My first rant. UPDATE NEED INFO ON IUDs

[notmommyyet]

Ok just letting you know once I get started about her I may not be able to stop. So this rant is about my SIL. The sad part was we used to be friends and I introduced her to my brother. Nobody in my family likes her. She is immature and very vindictive. Heres an example. Every year for christmas she tells us what to buy my nieces and then she goes and buys it so when her kids get to our house our gift is a double. She even did it when she said she would not allow play doh in her house so I bought my nieces some cool sets that they could keep at my moms and when they opened it they were disappointed bc they already got it. When I confronted her all she said was she changed her mind. BUT SHE DOES IT EVERY YEAR!

Now what got me started today was I found out shes pregnant. And this has nothing to do with jealousy..TRSUT ME! They cant afford the 2 they have. She is on welfare/assistance and when your child is 5 and starts going to school they make you go back to work. Wehn her eldest (not my brothers) turned 5 she got knocked up. Now that one is 6 and shes knocked up again. It took her a year bc shes on the BC that you replace every 5 years and last January is when she was supposed to have it replaced. and my brother made a comment about how every month she thinks shes pregnant. Im sorry but unless yiou are TTC pregnancy is the last thing you think of. Only when your trying do you over analyze everything. So we know shes been trying. But my brother was adament to not want anymore children. hes told me a million times and she even did at Christmas. Saying my brother would consider it if they could get a boy 100% but even then he knows they cant afford it. So she sneakily got pregnant again. I want to be happy and know cousins will grow up so close in age but just knowing shes screwing my brother is pissing me off. How do I pretend to be happy?

Shes also so screwy that she blocked me from both my nieces facebook accounts. now today she finds out shes preggo and I have a friend request from my niece. I deleted it bc Im not playing her crazy game. Ive been blocked for years! is that not fishy? I am 4 months and she is 2months and I can see family wars starting over how I will be treated compared to her. She is such a drama queen shes gonna try and demand a baby shower like she did for her second child when Ill be having a huge one bc its my first and well both families are excited for ours. my family is not impressed! I have got physical with her b4 and Im afraid her childish ways combined with my anger and hormone issues will send me over the edge and Im gonna hit a pregnant chick. I am a very strong girl and normally I wouldnt dare hurt a pregnant women but I can see her doing shit that will set me off.

Other exaomples of her crazyness is school pictures were done and she gave us either pictures of both kids or just the non biological one by herself. None of his real daughter by herself. when my parents used to stop in and visit shed pick up the biological one and run into the house and lock herself into her bedroom. when my niece was 2 she was asking me why Im mean to mommy and why i dont like her mom. she never witnessed ANY OF IT! its bc nutjob was telling her 2 year old I was a bad person. so many stories. I just dont know what to do!

 

[tinks80]

Omfg I'm sorry this woman sounds like a nutcase! Geez I can understand your frustration etc.

I would just either leave her to go on her merry way as she is & just ignore her crap or just be a very overly polite person to her ehehehe

Way kinda woman traps her BF into another child just wrong really really wrong & I can't women who do that. I feel for your brother though

Hope things get better

 

[notmommyyet]

I always try to be nice to her only bc it makes it easier on my brother and my nieces. My family even suggested he go get snipped and not tell her cause we all knew this would happen. He seems to be oblivious to her devious ways. The day I punched her was over a christmas present. she couldnt find it and told my mom it was ok for her to buy it for my niece. her and I werent talking and I told my mom not to tell her she had given it to me for a gift for her. Since she did I planned on outsmarting her and giving it to my niece a week early. She snapped!!! She admitted she had already bought it and after she left I gave it to my niece. when she came back she chucked it and walked out. She knocked on the door and demanded my mom give it to her when my mom said no she said "give me the fucking doll or youll never see your grandkids again" my mom said see ya. but my when I had a talk about it with my brother he said no she asked my mom to find it for her. So he doesnt see any of her shit. he probably thinks this was accidental too

 

[tinks80]

Omg- your right though he should get snipped n not tell her & if she see his black n blue sore bits, he should just say him & mate were wrestling n he kneed or punched him in the balls

As for the presents don't buy what she says to get them anymore get them something of your own choice or if they're old enough ask them what they like or wish for? That'd piss her off

Who does she think she is speaking to your mum, her mil like that how rude, she would've got more then punch in the face & knocked put with two big fat black eyes from me! That's just disrespectful...

