Missed miscarriage :(

[CarlyStardust]

Gosh what an awful few days. Went for our 12 week
scan on wednesday....felt extremely excited.
Very sadly there was no heartbeat. My partner saw the screen before me and immediately looked at the floor. I feel so terrible as we took our 9 and a half year old daughter. She was still looking on in anticipation and excitement! After the sonographer explained quietly to me what had happened she left the room and i asked my daughter if she understood what had happened. She hadnt understood so i explained that it hadnt actually turned into a baby...like when you plant a seed and a flower doesnt grow.
I should have been 12 weeks but the scan showed the feotus had stopped developing at 8 weeks. I had no signs of miscarriage(no pain or bleeding) only signs of a typical pregnancy with sore boobs, nausea and certain food fancies and dislikes!
I decided that i would opt for an Erpc(evacuation of retained product of conception). I didnt want to be waiting for it to happen naturally.
I had the erpc today. All the nurses were so lovely. The procedure went well. Ive had so much support its been really over whelming. I dont blame myself....i dont drink alcohol, have never smoked. I eat healthy and have always been fit and well. I feel completely gutted but I guess it just wasnt meant to be. My partner's been amazing and my daughter has been so very grown up about it but i cant help but feel guilty for taking her to the scan. Shes so desperate to be a big sister. Hopefully i will concieve again as soon as is safe and it will be a happy result. For us all especially for my little lady Erin xxx

 

[BERDC99]

I am so sorry!

 

[Dana_Scully]

I'm sorry for your loss

Same thing happened to me today... baby stopped growing at 7 weeks and I'm 9 weeks. I'm waiting to see if I'll miscarry naturally, if not I have to go to the doctor monday.

 

[TaraLynn]

I'm so sorry for your loss =(.

 

[liola]

I just had the same thing on friday. I was 12 weeks and Our first scan and there was no fetus. I know how you feel its the worst thing in the world you feel your heart sink and you just want to burst into tears. hugs for you i hope we can get through this and move on.

 

[Andypanda6570]

I am so deeply sorry I went for my Amnio at 20 weeks and my little Ava was gone, that day I knew my life was forever changed
This is such a hard thing to go through, my heart gores out to you and your family..I am so sorry ..XOXO

 

[Cali]

I am so sorry for your loss. Last week Monday we went in at 10.5 weeks for our dating scan and we found out that our baby had stopped developing at 7.5 weeks. We were absolutely devastated to say the least. This was not a planned pregnancy but we were so excited for this little bean. After 2 healthy sons and absolutely zero miscarriage symptoms, it was such a shock. I couldn't handle the thought of carrying a baby that was no longer alive and I opted for a D&C on Thursday. I have to admit, I feel like I can start to heal now that I've had the D&C. There is no way I would have been able to wait for my body to miscarry naturally. I am 4 days post-D&C and I still cry every day. What makes this harder to deal with is that I don't know if my husband wants to try for another baby, but now that our baby was right there in front of us, I have to. I can't let this be my last pregnancy...if that makes sense.

 

[CarlyStardust]

Ahhh too many sad stories. Thanks for you messages guys. I have had so much support this passed week and my house looks like a florist!
Ive spoke to so many people about my missed miscarriage and its surprising how many people i know have been through the same thing!
My pregnancy was planned, i had my coil taken out in June and fell end of Aug. we spoke about "when the the baby comes" so much. So as soon as i fell preg the planning started. Id had a healthy pregnancy with my daughter and no previous miscarriages so assumed all would be ok.
It really is heart breaking, when the sonographer told me it wasnt good news i kind of didnt believe her. I was so angry with my body for not rejecting it 4 weeks ago when it stopped growing. I couldnt bare to carry it around any longer.
Although when going to the hospital for my erpc 2 days later i felt so sad that they were going to take it away from me. I knew it was the right thing to do though. So went ahead with it. All went well (apart from the anaesthetist damaged a nerve in my hand from the insertion of the cannula!!!!)
I really cant believe though that it was a week ago today we went for the 12 week scan. This last week has been a complete blur. My wonderful partner and daughter have kept me going. We released a chinese lantern into the sky, it was my daughters idea which i thought was really sweet.
Physically i feel fine...but emotionally im not. I do tend to hide my emotions though, which isnt good! Im constantly thinking in my head about getting pregnant again. I want to start trying again as soon as is safe to do so. I know i will be so paranoid next time. I hope docs will allow me to have an early scan at 8-9 weeks to put my mind at rest!
Well i am so sorry for all your losses.
Cali you must talk to your husband and tell him how you feel, im sure he probably feels the same as you. I know its hard but try to stay positive for your own well being. Good luck to you all, im sure we will all be luckier next time
Carly xxx

 

[annalee2003]

I am so sorry for your loss, Carly. Im glad that you're getting through this though, you seem like such a positive person.

 

[RebeccaLou87]

Im so sorry for your loss. Exactly the same thing happened to me, when reading your story it felt like I could have written it myself.

Thinking of you. xx

 

[mummymurray74]

Same here, 3 weeks ago and this is the second time its happened to us x

 

[CarlyStardust]

well hopefully there will be a happy ending this time. just found out that i am pregnant again!!!! Very happy but also feel a little anxious. fingers crossed

 

[helloeveryone]

congratulations hope things go well for you this time,,i had a missed miscarriage with my second pregnancy and when i fell pregnant again he gave me a early scan to check things were going well,and they did..i have got 6 children now..and i have only lost one baby so hopefully things will be the same for you..xx
also i paid for a early scan with my last baby as doctor didn't think i needed one.. for me it was well worth paying..

 

[mummymurray74]

well hopefully there will be a happy ending this time. just found out that i am pregnant again!!!! Very happy but also feel a little anxious. fingers crossed

Omg! Me too today!!!!!!! Congratulations!!!! Bump buddies? x

 

[WelshOneEmma]

Ahhh too many sad stories. Thanks for you messages guys. I have had so much support this passed week and my house looks like a florist!
Ive spoke to so many people about my missed miscarriage and its surprising how many people i know have been through the same thing!
My pregnancy was planned, i had my coil taken out in June and fell end of Aug. we spoke about "when the the baby comes" so much. So as soon as i fell preg the planning started. Id had a healthy pregnancy with my daughter and no previous miscarriages so assumed all would be ok.
It really is heart breaking, when the sonographer told me it wasnt good news i kind of didnt believe her. I was so angry with my body for not rejecting it 4 weeks ago when it stopped growing. I couldnt bare to carry it around any longer.
Although when going to the hospital for my erpc 2 days later i felt so sad that they were going to take it away from me. I knew it was the right thing to do though. So went ahead with it. All went well (apart from the anaesthetist damaged a nerve in my hand from the insertion of the cannula!!!!)
I really cant believe though that it was a week ago today we went for the 12 week scan. This last week has been a complete blur. My wonderful partner and daughter have kept me going. We released a chinese lantern into the sky, it was my daughters idea which i thought was really sweet.
Physically i feel fine...but emotionally im not. I do tend to hide my emotions though, which isnt good! Im constantly thinking in my head about getting pregnant again. I want to start trying again as soon as is safe to do so. I know i will be so paranoid next time. I hope docs will allow me to have an early scan at 8-9 weeks to put my mind at rest!
Well i am so sorry for all your losses.
Cali you must talk to your husband and tell him how you feel, im sure he probably feels the same as you. I know its hard but try to stay positive for your own well being. Good luck to you all, im sure we will all be luckier next time
Carly xxx

This is exactly how i am feeling right now.

But great news that you are pregnant again, gives me hope!