Mums of 2 that share a bedroom - when?

[Clairikins]

Hi, my dd1 is 3 and a half and my dd2 is 6 months. At the moment they are in separate rooms but it has always been my intention that they eventually go in together. Dd2 is just starting to sleep through so it is starting to look more possible but she wakes at 6ish and dd1 wakes at 7am. What sort of ages have others gone in together and how did you manage different sleep patterns etc? Any advice or experience appreciated xx

 

[shellideaks]

My two have been in a room together since DS2 was 9 months and DD was nearly 2. They've been great actually They go to sleep easily and for the most part they both sleep through the night. When it comes to mornings, they generally wake up around the same time but if one is ever still tired, he/she will stay asleep even if the other is making noise. They never wake each other up through the night even when crying (I do not understand how lol).

 

[CaptainMummy]

My dd2 was 9 months when she went in with dd1, who was 3 and a bit. Never had any issues, bar the few times dd2 decides to clown around and keep dd1 awake. They dont wakr each other up or anything

 

[Pearls18]

My boys slept in the same room for the first time last night (1 and 4), we're staying at my mum's, it went just as I expected, they fell asleep and slept through fine but woke up earlier than they normally would individually, they were awake at 6.45, I think I'm going to put it off till they're a little older but I would like to do it even though we have enough rooms for everyone as I think it's nice, but maybe till DS2 is old enough that they can chat in the room for a bit when they wake, I don't like early mornings lol.

 

[StaceyKor]

We'll be moving DD2 into DD1s room when she is 6 months. DD1 has slept through every night since she was 4 weeks old so I'm hoping that continues. They both tend to wake around 8/9am most mornings anyway so are on similar sleep schedules. DD1 is in bed by 8.30pm but DD2 generally has her last feed at 9pm so she goes up a bit later xx

 

[Amy2701]

We put DS in with DD when he turned 1. It went fine, they go to bed at the same time, have a little giggle together and fall asleep no bother (bar the last couple of months when DD has decided mummy's bed is more fun! I'm working on getting her out lol). When they first went in together DD used to get up first and DS was usually 45 mins or so later, but as he's got older they wake up around the same time now.

DS is still in a cot, I haven't been brave enough to put him in a bed yet.. Maybe around his 2nd birthday in February. X

 

[x__amour]

DS went into DD's room at 5 months and she was 3 years, 10 months. They're both on 8pm-8am schedules and do well together. We'll be moving soon though and if we get a 3 bedroom, they'll be separate.

 

[SarahBear]

No advice, but we're looking at going in the same room from day one as we bedshare. Should be interesting to figure out the different sleep patterns! Is there a way you could try to work them toward a more similar waking time? Maybe once you start putting them in together, their waking time will start to align and you can adjust bedtimes in order to make sure everyone is getting enough sleep.

 

[leoniebabey]

Given the choice my two would be in separate rooms as it's a total nightmare, we only have a 2 bed so it isnt possible. once they are asleep (snuggled into eachother in one bed) it's fine, it's the before ...... jumping on beds, fighting, winding eachother up arghhh.
They are 4 and 2. They shared fine when youngest was a baby but since we moved house oldest is yet to sleep a full night on his own so the youngest can get woken up.

 

[alicecooper]

Well we've had a lot of bedroom swapping over the years lol.

Lydia slept with us until she was 22 months and then went into a room on her own.

At that point Alex was born, so he stayed with us until he was about 18 months, and then he went in a room on his own, so both Lydia and Alex were in separate rooms.

When Alex was nearly 2 (and Lydia nearly 4) they both decided they wanted to share a room, so they went in with each other.

Jason was born the day before Lydia's 4th birthday (Alex was 25 months old) so he stayed in our room.

We moved house when Jason was 10 months old. It was 1 month before Alex's 3rd birthday and 2 months before Lydia's 5th birthday.
In the new house, Lydia and Alex each got a room to themselves, and Jason was with us.

When Lydia was 5 and a half we got bunk beds. She and Alex started sharing a room again together with the bunks, and Jason (who was 1 and a half) went in a room on his own.

When Alex got to about 5 and a quarter (Lydia was roughly 7 and a quarter, and Jason was about 3 and a quarter) we had another switch around. Lydia went in a room on her own, and Jason started sharing the bunks with Alex.

So at the moment Lydia is 9 and is in the small room on her own.
Alex is 7 and is in the top bunk with Jason who is 5 at the bottom bunk, and they're in the 2nd bedroom.
Nathan is 17 months and is still in with DH and I.
In the new year at some point DH and I are going to swap rooms with the boys, and Nathan will be in with his brothers then, given that the master room is the biggest so the three of them will need the space.

If we had more bedrooms I would DEFINITELY prefer them all to be separated because Jason is the biggest chatterbox EVER and he always keeps Alex awake, but we only have a 3 bedroomed house so there's not much we can do. Luckily the master bedroom is really big.

 

[Clairikins]

Thanks everyone. The thing is, there is currently no need for them to share as dd2 is in the box room but I am pro room sharing regardless of how many rooms we have, and dd1 is really looking forward to it. I just don't want to do it too soon and mess up a routine that is going so nicely. Dd2 hasn't even started teething yet so I've no idea how/if it will affect her sleep. Oh is pushing for them to go in together sooner rather than later but I'm in no hurry.

 

[Mummy Bean]

We havent attempted it yet. Both of mine are poor sleepers. We moved house in March and the house needs a lot of work - So Parker got the only usable bedroom and Doug stayed in with us in the living room (normally in our bed).

The bedrooms just got plastered this week and will be hopefully finished by end of Jan - so hoping to test the water with them sharing - but Doug a pretty poor sleeper (although think that largely down to us disturbing him).

 

[KittyVentura]

Mim and Figgy will share a room. But not until Fig sleeps well at night. Mim is a ridiculously light sleeper so it will all end badly to put a wakeful babe in her room. She has a crib in our room for now and if needs be we will squeeze the cot in there too if she outgrows the crib before sleeping well

 

[aimee-lou]

My 3 have shared a room for 6 months now. Ds2 went into ds1s room from ours at 8/9m once sleeping through. Ds3 then joined them at 11m once sleeping through also. They share well most of the time.

 

[hayz_baby]

Ds2 moved in with ds1 roughly 6 months, the first immediate thing I noticed is it brought them a little closer.
Going to bed is fine as ds2 general lies in the cot awake whilst ds1 is read to we leave and they both settle. Ds2 still wakes for a feed at night and this doesn't wake up ds1 which is great. The problem is the mornings, usually it's early, and one usually wakes the other. They both have a habit of entering a light sleep from 4:30-5am onwards, they still need the sleep but wake so easily and generally are still tired. It was alrite with just ds1 as i could usually resettle him after he stopped napping but it could get noisy. Now with ds2 it's generally one wakes they both wake. Their wake up times can value though.
Soon we will b adding ds3 to the mix as we only live in a 2 bed and are here for a bit. The rooms are large though but have no idea how we are gna make that work