Mega vent

[Nina83]

I am so angry, and these feeling have been building up inside me for a long time already.
I am so SICK of women complaining that they can't get pregnant for 5 months, and "I didn't even have a CP, at least then I'd know something was working."
Seriously? SERIOUSLY?
It took us over 8 months to get pregnant both times and knowing I could get pregnant did not make me feel any better.
That's just a slap in the face to any couple who has tried for over 5 months, and has experienced loss.
A chemical isn't just a "late period that means nothing, you'll get over it". It's a world being shattered, your heart broken into a zillion pieces that will NEVER heal.
Or how about those women who were 2 days late, never tested, but guess it was just a chemical, let's get on with our lives now.
Another slap in the face to any who have experienced loss. It's like the words Chemical Pregnancy is just another word you can toss around.

I did NOT read any posts like these in this forum. I'm referring to another forum I visit.

 

[krulci]

I'm so sorry. Humans are the worst! Especially when you take into account our capacity to be kind and caring, yet read such willful insensitivity like you're mentioning. Every baby is a baby, whether a chemical pregnancy or a stillborn, they were a baby that meant the world to you (and likely a large number of others, too).

Have you seen this video? https://vimeo.com/85610547 I watch it whenever I feel invalidated for losing our sweet baby girl. Maybe it'll help you too.

Hugs, mama! You're not alone.