My Boss told everyone at work that i am pregnant :@

[Steph182]

ok so i went in to work yesterday and notice people were looking at me and my best friend (who also works there) told me that my boss told everyone on sunday without my permission.

I know hes not allowed to tell anyone with out my permission but i dont know what to do about it

I really didnt want anyone to know till at least 12 weeks
And because im young and didnt plan to become pregnant i just know everyone will be having their opinion, my mum said dont worry about anyone else (but to me thats impossible)

And Hes took away my right and excitment to tell people
I meant he must be the worse manager ever

 

[gemm]

aww hun that's AWFUL!!!

He definitely shouldn't have told everyone!!! you poor thing! are you going to complain? x

 

[Lucy0945]

That is awful. Ask to have a word with him and let him know how angry you are at him telling your colleagues without your permission. Demand an explanation as to why he did it. I would make a complaint to his boss (if he's not top of the chain).

 

[Steph182]

My OH said he is going to ring head office today

I just dont want the stress

 

[BrandiCanucks]

That really sucks. I'm sorry he did that to you. Regarding being young and having an unplanned pregnancy, do not worry what people think and say. I'm pregnant by a sperm donor and I constantly get that I did it to get back at my husband for having a vasectomy, which is completely untrue, but I have to let it brush off. Truth is, everyone is going to have their thoughts and opinions on everything no matter what it is. Let them. If their lives are so sad and empty that they choose to harass you and make judgements, that's their problem.

 

[Steph182]

Thanks ladies

 

[welshmummy2be]

he's not allowed to do that, thats breaking employee confidentiality if i was you id put a complaint in or arange a meeting to disccuse why he told other without your promission...his role should be proffessional, he is not your friend who can clumbsily blurt out you news without being reprimanded for it. i hope you can sort it out so that it dont happen again and for being young (im 21), its your right to choose when you want to have children so just ignore it if you can x x x x

 

[Lamsbump]

i would come down on him like a tone of brick what a twat, Can you go to HR they will certainly have something to say about it.

Dont worry but being young and having an unplanned pregnancy im 27 just married, starting a business, working full time and in the middle of trying to get planning to build a house so trust me these thing dont always come at a good time but it doesnt meant that we wont love our babies or be any less of a great mum to them.

I know its hard but screw what others think, i bet your far more ready for a baby than some people out there.

 

[mummyupton]

oh my gosh what an idiot!deffinately complain to someone...thats awful he did that!hope ur ok xxx

 

[emilyjade]

so sorry hunni! i hope you get a full blown apology x

 

[Tigerlass]

Tut Tut! what a muppet. I hope you complain, He should have kept that confidential! He had NO right to tell people especially without your permission.

Dont worry what others think, As long as you are happy then that is all that matters! Its nothing to do with anyone else! Keep ya chin up, head held high and keep smiling

 

[Peril]

He certainly has no right! I told my boss early on because of the type of work that i do and needed to be moved out of harms way. He asked if he could tell a more senior boss, so that a decision could be made, so i agreed, he then came back to me and said, right we are moving you to this department, and this is what we will say if anyone queries it... are you happy with that?? I agreed, and so far the only people who know are the ones that i have told. If he had told anyone without my permission i would be putting in grievances with senior managers and HR and area and whoever else i could!
It is bang out of order and he should be reprimanded and made to apologise over his lack of professionalism!

 

[Steph182]

Your boss sounds great

Im defo doing something about this but going to let OH deal with it as much as he can coz its a little upsetting atm

 

[Crazy4Emily]

I would be LIVID. It doesn't matter how old you are or what your situation is. That's completely 100% YOUR BUSINESS. He has no right whatsoever to tell people YOUR news. I'd be demanding an apology and I definitely bring his a$$ in front of HR. That is sooo not right!!

I'm so sorry this happened to you!!

 

[juhesihcaaa]

That's total bull. You need to confront him about it. Tell him what you just told us! He had no right to tell anyone that-it's for you to tell when you see fit.
I'm sorry it happened to you but you need to stand up to him and call his boss to let them know what happened.

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

I agree hon you need to complain dont let him get away with it

I had sort of the opposite happen to me when pregnant with DS....I saw the top manager and told her I was pregnant and that I didnt want any of my colleagues to know until i saw fit! A few weeks later when we had had our scan and were happy to share etc I began telling my colleagues! The manager called me into her office and reprimanded ME and asked me what the hell I thought I was doing telling my colleagues I was pregnant without HER permission I was gobsmacked to say the least!

 

[Crazy4Emily]

I agree hon you need to complain dont let him get away with it

I had sort of the opposite happen to me when pregnant with DS....I saw the top manager and told her I was pregnant and that I didnt want any of my colleagues to know until i saw fit! A few weeks later when we had had our scan and were happy to share etc I began telling my colleagues! The manager called me into her office and reprimanded ME and asked me what the hell I thought I was doing telling my colleagues I was pregnant without HER permission I was gobsmacked to say the least!

WOW...that is sooo ballsy!! Why on earth would you even consider the need for her permission??! It's your body, your baby!!! She didn't conceive the kiddo, YOU did. What a nutter!!

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Hon I honestly didnt know what to say to her I just said to her that me and DH had decided we wanted to share our news! She was like you should have consulted me first I am in charge here I think she was on a powertrip she always was thankfully I no longer work there