I think this one is to really make your brother see her for who she is, perhaps record her conversations or setup a hidden video camera in the house?

 

[notmommyyet]

well i wasnt there for when she talked to my mom like that I took off cause they called the cops and I returned when she had left and thats when I gave my niece the gift. We did stop asking although my mom told her she was gonna give the oldest cash for christmas and like an hour later SIL calls my mom and say sI talked to her and she doesnt want money! WHo the hell are you to be telling your 10 year old what her gift was gonna be. she likes getting them clothes cause shell wear them. Even the 5 year olds!! Shell wear her sweaters as a half sweater that goes under the boobs. So to screw her my mom bought the 10 year old earrings that are for her age. They were gold but small little hoops. And right in front of my mom SIL tells my niece those are for little kids you dotn want those. No they were just fine for my niece its bc SIL couldnt wear them. see how crazy she is? I dont know how Im going to get through this!

 

[tmr1234]

It sounds like how my sister is but i had a kid then she had to have 1 as she was being pushed out of my mum & dads eye then i had ds 2 so she had another 1 be for i got preg with this 1 she was saying how much she can not wait to have another kid then i said i was preg with #3 and she was like i don't know how nay 1 could ever have 3 kids. Sh can not stand kids even her little girls she stuck them in play school from 3 weeks from 9am-7pm. But we don't talk at all because of some outher thing.

I would do as i do and just take it all with a pinch of salt don't let it get to you as it will wind her up more her not getting to you.

 

[notmommyyet]

UGH but how do I not let it get to me? i am so protective of my friends and family its hard to ignore the shit she does. Tricking soembody into getting them pregnant is an aweful thing, and how do i not protect my brother and put her in her place? I wish i could talk to him but I dont think hed see it. I might be able to get him to see a bit since last year she thought she was preggo so much maybe he would believe shes been trying. BUT if he doesnt believe me its a fight and I lose him. ya know?

 

[Tink84]

It's a tough situation hun but I know how you feel.

My Brothers gf is exactly the same and were convinced she too is either pregnant or trying to get pregnant.

She told me that I better NOT have my child on her son's birthday. My nephew will be 3, 3 days after my due date. I told her no way was I keeping my legs shut!! She's told my sister that if she dares treats my child any different to hers she'll never she him again and there'll be trouble to be had!!! Now my nephew is the only one and so for the last 3 years has been the only one for the last 2 1/2 years and has been ruined by everyone especially my nana.

I think the fact that me and my nana have a very close relationship is really going to pee her off and deep down she knows that my nana will buy extra for me. I'm the only one that bothers with her out of 28 grandkids on a regular bases and takes her out etc. The rest don't. For that reason I've always been spoilt by her.

Your brother needs to see the real her for himself and as you said you risk an argument if you say anything to him. He must know that she has intentionally gotten pregnant.

As for the gifts were repeatedly told that he alreayd has it etc and he hasn't even when he has asked for it. He asked for a Woody and Buzz for xmas. She said he had it. Is that why the Woody and Buzz my parents got him are now taken everywhere!!! As hard as it is ignore her and just buy gifts you think they will like!

 

[notmommyyet]

I think I had commented on one of your threads before. What is wrong with women these days?? I told my mom about my nieces friend request and she wants me to lie and say I denied it bc i dont want kids on my fb. I told my mom no way. Im gonna call her out on her bullshit and say sorry you had me blocked for years on both thier accounts so Im not accepting it now. I want to embarrass her. and let her know Im not an idiot. And my youngest niece had just recently got an account and I sent a friend request and after a while when I didnt hear back I searched for her and she was gone. So SIL had blocked me. So she can try to come up with an excuse but the fact she just did it again in the last few months. AND doesnt unblock me from my actual biological niece but the one that isnt my brothers. is it me or does she not use them as pawns?

 

[ash086]

hugs

 

[Tink84]

It really peeves me off when woman use there children as weapons!!!!!!!

My bro's gf does it on a regular bases and even tried it with my parents. My dad very calmly rang her mum and politely told her that they would be seeking legal advice and would fight for custody - they have had 2 to 3 times a week (over night) since he was 6 wks old because she was struggling to cope.

GRRRRRRRRRRRR - rant over lol

Would love to be a fly on the wall lol if she does ask you why.

