mom is being creepy personal

[Mrs. Love]

My mom and I haven't been close since I was young. When I was a teenager she was the controlling type that I couldn't talk to normally or she'd read something into it or get mad.

Now that I'm married we're not close by my choosing but she's happy about the baby and I'm causiosly spending some time with her but she creeps me out with this super personal baby/pregnancy stuff. Fist of all with my sister years ago she talked a lot about "the ninny" which is the nipple when my neive and nephew breastfed. I told Ber early on when j got pregnant we aren't saying that. Why? Who do we have to talk about the ninny or nipple? Why don't um I'm feeding the baby??? Anyway then the other day she drops by and we're chatting. She's staring at my boobs! Qhich was distacting my story.... I'm not wearing a bra but have a tank and sweatshirt on and she interrupts me to ask "are you leaking yet?" Im like no and move on but man its like too personal and out of the blue. Anyone else think its weird???

 

[NoodleSnack]

No. Women who bf talk about nipple and leaking, engorgement, massaging the breast etc. Some have cutesy terms for nursing so it's not too obvious to outsider. After labour, we talk about stiches and discharge, stretch mark, flappy skin etc.

If you're uncomfortable then tell her you don't want to talk about it.

 

[SleepyBaby]

She probably just wants to be able to help, she might think you need someone whos going to be open and honest about all the personal stuff you might not wanna talk about to others?

My gran asked me about boobs, the colour of poop when on iron tablets so i didnt freak out if i noticed it went black lol erm.. nipple stuff, hemmorids and what to do with them haha bleeding after baby came, literally anything she thought i needed to know or wanted to talk about she brough up in convo, if i didnt wanna talk about it id say thanks but no thanks, was good though to have a woman willing to go into the nitty gritty stuff if i ever needed to!

 

[Leo_Mumma]

Personally I don't find it weird but I think I'm like your mum! Happy to talk about all the yucky stuff lol. My sister on the other hand would just die if my mum talked to her like that. Everyone's different.

Just let her know its not your thing and it makes you feel uncomfortable. Its your body after all.

 

[Tattoo]

I don't think she's being too personal. I've found that, among women who've had babies/been pregnant, nothing is off-limits! I've even talked about engorged breasts and stitches in the perineum with my boss!

 

[misspriss]

It's weird but it's not. It seems weird to you, but it sounds like she is trying to be supportive and it's so awkward she really doesn't know how.

I'd let her know, if she starts using cutesy names that you are uncomfortable with, that you'd just rather say "feeding the baby" or "nursing", and that cutesy names bother you. Simple as that.

It is kind of funny how she blurted out about leaking, but she probably didn't know how to bring it up. Women who have been through pregnancy and childbirth talk about all kinds of weird things. Stuff people who haven't had kids don't understand.

If it bothers you, it's okay to set boundaries, just when she says something like that say "I'd rather not talk about that kind of personal stuff" and move on. She sounds like she is trying to help and has NO clue how though.

 

[nflores77]

I think she is just trying to engage and be a part of the experience and asking some very personal things that come with it. If you do feel uncomfortable about certain things then let her know that if makes you feel that way.

 

[hairftsher]

I think she just wants to be a part of it love.

 

[george83]

I'd say it's weird if its weird for you! Me and my mum are super close but even we wouldn't have that conversation

 

[Sarah1508]

I agree with the above , I think it is pretty odd tbh especially since like you say yous haven't been the closest! I mean me and my mum are super close but I could never imagine her giving my nipple a nickname... but like also said above maybe it is just her way of trying to be involved and more close?

I would say if you are feeling uncomfortable I would tell her nicely haha

 

[Mrs. Love]

Well I would talk about most of this stuff with my friends (other mothers that is) and possibly my sister. But I dunno I guess I'm just not close to her in my mind and don't want to talk to HER about that stuff... weird leftovers from the sex talks and all that i guess. Again, she's a mess, possibly schizophrenic and abusive growing up, i don't want a whole lot to do with her besides the friendly (acquaintance style) conversation. Now that i'm pregnant we've gone from a rare chit chat to real personal real quick and it's jarring.

 

[RainbowBaby13]

I get what your saying hun, I would just explain to her and why it makes you feel that way, and hopefully shell understand xx

 

[Perplexed]

I'd just let her know you're not comfortable with this kind of talk. It is probably weird/awkward given your history.