MC at 10 1/2 weeks

[misscs]

Hi,

I found out I was 10 and a half weeks pregnant last week following a long illness (know to be found it was a mix of the bug and pregnancy!), two days later I had a missed miscarriage and had an EPRC this week. Its now been 5 days and I still have lots of pain, am bleeding and it hurts to wee? I've never been pregnant before - and was told I has PCOS so would find it hard to concieve when I tried (which wasn't and was on microgynon) so wasn't expecting to be pregnant! - so I don't know if this is normal? I've decided to start work tomorrow as my new job was due to start last weds (the day after my EPRC) so i was signed off but as its a new job i didnt want to make a bad impression. Im concerned Im going back too early as I find mornings especially painful and I don't feel I've dealt with the loss of my baby emotionally yet but don't feel anyone understands how Im feeling as althought I felt too young to have a child and not ready I would never have terminated my child and still feel an attachment althought I only knew about it for a few days - and have just found out someone else announced they are pregnant last week. I am happy for them but can't help feeling jealous that their baby is living and mine died - I know that sounds horrible.

Just wanted to post on here to see if this is all normal or anyone has any advice.

I never got to see a dr after my EPRC and havent recieved the letter they said they would post. I was told the day would last a few hours (3-4hours) but I ended up being in for 11hours (3 hours alone in the theatre and initial recovery room after being told should take max 1 and a half) and felt very ill after and had very low blood pressure so I'm presuming all was not fine but I don't know??
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[kanga]

hi there, i;m very sorry for your loss hun

Work wise - I would be inclined to not go in. It sounds like you are not ready yet, and it hasnt even been a week since your mc yet. I went back to work too early with my first and it was hell. You can get a sick note (assume you are in the UK?) and your new employer I am sure will be understanding.

As for the op, 3 hours in theatre sounds like a v long time. You need to find out why you were under for 3 hours. erpc takes about 5/10 mins normally.

you also need to chase up the letter they said they would post you. As you need to chase this anyway, ask for a copy of the sugeons report from the op as this may shed some light on what happened in theatre.


Having feelings of jealousy towards other pg ladies is normal and I have certainely had those feelings too. Don't worry, you will get your turn. I always think that well, that person may have had their own hell to go through to get their bfp, so I wish them well. x

You have the grieveing process to go through, all I will sya is that each day is easier than the one before it. All the best x

 

[hippylittlej]

Sorry for you loss

I think you need to take yourself to A&E. Tell them you are in pain and let them find out what is going on. You really shouldn't be feeling like this now and none of this seems normal at all to me.

Please go and seek some medical help ASAP. As for work you really don't sound well enough to be going back.

 

[ncmommy]

So sorry for your loss!

If you are not ready to go back to work then don't, you will be of no use to anyone if you aren't ready.

I would also go back to your doctor to make sure all is ok with you. Do they do a follow up after the procedure?

Take care of yourself.

 

[misscs]

Tried to get a drs appointment today but no luck - told to try on weds or thurs! Thinking i may have an infection after the EPRC as still so much pain? Still no letter from the hospital...trying to chase up but getting through is proving a pain!

Started new job today, glad to be there - nice bit of a distraction when i forgot the pain but whenever had a strong dose it was really hard to be strong for my class. My school have been very understanding and i was able to go and have a rest for half an hour when i felt awful this morning, absolutly exhausted tonight and feeling more pain than normal. Don't know if this is my fault for working? I don't feel I can take time off now though, although my colleagues are great the parents of the children I teach are already angry enough I missed last week with their first 2 days (although one day im non-contact anyway so technically only missed one day!) and I don't want to explain to them about the situation.

I also wondered how other people felt socially after an EPRC?? I know about the physical pain and the emotional but socially I just want to hide in a hole? My friends that know are good and text me most days to see how I am and invite me out but they don't seem to understand that although I appreciate it and don't want to sound ungreatful some days I just don't want to talk to anyone and I definately don't want to go out yet they won't come to my house (I live alone) - but then Im unsure if I really want them here anyway. Is it normal to want to be so secluded? I know I shouldn't sit and wallow, and I do keep busy at home doing bits for my job, but its just easier than having to talk to people and pretend that everything is ok or dodge the subject as they don't know what to say/say something that upsets me..

sorry for the rant
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[Pippin]

So sorry for your loss hon, stay home from work. I think if you phone the doctors and explain what you have done and you are bleeding a lot and in pain they will fit you in somewhere they have to. Sounds like an infection and it needs to be seen asap. All doctors can fit you in if it's a situation like yours.

I think you are a teacher and so am I. They have no right to say anything to you and you are allowed time off to deal with things like this. Ring your doctor for a sick note (which you don't have to see him for but get an emergency appointment with him for the pain anyway) and this will cover you for a week or two weeks if you need it. School can do without you so please don't feel you have to go in. Get better first and then go in and you'll be much more effective. I'm home today waiting to miscarry and have a scan myself and I don't feel guilty at all. We come first sometimes

 

[lilwelsh1]

so sorry for your loss. I hope you do get medical attention soon, no one should have to suffer pain especially if its worrying you. listen to your body and you gut. you need to rest and heal not only physically but emotionally too. get well soon and you can really enjoy your new job all the best

 

[misscs]

Managed to get through on phone to hospital today - no help, told me letter would be in the post still and to go see my Dr as they would have a copy and could help with the symptoms im still feeling. FINALLY managed to get a drs appointment after ages on the phone and moany receptionist....dr an hour behind schedule too grr....then no help!! My letter from the hospital hasnt arrived at my local surgery, ive got high blood pressure, a slightly raised temperature, and pains etc and all dr said was come back friday if no changes!!!! If getting todays appointment wasnt hard enough now I have to try and get another one! I dont mean to sound sexist but I saw a male dr and I really dont think he understood in the slightest!! He said my emotions etc are normal and that it was natures way of saying there was something wrong with my baby!! That is not what a woman who has just had a mmc and eprc wants to hear...that was my baby and why should anyone/thing have the right to take that away from me and the hundreds of other women who have to go through similar things...

sorry rant over
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