Mother is planning on moving in for 2wks?!!

[NinaAutumn]

So I spoke to my sister today and we were talking about when the baby arrives and she said "Yeah, you should talk to mum because she's booking 2 weeks off just after your due date to go and stay with you"

My jaw dropped! My mum has never been particularly "mothery" and she hasn't even discussed it with me lol. I can't imagine having my mum in the house for 2 weeks. She's very critical and a total control freak. She wasn't even particularly thrilled about me being pregnant and it took her a while to come round to the idea, now she wants to come stay for 2 weeks??!!!

My OH just pissed himself laughing when I told him. He was like "no way!"

What am I gonna do??!

Anyone else got eager parents??

 

[Leesy]

my mum stayed with us for 2 weeks when we came from hospital but i asked her to. She was an absolute god send! I have a fantastic relationship with her though and she is like my best friend. if you dont want your mum there you will just have to honest with her, or blame hubby, say he doesn't want her there and make him the bad guy.

 

[CatherineK]

I love my mom, but no way would inlet anyone stay here two weeks after a new baby. Just let her know you want private bonding time or a bit, and would be happy to have her visit at a certain time, or stay at a hotel, or come stay when he baby is a month or something. You are the one who sets the rules

 

[Aika]

I really feel for you.
I'm not very close with my mother, but I fear she'll just do something of the kind. Seriously, not even bothering to ask for your opinion? I'm sure many new mums would be thrilled to have some extra help... but if it comes unnanounced like that... not so sure.
I personally wouldn't allow it, full stop... but it depends on your relationship with your mother, of course.
Mine doesn't know yet, she thinks of visiting me first time in years right now, but sort of waiting for my father to fix the trip. She never even calls me, father does and then she speaks to me when he's finished. So, I have my reasons, I don't suddenly need her in my life when she wasn't there before.
I still hope your situation is different and if you decide to invite her, you'll have a nice help in the house.

 

[Rainstorm]

My OH was the other way round. He said: after the baby's born we ask my mum to move in with us for two weeks and teach us how to do things... I was like... hmmmmm NO! I will probably appreciate her presence and my mum's presence so that they help me and give me some tips, but I won't have someone telling me what to do all the time!! they were first time mums at some point and no one moved in with them.

 

[NinaAutumn]

I think it will be nice if she takes some week days off to come and spend the day and maybe stay over night once in a while but 2 weeks is too much.

I would be constantly cleaning up so she didnt judge me or think I couldnt cope. I can just imagine having a bad night with the bubs and her saying things like "Why don't you try this or why don't you do that" or even worse her saying "Well, you were a terrible baby so I guess this is karma" (she'd say that as a joke but I am not sure I would find it funny!!)

Isn't it funny though, we're all like "yikes" when it comes to parents and one day our LOs will be saying the same thing to their friends hahahhaahahha

 

[TMonster]

My mom lives 25 min away and DH asked me how much time she will realistically have to spend with us away from work and I said I honestly have no idea. I expect to see her maybe 2-3 times a week for the first month or so for a few hours... maybe.

MIL is planning on coming up for 2 weeks but she is going to spend the night at her sisters in Jersey so she will come by every day early in the morning to help out until late in the evening and then go back. I don't know how bad it will be. DH is taking off work till I am out of the hospital and then spending the first day home and then he is gonna go to work while his mom is here during the day and then after she leaves he will take the next 2 weeks off to spend with me and help out during the day.