Missed Miscarriage?

[Superwoman77]

Hi all,

I'm new to this site, but have been reading over the forums for the past few weeks. (I hope I have posted this in the correct place, please forgive me if i've mad a mistake)

In December I discovered I was pregnant. Because I am still BF my youngest (21 months), i had no idea how far along I was, as I haven't really had a proper period since having him.

On boxing day I had some spotting, so I decided to vist my local A&E. As it was boxing day, the EPU clinic was closed, but I was examined by a doctor and told me my cervix was still closed, and to go home and relax. They scheduled a scan for me on the Friday (30th Dec).

On scan day, (transvaginal, cos nothing could be seen by scanning across my abdomen) I was told only a gest and yolk sac could be seen, and also some bleeding (sch) on the outside of the sac (which i'm familiar with, as I've experienced this before in a past pregnancy, and he's now a healthy 8 yr old!).
The sonographer wasn't the most friendly person, and she told me, she couldn't say any more and to go home and come back in a week.

After a week of worrying, and bleeding getting heavier (no clots,), I had my follow up scan on the 6th Jan, and the same tech said she could now see fetal pole, with a very faint heartbeat. She then rescheduled another appt (1 week).

I went back on Friday (13th), and she then said (same tech) she couldn't find a heartbeat, and to wait for a miscarriage to occur. I was measuring 6 weeks.

Maybe i'm clucthing at straws, but I've been reading up on so many of your stories, and found, that a heartbeat is not always detectable at this stage.(although she saw a flicker one week earlier). I was also wondering if maybe the bleed in my uterus could be obstructing the scan, and giving a false image? Maybe it's just false hope.

I have not been offered another scan, and they have booked me in for a D&C on Wed (18th Jan).

Do you think I should get a 2nd opinion, or pay for a private scan, just for my own peace of mind? Has this happened to anyone here, and gone on to have a healthy baby?

I have prepared myself for the worst (have done since my initial scan), but if theres still an inkling of hope, I will always have doubts..

I'm not in pain, no bleeding (since the SCH bleed), and no clots etc, i'm still feeling very much preganant.

Btw - sorry for the long post, but I really do not know where to seek any advice.

xxx

 

[SabrinaKat]

Please pay for another scan before doing a D&C just in case! Also, six weeks is too early to see a HB -- and the tech sounds horrible!

There was a horrible scandal a few years ago in Ireland where second scans were not offered at one hospital, but a number of women went elsewhere to double-check and later delivered healthy babies (I had a natural mc, tho, after a number of scans much like your situation), however, I did have some spotting with this pregnancy and had an early pregnancy scan, and everything is okay (so far).....

also, you might want to post this down in 'Losses - Miscarriage', the ladies are fantastic and you would/will get some great advice there (as well as here, of course!)

best wishes

 

[Superwoman77]

Thank you so much fro your reply, it means so much!

I def think I will try and book a private scan, at least to put my mind at rest one way or the other.

I'll update as soon as I can, and post this in the correct forum

Congrats on your pregnancy, and wishing you all the best with your lil one xxxx

 

[Sunshine12]

This hasnt happened to me but Ive read the stories too and I would definately get another scan before a D&C or I would spend the rest of my life wondering what if. wish you well. x

 

[animalcracker]

Whoa, I am surprised that you were told there was no hope after no HB at 6 weeks. I don't want to give you any false hope but that is REALLY early. I don't even think you can detect a hb that early in most cases. Wait until you are 7 weeks - a HB can be seen on screen at 7 weeks.

If you're not sure of your dates, I would wait longer. Best of luck!! xo

 

[petitpas]

Hi Hon, did you manage to get a second scan? I would say that you should for peace of mind but that I suspect the oucome will be the same. If the sonographer saw a heartbeat at your second scan but not a week later, that is generally bad news.

Second scans are offered as standard at my hospital due to a similar scandal and I do hope you managed to get yours.