Midwives..do they really know what they're talkin about?!

[kodi]

my mw is absolutely lovely! really is, but sometimes i wonder if she knows what shes going on about =/

shes said for a while now "very healthy baby, big etc" but yesterday at my appt she said babies very high up and its heads very high too not as low as most, so possibly not even a big baby :/ lol!! omyy...all that worrying...

also she was telling me what bits were here n there, bums there, etc

and she got it all wrong because then i told her where i feel most kicks and she was like "oh maybe im wrong" i know its hard to tell but still :/

 

[cdj1]

I know what you mean! I had a MW last week who blamed the fact that she couldnt work out where the head was on my "good muscles"? Then the one this week said the same thing about my muscles but that she could def. feel a bottom above my tummy button!

They should surely all know how to palpate you properly??

 

[Jozie]

they sometimes tell u stuff u wana hear

 

[Phinners]

Mine today she couldmt feel my baby at all. I thought wtf, he's massive and on the 82nd percentile, how can you not feel him? Then she pressed so hard that she nearly snapped my pelvis in half Apparently he's engaged now.

This time round my ante natal care has been bollocks

 

[oliviarose]

Hi,

sorry to go off the topic a little bit, but where do you feel the most movement?? How can you tell which way your baby is lying??

I have not seen my MW since 28wks, don't see her till 34wks. Am currently 33+1. At 28wks he was breech and I can't work out if he still is or not, lol.

xxx

 

[GossipGirly]

my antenatal care has been uteer rubbish, no continuity in care a diferent midwife every bloody time, forgetting to book in tests, forgetting to book in my antenatal parentcraft classes .... and iv missed them! notdoing urine samples cos i havnt brough my own container from home... bloody discusting!

 

[abbSTAR]

Hi,

sorry to go off the topic a little bit, but where do you feel the most movement?? How can you tell which way your baby is lying??

I have not seen my MW since 28wks, don't see her till 34wks. Am currently 33+1. At 28wks he was breech and I can't work out if he still is or not, lol.

xxx

you tend to feel hiccups lower down, well that's what gave it away for me and then you feel a lot more kicks higher up.. if you press at the top of your bump you can sometimes feel the baby depending on how they are lying... when i went to my midwife appointment i was like he's not breech anymore im sure of it i feel so different its so much easier to breathe .. and i was right ...

 

[GossipGirly]

Hi,

sorry to go off the topic a little bit, but where do you feel the most movement?? How can you tell which way your baby is lying??

I have not seen my MW since 28wks, don't see her till 34wks. Am currently 33+1. At 28wks he was breech and I can't work out if he still is or not, lol.

xxx

Is this your first, Im sure you should have a 31 week appointment, they completly forgot about my 28 week one and I wasnt due to see her till 31 from 25! xx

 

[xpinkyperkyx]

i completly agree with this, my MW's lovely but so dizzy, she;s told me 3 times that baby is head down even though he was breech according to my scans, then last scan showed him head down and the next app she said oh i think he's still up there we'll see in the next scan,when i told her that actually the scan had shown head down she just said she must have been feeling bum instead of head!?!?! i'm not being rude but surely she should know which is which she must be in late 50s and looked after hundreds of mums so why the dizzyness? plus, i've not had any antenatal classes this time around which i was looking forward to-refreshing my mind and all that, but nothing. now i'm having string braxton hicks which actualy take my breath away and she reckons it might be urine infection but hasn't got time to see me but to drop a sample off instead.
like i said she's lovely but getting really cross-especially seing as so many oithers are in same situation.

 

[oliviarose]

No this is my 2nd.

My daughter is 7 though, so its all new to me again, lol.

Well I get most of my movement at the top of my belly. Not kicks though, it is more body movements. I have the odd flutter at the bottom of my bump, but that isn't very often.

xxx

 

[emmi26]

i always know where my little man is i tell my mw i said hes head down facing my back she felt round said yep definately shes lovely and always gets it right !!!

 

[hitchinite]

I agree that midwives are a tad ditzy. My experience is that they only know how to follow NHS protocols and struggle when they need to think outside the box. They can be a bit robotic when they talk to you and some of the more junior ones dont really listen. I would so prefer to see an obstrectician or even a GP- its not that they necessarily would know more I just think medical training helps you to think more broadly.

 

[GossipGirly]

oh i disagree i find its the more experienced ones, the newely qualified midwives are spot on as they have just done all their training and tend to want to please more and its more drummed into them about patient centre care and holistic care, Im not saying all midwives are rubbish just the ones Iv came accross recently haha its a shame i have such a negative veiw so close to labour ...

 

[Phinners]

I so wish I had a mw like the one I had for my first. Now, I am not religious but it was like she was 'sent from God himself just to look after me'..if you get me. She was amazing, so kind, just inner beauty overfloweth. She will defo get a place in heaven (not that such a place exists imo). What a wonderful lady she was. I just cannot praise her enough.

This time I have a right old mental witch.

 

[sarafused]

Ive got a lovely midwife, shes 27 and knows what she is talking about and doing, only downside is she doesnt speak any English and Im not comfortable with my Finnish as I dont want to misunderstand something important, luckily my husband comes along too! I was sad that my midwife from my first baby had retired, she spoke perfect English and was always spot on. She always used to say hello to baby before she started groping around

I saw a couple of honestly shit midwifes during the summer holiday period. One young one that didnt have a first clue about gestational diabetes and tried to tell me Id only get a growth scan if my bump got too big. I could honestly have done a much better job. I had another that heard me speak English to my child and refused to even look at me while talking, shocked her when Id had enough and joined in the conversation

 

[hitchinite]

I do agree there are some fabulous midwives out there too- the one Im registered under is great but sadly only seen her 3 times. The other ones have been unimpressive. I think it depends on how much experience they have as well as personal features e.g. are they able to listen to you and emphasise with your experience rather then thinking like a robot.