Feel sorry for your porr brother and your niece.

I suppose if next time she tries to use them as bait and no body bites she'll try again however if everyone ignores her she'll soon get bored or switch to a different tactic

 

[notmommyyet]

I hope your parents get some sort of custody. She seems like an unfit mother. I couldnt imagine raising a child for somebody just for them to stab you in the back when your no longer needed.

Well my mom already said she can try and use this new baby all she wants but my parents know that I obviously would never do it so they will all the access they want to a my child. And NOW she sends my mom a friends request on fb. I told my mom if she sends me one Im deleting that one too. lol. You didnt want me beofre Im not adding you now. I want to be happy for this baby but knowing how it was conceived just irks me. My brother is on unemployment and she is on welfare. he is struggling with drugs (although he denies it) and they cant afford anything as it is. But now that the youngest is starting school welfare will make her go to work so it was time to pop out another child.
My brother hasnt officially told me yet so when he does Im gonna say (in a nice voice) thought you didnt want any more kids. Im gonna put him right on the spot to see how or if he defends her.

 

[notmommyyet]

Ok so I have a question for you ladies. Shes claiming she got pregnant with a IUD in. I heard those are the most reliable birth control bc your not missing a pill. so my question is either one was never in or she never took out her old one so she could say she still has one in. The wierd part is She never took a test it was my brother who said she was pregnant. but she hasnt had af since November and you never thought to mention you could be? I think she was trying to wait till it was too late incase my brother tried to make her end the pregnany. anybody know anything about the complications involved in getting preggo with a IUD in?

 

[baby_mama87]

God she sounds like a total nut job! I must admit I feel sorry for you ladies when I read these type of threads there's nothing worse than family conflicts!

My friend got pregnant with an IUD she had it in about 2 years when she fell but unfortunately because of how the IUD is placed the pregnancy was eptopic And she had to have a d&c was awful for her, so yeh I suppose it can happen but I think there's a very high chance of the pregnancy being eptopic because of the IUD

 

[Tink84]

Ok so I have a question for you ladies. Shes claiming she got pregnant with a IUD in. I heard those are the most reliable birth control bc your not missing a pill. so my question is either one was never in or she never took out her old one so she could say she still has one in. The wierd part is She never took a test it was my brother who said she was pregnant. but she hasnt had af since November and you never thought to mention you could be? I think she was trying to wait till it was too late incase my brother tried to make her end the pregnany. anybody know anything about the complications involved in getting preggo with a IUD in?

Ca imagine it would be difficult to fall pregnant and if you did would most likely be eptopic.

Chances are she had it out and hasn't said.

I have the implant in for a total of 5 years, first one was in 3 years and second on 2 years when we decided to ttc. However my sister s had her is five year despite it needing to be replaced every 3 years and she never did fall pregnant even though it was classes as unreliable. However the 2nd she did get it out she fell pregnant but sadly miscarried

 

[notmommyyet]

well she said she has to have an ultrasound to find out where the baby is or something and if they cant take it out through her crotch that they can take it out throug her stomache?? Is any of that true? I know nothing about this stuff

 

[kmbabycrazy]

Yeah if they can't find the strings to pull it out they have to remove it surgically.

I imagine that if she really was on IUD it would be classed as high risk due to the high chances of miscarriage/preterm labour/ectopic pregnancy that come with falling pregnant on the IUD. Both keeping it in and removing it increase likelihood of miscarriage.

My guess is she might use "it fell out" as an excuse. This is possible although rare, it would make her not high risk as she fell pregnant without it in and your brother wouldn't have to take her to the hospital for surgery etc.

Whether she's lying about how the baby was conceived or not she still seems like a bitch best avoided to me.

 

[notmommyyet]

UPDATE!! So apparently she is 11 weeks and she went to the docs and pulled it out and they told her to go home and relax. is it really that simple?

 

[esst]

A girl I know who is nearly due with her 2nd had her IUD fall out and she didn't realize, hence the 2nd.

As far as I know, IUD removal is similar to IUD insertion. It can be done at a doctor's office.

 

[susan36]

hi. i got my iud out at y docs office tho i wasnt pregnant .but my sister friend did get pregnant with the coil in and she nearly died he pregnancy was ectopic and burst her tube. i had my coil 6 years and it never fell out . as ou have to keep checking for the strings to make sure its still there and in place ..