlemonade Well-Known Member

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    Oh wow that dress you originally had in mind is stunning!! I can't believe she wants something fancier! A warning about jj's house - even though I know you said it wouldn't work for you anyway - I've seen dresses come from there and they're incredibly badly made with cheap fabric.
     
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