My baby wont sleep!!!!

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I have co-slept with my LO since he came home from hospital and I love doing it. But he sleeps awful, I feed him to sleep at 7 or 8ish and then sneak away. He then sleeps till about 11.30. But once I go to bed he is up wanting boob every 30 mins- 1hour :cry: I just latch him on and go back to sleep and he sucks for like 5 minutes and then he's back to sleep. But beinf woken up so often is killing me, im never in a deep sleep and im really starting to struggle. In the day I pat/shhh him to sleep on our bed, or he sleeps in the car or buggy. If I try pat/shhh at night he gets hysterical until I give him boob. Last night I tried to get him down in his basket. I fed him till he was sleepy, then put him in the basket with white noise going. He immediately started screaming, I patted and shhh'd for and half hour, picking up and cuddling every time he got really upset (I never left him). He screamed hysterically, he finally nodded off, only to wake up tens mins later and I couldnt calm him at all, so I fed him and he was asleep in seconds. I cant do it, I cant let him cry like that again! But I need more sleep, any advice greatly received!! xxxx
 
I have co-slept with my LO since he came home from hospital and I love doing it. But he sleeps awful, I feed him to sleep at 7 or 8ish and then sneak away. He then sleeps till about 11.30. But once I go to bed he is up wanting boob every 30 mins- 1hour :cry: I just latch him on and go back to sleep and he sucks for like 5 minutes and then he's back to sleep. But beinf woken up so often is killing me, im never in a deep sleep and im really starting to struggle. In the day I pat/shhh him to sleep on our bed, or he sleeps in the car or buggy. If I try pat/shhh at night he gets hysterical until I give him boob. Last night I tried to get him down in his basket. I fed him till he was sleepy, then put him in the basket with white noise going. He immediately started screaming, I patted and shhh'd for and half hour, picking up and cuddling every time he got really upset (I never left him). He screamed hysterically, he finally nodded off, only to wake up tens mins later and I couldnt calm him at all, so I fed him and he was asleep in seconds. I cant do it, I cant let him cry like that again! But I need more sleep, any advice greatly received!! xxxx

Nawww :hugs::hugs::hugs: for the exhaustion, I remember it well - Amelie fed every hour and a half day and night for about the first 3 months :wacko: Has he got more frequent recently...? Could it be a growth spurt/development stage...? (I seem to remember the first 3 months as one long growth spurt/development stage, lol).

I did try a dummy at night with Amelie in the end when I was getting a bit desperate - she did take it for a night or two but then spat it out never to take it again, but I know they do help some people. I know people have mixed opinions about them and I don't know much about them except that the lovely Dr Sears, attachment parenting super-guru, said that if the 'human pacifier' is getting too exhausted then they can be worth a try!

Only other thing to add is that she settled down quite a lot around 3 months and started sleeping for longer and longer periods, and I've heard that this is a common experience - so you might be nearly there, if that's any encouragement....:hugs:

Hopefully someone else will have some more concrete advice too - have you tried posting in breastfeeding support on here...? There are some super-knowledgeable people on there :flower:
 
If my LO is ever sleeping in our bed he sleeps really badly, he's awake every hour it seems & tosses & turns all night, then is grumpy the next day cause he's not had a good sleep. In his own bed he sleeps all night, & is in a great mood in the morning!

Needless to say he's very rarely in our bed!

I think some babies and people just sleep better on their own, my LO is like that, and so am I, if my DH is ever away overnight I sleep the whole night without waking up! I think my LO likes the space to move around, when we moved him from his crib to a cot bed, he slept better than he ever did.

Might be because he knows you're there, he's waking to be boobed back to sleep? Could you try just feeding him & holding him till he's asleep, putting him down in his basket with something that smells like you in there, like a top you've been wearing? Maybe wrap it around the mattress?
 
I don't really have anything constructive except to share our experience. DD has been sleeping with us since she was 2 months old and the pattern of waking up every hour happened pretty much every night for about the first year. It was still more sleep than I was going to get any other way and eventually I got so used to it that it didn't even phase me. Now she has nights where she wakes only 2 or 3 times, they are rare but do happen. Having said that, this past week it's been back to every hour for some reason. Eventually also she could attach herself pretty well without me doing too much, so that helped.
 

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