Men!

[smithgirl]

I think this is one of the first times I've posted a rant about my husband but...ugh. Here goes.

Apparently I smell different now that I'm pregnant. I have a LOT of discharge, I've had infections, and now it's summer and I'm hot as hell ladies! I shower every single day, wear lotion, etc, but apparently I still didn't smell great, and instead of JUST TELLING ME, my dh would reject any sexual advances I made towards him because he didn't want to ask me to spray some perfume or something. It's really sweet that he didn't want to hurt me, but I'm not sure why he thought that rejecting me all the time would hurt any less....he could have just told me? I tell him all the time to take showers and put on deodorant and to not breath on me if he hasn't brushed his teeth within the last hour...I've been spending the past few months wondering what's wrong with our marriage and if he's been cheating or looking at porn! I would much rather just have known.

Anyway, I'm horribly, horribly embarrassed, and of course cried my eyes out and refused to go near him all day because I might have smelled bad. I just wish he had told me months ago! So embarrassing!

P.S. He only finally told me this today after I suggested counseling because he was turning down sex so much!

 

[kimber89]

awh dont be embarrased..i swear you feel the heat more when pregnant. if you go into a chemist you can actually get stuff to use instead of deodrant and it stops you sweating. i use it in the hot weather and dont even get sweat patches. you put it on at night and wash off in morning! the one i have is able to be used during pregnancy!! i dont have any at the mo so not sure ofthe name but go to a pharmacy and ask or your doctor will tell you.

 

[smithgirl]

thanks for the suggestion! I've almost never sweat before so this is definitely new!

 

[kimber89]

yeah well ive had a few people tell me you feel the heat more when pregnant because your hormones etc. i have been dying for the sun..ireland never sees much sun haha and was lovely out the other day sat out for ten minutes and had ot sit inside then could not handle it at all was sweating!!

 

[LaLaBelle]

I just asked my husband if I smell any different to him, and he said "YES!" Hahaha. He said my pee smells much worse and it stinks up the bathroom if he comes in right after I've peed, and that "sometimes your vagina smells really strongly, but no different than normal, just stronger." And that he's noticed I sweat way more and he can tell if I haven't showered yet that day.


I think I'd be pissed in your situation, just because your husband wasn't honest with you. I'd be way more hurt at having my sexual advances spurned than being told "hey, you smell a bit."


Some days I change my underwear a few times, and I'll shower twice. I hate how much I sweat and smell and discharge and all that fun stuff.

 

[smithgirl]

I just asked my husband if I smell any different to him, and he said "YES!" Hahaha. He said my pee smells much worse and it stinks up the bathroom if he comes in right after I've peed, and that "sometimes your vagina smells really strongly, but no different than normal, just stronger." And that he's noticed I sweat way more and he can tell if I haven't showered yet that day.


I think I'd be pissed in your situation, just because your husband wasn't honest with you. I'd be way more hurt at having my sexual advances spurned than being told "hey, you smell a bit."


Some days I change my underwear a few times, and I'll shower twice. I hate how much I sweat and smell and discharge and all that fun stuff.

You're so lucky your husband was honest with you! That was the worst part, that he knew he was hurting me by rejecting but chose not to tell me..urgh. Now he's trying to initiate sex and get me to sit near him and I'm scared to! haha

 

[momof2bb]

Oh Gosh. Don't feel embarrassed we all smell different and sweat a lot during pregnancy.
I think it will be nicer if he would have told you earlier and turning down sex? no way... that's rude. I hope he realised that and change.

 

[we can't wait]

I can understand why he thought that not saying anything was best, but obviously he must have known you'd feel upset about the rejection? Men are so strange sometimes. My husband either hasn't noticed a big difference, or he lies to me about it. I flat out ask him about it, because I dont want to be all smelly around him & have him not tell me. I get a lot of discharge now & sweat a lot more (especially between my legs ) so I change my undies all the time & wear deodorant in-between my thighs. I hate it! I feel bad for the ladies who are going to be 9 months pregnant in then dead of August (when it's hottest here).
I hope your DH realizes why you are upset about it. Hope everything works out.

 

[doggy121]

aww i hope he's come to his scenses and realised how hurtful his comments and avoiding you has been, i smell different my husband tells me and i erm... taiste diff too, i do make sure i'm all bathed and clean before we get it on but most other times and espesually between my legs i smell stronger just after a day of normal walking about and stuff, its so gotto be a pregnancy thing and i'm not sure of the specifics but if all us ladiesare the same then its NORMAL!!

i hope you and him get this sorted xx