Mean, hateful people/comments

[ilovecheese]

Here's a little background. I am on this other message board with some moms and have recently shared that I am TTC. My oldest son has some problems due to his biological father not being around and missing him etc- so I got him a counselor. He's 5.

One of these mothers [who is also having trouble TTC] thinks I am wrong for TTC right now. This is what she posted on a thread where I was talking about my son's appointment- completely unsolicited:

Especially considering you have one child with anxiety issues, I hardly think that adding another child into the midst is going to be helpful for him. I really cannot understand this.

I told her that giving unsolicited comments about something I am already hurting from is cruel and hateful. I don't want to turn this into a theological debate, but she then said:

If I wanted to be mean and hateful, I would say that this is god's way of telling you he exists and that you are done.

I don't believe in God, and that's why she added the piece about him "existing". Why would someone say something so hurtful to me? I am just reeling from this. Am I overreacting?

 

[Starbright]

(((hugs))) hon. I'm pretty shocked and I don't think you're overreacting.
She has absolutely no right to judge you and to tell you that you shouldn't be ttc.
Don't take it to heart - easier said than done I know
Take care xx

 

[flubdub]

What a terrible thing to say!!!!
Does she have any reason to be jealous of you? (because thats what it sounds like to me)
Jeez, she sounds awful, and I would keep away. And in fact, having a little brother or sister for your son may very well do wonders for him! A new little person to love and play with. My 5 yr old son adores my youngest!

 

[stephholloway]

Dont take it to heart hun and just tell her to shove it! https://lmtf.lilypie.com/2gMTp1.png
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[MrsJA]

OMG, what a cow!!! Honestly, where do people get off saying things like that to other people?!

Don't worry honey, I'm sure you are a much bigger person than she is!

 

[lola13]

I'm glad she didn't capitalize "god", since she clearly doesn't know what she's talking about. Ignorant people like this do a disservice to all of us - hurting you and making those of us genuine believers look like ignorant, judgmental idiots.

Please don't judge us or God based on one moron. Good luck getting your BFP!

 

[ANGEL223]

What a sick cow! That is totallly out of order and you are not wrong to react as you have! All you have done is prove you love your child by recognising the problem and wanting him to understand and learn how to deal with "issues" (hate that word but couldnt think of another!!)

 

[DragonMummy]

WTF? That's a hideous thing to say and is quite clearly not true. What an ignorant arsehole. Big love, hun. Rise above it. There's not an ounce of truth. x

 

[Springflower]

Eugh! What a terrrible thing to say! Please don't let her upset you.

 

[Chloe1]

absolutely shocking! I cant believe that x

 

[Redfraggle]

What a shocking thing for her to say! Take no notice.

 

[tinybutterfly]

tell her then that her god is sending her that message as well
but that your post-life-guardian-spirits (first things that came to mind ) have told you in a vision your time to conceive AGAIN is near

 

[ilovecheese]

Thanks you guys. I was SO mad last night I was seeing stars. I ended up telling her that she was the one who had to answer to her god for being so mean to another person and that she's the one who has to sleep at night, knowing the way that she's acted.

It's just hard when someone says something to you that strikes a nerve- I mean, those thoughts have gone through my head. Not about god necessarily, but about the fact that maybe this was the universe telling me I am not meant to have another child, so to hear someone else say that is painful, you know?

 

[Clussy]

Truly disgusting remarks on her part. Did noone else on that message string stand up to also tell her what a repugnant thing that was to say? I'd be shocked if I saw that come through on a message thread and wouldn't be able to not give a bit of feedback myself.

Other people's opinions are just that, Love. Opinions. they mean nothing to you and your dreams. Keep on, keeping on and may you find comfort in achieving your goals.

 

[BizyBee]

You are not overreacting! She should never have said such rude comments. xx

 

[RubyRainbows]

You never know what kind of weirdos can be lurking out there in cyber space -- and she sounds like a BIG weirdo! Try to ignore her! I know it's easier said than done -- and i would be super hurt too. I would also report her post -- meaness like that should not be tolerated!



Hope you get your BFP soon!