MIL rant

[Lena]

Just need to vent a bit. I am so annoyed with my MIL. It doesnt help matters that we have seen her for the past 2 weekends in a row and they want to see us again next weekend. I swear, we dont have a weekend to ourselves! It wouldn't be so bad if they just came to ours and stayed for an hour or two but they stay for 8 hours!! They only live an hour away.

Anyways, whenever MIL holds Nathan, she hold him in the most awkward ways where i know he's not comfy and is going to cry and within seconds he does. Then when he's crying she refuses to hand him back to me to calm him. And despite me telling her constantly 'can you support his head' she doesnt and she just lets it flop backwards. Today whenever she held him I stood behind her holding his head because it just kept falling backwards. I feel like she needs a lesson on how to hold a baby, but she raised 3 children so you think she would know. Also, whenever I try and put him down for a nap she says 'well he doesnt look tired to me' just because she wants to hold him. Then today, she had a go at me for feeding him saying 'your feeding him AGAIN? How much are you feeding him, no wonder he's the size he is'. He's nearly 10 weeks and over 14lbs. He's a big lad, not fat, just long. He looks like a 4 month old. If my baby is crying for food, he is going to get it...end of.

I can't vent to DH because its his mum so when i do vent it just falls on deaf ears and he just doesn't say anything so im venting on here. Although, even he said today that she was holding him a bit awkwardly. FIL even told her about 3 times to support his neck but she doesn't listen! I feel sorry for my poor boy whenever she picks him up.

 

[binxyboo]

It's not just yours.
I have the most wonderful photo of my MIL holding Daniel as if he is about to explode! She looks terrified!
I'll find it!!

Edited - Found it!!
This was the first time she met her only grandchild. I also think she has held him a total of 3 times. He is nearly 11 weeks old. Every time she has held him, it has been at arms length like in the pic. I don't think she has actually 'cuddled' him yet!!
https://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs168.snc4/37755_408913271454_646376454_4838752_7368254_n.jpg

 

[MissBroody]

^ lol, that's weird. I loathe my MIL, but when Im a MIL one day I'm gonna hug those babies soo close lol! Anyway back on track - thats terrible that she not only holds him like that when you've said you don't like it, but continues to do it when you ask her not to :S it's your baby and if she can't hold him properly then I'd just hold onto him yourself the whole time. Next time they're down and are thinking of staying 8 hours, about an hour in i'd say ''ahh, its lovely seeing you but we're going to a friends house for food in a bit, she offered last minite, so we can't make a day of it today im afraid''. And I hate it when people say ''are you feeding him AGAIN?'' uh yes - he's crying because hes hungry, what do you want me to do- deny him food and let him feel hungry and be upset?! Babies don't wear watches, they'll eat when they're hungry end of. xx

 

[Lena]

Thanks ladies. Ive told DH i dont want them to come down next weekend because his mum is driving me mental! He said thats fine and to see how i feel about it midweek then we'll tell them. We have seen them 4 outta the last 5 weekends and i cant take her constant nagging. Plus, now shes having a go at me for feeding my baby too much. Its so frustrating and ive definately decided she is not babysitting for a very long time. If she did, she wouldnt let him eat or sleep, im sure of it! Although im sure she thinks shes babysitting very soon because she bought a cot for him at her house.