My 2nd miscarriage

[susywoosy]

Hi guys. I've just came over from 1st tri as I'm currently experiencing my 2nd m/c. Had a reassurance scan on Monday, should've been 9 weeks, but baby died at 7. Thankfully everything came away quite quickly and I've been able to manage it at home.

Anyway, very disheartened as this is my 2nd m/c in 3 months. Clearly have no problems conceiving but why can't my body allow the baby to grow? Ist m/c was at 6 + 2 although I am sure baby had died a week or two before as my CB digi never got beyond 1-2 weeks.

I've started researching possible causes and i have two theories... just wondering how plausible you think either could be.

1. I could have endimetriosis. I have always had painful, heavy and irregular periods except when I was on the pill. Apparently conception is difficult with this condition and if you conceive m/c is likely unless managed with pregesterone or a surgical procedure that cleans out uterus.

2. I could have natural killer cells or NK cells. Only came across this by accident after watching a programme where a woman had several m/c's and they discovered she had these and that basically her bodies immune system went in to overdrive and attacked the baby as it was seen as a threat that needed to be expelled from body. Again easily remedied, a simple blood test to see if condition is present and steriods to control the level of NK cells.

I thought both theories were plausible. Maybe I'm just being hopeful that i can take something and my next pregnancy will be fine. Planning on trying again next year after I've had some tests carried out.

Whats your thoughts xxx

 

[annmc30]

sorry for your loses, ive also had 2mc first was last yr at 7wks then i had a mmc at 16+2wks on the 29th july baby had died at 13wks im also waiting for test results to find out if anything is wrong i keep going over n over things its stressing me out i hope u get some answers and get to go full term

 

[susywoosy]

sorry for your loses, ive also had 2mc first was last yr at 7wks then i had a mmc at 16+2wks on the 29th july baby had died at 13wks im also waiting for test results to find out if anything is wrong i keep going over n over things its stressing me out i hope u get some answers and get to go full term

I'm so sorry to hear of your losses. That must have been so hard to lose your baby at 16+2 as we all assume if we get to 2nd tri that it will all be okay.

I'm glad they sugested tests as I would have pushed for that anyway. I suppose I'm just keeping myself from being too depressed by looking for answers that may give me hope.

My worst fear is that genetically, my DH and I won't be able to have kids as there is just something biologically wrong with his sperm, my eggs or my uterus and that we'll never get beyond 7-8 weeks.

I hope yu get some answers soon too and hopefully in time we will both have a beautiful bouncing baby on our knees xxx

 

[kanga]

hi hun, very sorry you have gone through 2 mcs. As you'll see from my siggy, I'm in the same boat and having all the same wonderings as you.

I started reading a book last night called 'is your body baby friendly'. I'd recommend it, its by Alan DeBeer (or something similar).

The book says that mcs dont happen 'just because' (like the docs palm us of by saying). His theory is that there is a reason, for lots of women its down to their immune system. NK cells are one of many ways that your immune system can cause mc.

Having said that, los and lots of girls on here have been 3rd time lucky (without changing anything) and I pray that we are too xx

 

[ncmommy]

So sorry for your loss. I have had 3 mcs and often search the web for answers too. You are lucky you are able to do testing after your second loss. I think both your theories are def. plausible and it is good that you are doing your own research. I have read though that a lot of doctors are not open to the NK theory. I hope you get some answers from testing. I don't have much hope that I will find a reason for mine since I do have a 3 year old so obviously I can carry a child. I just hate when doctors say it is a string of bad luck, I must be some sort of sh!t magnet I guess.

Best of luck to you in your journey!

 

[susywoosy]

Thanks for your replies. I am so shocked to see so many women going through the same thing and having numerous m/c's. Who'd have thought that having a baby would be so difficult.

My DH and I talked about how we spent years trying to prevent getting pregnant and that was our biggest worry as we wanted the time to be right and now the time is right, our biggest worry is whether or not we'll m/c! It's nuts isnt it?!

You just assume you'll get pregnant and all will be fine... never in my wildest dreams did I think I would have had 2 m/c's and be petrified to even try again.

Lets hope we all have some luck and we have a healthy and happy pregnancy soon xxx