Mixed emotions as I near the 3rd trimester

[DLA]

I feel like I have so many mixed emotions right now. I remember being 5 weeks pregnant and praying for it go by fast and get me to the 2nd trimester. Once in the 2nd trimester I felt relaxed and happy but still kind of wanted things to move along because I can't help but be excited to meet my baby. I feel like I've been waiting for the 3 tri forever and now that I'm less than two weeks away, I am getting very anxious about it.

Half of me wants to have my baby NOW and can't wait for him. The other half would like to stay in safe 2nd trimester land because it does make me said to think that I'll never be "pregnant for the 1st time" again and of course I AM SO SCARED OF LABOR.

I feel like my emotions are all over the place! I'm happy, scared, sad & excited all at once!

 

[Sherileigh]

Yep, that sounds about right!
Just try to enjoy it, as you said this is your first pregnancy. Enjoy the last few months of baby free time you'll have for a long time!

 

[cait]

hmmm I think I am mostly looking forward to third tri - getting really excited to meet baby and I keep reading labor stories to try and desensitise myself. It has worked a bit as I was waay more scared of the pain in first tri and feel a bit more ready now.

i'll miss the second tri forum but at the same time I feel like there are less threads relevant to me these days with all the new ladies in that excited stage of joining this tri and feeling baby kick for first time etc. For us it is now the labour we're thinking of most!!

 

[Mazzy]

I'm at the same point as you are...same due date, also expecting a little boy. Not only will this be my "first" pregnancy, but it will also be my "last" as hubby and I always planned on only 1 child.

I was super scared of labor, too. My mother drilled it into my head since I was born how terrible it was for her, which is one of the millions of reasons why I didn't have any children before now (I'm 36). But, I've been watching a lot of labor videos on YouTube lately and reading about it, and for some reason that is helping me. Especially the water birth videos, which I really want to do if all goes well (my hospital has birthing tubs). This means no pain meds! (Well, maybe air/gas??)

Pain just seems to be something you manage - and this is productive pain. There's a purpose for it and a very positive, wonderfully happy outcome. If I can deal with excruciating miscarriage pain that lasted for a whopping 5 days with no positive result, then I'm beginning to think this will be okay.

The only thing that scares me now are the unknowns. But, life is so full of unknowns already! You can't think about the unknowns, or you could drive yourself absolutely batty. If you think about it, it's truly miraculous that any of us are still standing, with all the millions of things that can go wrong in the human body, and not just during pregnancy, but all the time. But, amazingly, we're all here and thriving. Just rely on your body and trust nature to do what it does best. Heck, you may have done the baby dance first, but after that, nature did what it does and you weren't consulted...LOL.

 

[cantwaitforu]

Being excited and looking forward to meeting baby is what is expected (for many of us!). Don't dwell on the "coulda, woulda, shoulda" as it's impossible to know what tomorrow holds. You will probably look back at your pregnancy and realize that you had every right for wanting it to be over because when you meet your baby, you will realize that there is nothing better in this world.

But do try to enjoy the rest of it

As for labour, I think as women, we are programmed to just do it. It's scary, worrying and painful, but we have so much beautiful strength and will for it that when it starts, it will seem like a natural sequence of things. I'm a first-time mom myself and am only going by my personal opinion, not experience! I used to be afraid of it, but now I'm looking forward to it. We're so lucky to be able to do this.

 

[DLA]

Thank you everyone! Just typing that thread made me feel better. I tend to miss a lot of things because I'm too busy worrying through them. Gotta work on that!

 

[ahcigar1]

It is very normal to feel this way. But soon will be very anxious to hed over to 3rd and the nerves will go away I am sure. One thing that I have been doing is slowly moving over, I actually started posting over there at about 25-26 weeks to get adjusted so wouldn't be as much of a shock.

 

[creatingpeace]

I could have wrote that myself!!!